Day 1 since my last screw up. So far so good, but it’s usually fine for the most part the first few days. No real urges that feel particularly strong but I can’t be too confident about it
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Checking in, day 694. I’m still having difficulties with setting boundaries with my parents. I don’t let them cross the lines, but it hurts and I don’t see when it will be over already. They don’t do or say anything explicitly, so it is really hard to spot the sneakiness behind their words and also there is no point in doing that. But they imply that I’m bad and insensitive, so it’s hard to stay silent and I cannot avoid it having any affect on me.
I’m slowly recovering from covid, it may also make me more vulnerable. I’m feeling super weak physically too. And next week I’ll have an interview, because I don’t have too much work at the moment, so I applied to a city garden to do some gardening job for free in order to go out and do some excercise. I hope I’ll get better in time.
The wood carving class also started, I enjoyed it a lot. I will carve a coffee mug, as I threw my old one at the kitchen cupboard out of rage during an argument.
I also have been dating a girl for the last few weeks and it really got me thinking of my relationship with intimacy. Lot of work to be done for sure, but this situation clearly helps at least in noticing my defects and triggers.
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Congratulations Miranda. This is HUGE!
I’m so happy for ya!!
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It’s from a smart watch haven’t checked manually, it jumps around a lot, the last few days it’s been constantly high but it typically would only stay high for a few minutes. I’ll start checking it manually. Definitely gonna look into a PCR test too never thought about it. Thank you for all the kind words
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Amazing!!! So proud of you! Here’s to many more milestones
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Day 92
The transformation is in full swing. Rapid changes in my life. I am now separated. I won’t bore you with details but say my marriage came together in drunkenness and has had the thread of alcohol through out our union. I knew if I stopped and he did not the marriage would be vulnerable. I am sad but at peace. I am not angry, but calm. Something I have not experienced through emotional times such as these. There is no guilt or fear. Deep down I know this is natural soul evolution. To stop and accept past old behavior would be insanity. Without drinking I have clarity. I know and can account for every word, every conversation or argument. He cannot manipulate me into thinking his story is accurate and my account is not because I was drunk. I can trust myself. I don’t know where this leads us, but I know it is right. Grateful.
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Pandaaaaaaas 
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Cool girl… you made it!
Congratulations
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Checking in >>
DAY 71 AF
DAY 52 toxfree
I am fine and relaxed…
Day with mum was cool, we made plans for some rearrangement in my house, enjoyed nice Indian food, had a nap and coffee on my couch and watched a very funny movie in the cinema.
There was a man sitting next to me in the cinema drinking a glass of red wine. The smell was unpleasant for a moment and I expected trigger… But then it was totally okay.
Now just relaxing down to have a hopefully deep and healing sleap tonight.
Hugs 
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Milestones everywhere! Congratulations on two years @Olivia! And @Miranda on your 30 day milestone!
Way to go on 4 months @anon53116147!
Keep on rocking it, friends.
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Today marks the four year anniversary of my husband’s passing from cancer. It has been a really lovely day actually. I took my daughter to her normal drama class in the morning and then came back home to have breakfast with my son. I gave his hair a trim and then we collected the little one and headed to a really good sculpture exhibition by Will Maclean. I felt very pleased that both kids were so engaged with the artwork.
Then we did some shopping in town and got a bite to eat at YoSushi. That was fun and relaxed. The kids got enormous ice creams on the way home.
I’m just off the phone with one of my stepdaughters and we’re talking about meeting up very soon.
Glad to be doing all of this sober.
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Hello,
I have done twenty five days in a row. I call it silver weddings of freedom!
Let’s continue in the path of sobriety!
Best luck!
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Checking in
Day 229
I am grateful for this group and those that care. I didnt do a single check in yesterday or this morning and people were already posting asking if i was okay @anon74766472 thank you 
I am okay in the sense of still being clean and sober. But am i okay? Idk if I can honestly say that I am. I am emotionally done. I had fun yesterday with my family at the zoo. But then as im putting my son to bed, i notice hes super warm and he has a low-grade fever. So of course here goes my anxiety and my anger and this n that for his condition and the worry i have about having to go to the hospital potentially. Dealing with people. Fighting for what he needs. His overnight nurse came and she watches him all night. I had an awful sleep. Couldnt take my mental health meds last night in case i had to get up and take him to the hospital. We didnt have to go. His fever dropped. I stayed home from work today to watch him in case his fever came back. I am soo tired. I napped this morning while my hubby was home today. I dont feel myself today. I feel like i wanna scream honestly, like an angry person today and it wasnt good of me to not check in. I dont feel well physically and im just overall upset mad. I have prayed tho but i need to pull out of this. Idk what i need right now. But i certainly dont want to feel like this. Thanks for reading TS fam!
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Im a lil jealous at the wood carving class. I watch youtube videos with it and even got a whittling swiss army style knife with many different blades for wood carving, but it became another thing i never followed up with! Happy for you, hope to see a pic sometime 
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I know I’m late but it’s ONE WHOLE YEAR 
A huge congratulations and well done.
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Hey @Butterflymoonwoman, have you ever done martial arts or kickboxing? There is something extremely calming, about being able to kick and punch in a safe environment (even scream LOL)It is the one place that I could let my pain, frustration, anger and fear go (on top of that you get an amazing workout!) Hope your little guy feels better and you get some much deserved rest
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Very nice
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Thats a great idea! Im definitly into working out again since ive been clean and sober. I actually used to box when I was 16. I had alot of inner built up anger back then and boxing back then helped but i was also very young and immature and just toooo emotional (at least my boxing coach back then told me i needed to get my emotions in check if i wanted to compete as emotions can apparently cloud your focus in the ring etc… idk lmao). Anyway i never thought about getting back to that. I know im veeeeery out of shape for boxing lol but that in itself might exhaust me so much that it would help overall. I never tried martial arts or kickboxing. I think u may have something here tho 
yhank u goe the reminder and the suggestion! Appreciate it!
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@RosaCanDo Congratulations 
Sorry it is late. I will head over to your thread for the details.
@Kdog Congrats on a month! 
@mamador Why not make your own thread and vent away?
@anon53116147 Fabulous job! 
@SadMemeQueen Little kids can be very handsy, of course purely innocently, but triggering things may happen again in the future. Maybe discuss with your therapist?
@Olivia Congratulations 
@Miranda Congratulations
@Tomek Nice to see you. Dating sounds like a big step forward .
@Carriebianco Sounds like you are on the right path
@Deelzebub Glad such a hard day had some positives
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I just had therapy today actually, we talked about some grounding exercises
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