Congrats to @Benwa10 for the first month, and a big welcome to @PrettyBritty !
Day 9 (I think)
just about to go to bed. Have to get up a little earlier for work, as I made it through training pretty quickly, so 7am is my regular schedule now. I’m still not used to going to bed this early. But I’m still sober, so that’s okay. Good night, sober peeps! 
@Twizzlers I love that you didn’t judge yourself for sleeping late and just went with what your body needed excellent job! That is so hard for us to do at times, be compassionate with ourselves. I also love that you were going to do a couple simple things and get back to bed I can relate! I went for a short hike after work, ate and am heading to bed super early. It’s the best I can do right now and that’s ok. Thank you, thank you, thank you for saying such nice things to me! It means more than you know and I really appreciate you so much 
I hope you get plenty of rest and wake up refreshed. Love you pal, super proud of you 
Huge congratulations!!! So happy for you
How are you doing now?
Oh my gosh I know that feeling.The over thinking. My inner voice and self doubt, or what I could have done or should of done- it’s so hard to turn it off sometimes isn’t it??? My daughter is a lot like me in that way too. I see her struggle with worrying about what she said or did and I try to remind her that she’s probably more upset about whatever may have happened than anyone else that was involved. Let it go, forgive yourself, you’re human. If your friend can’t do the same, then it’s really not your problem. I know…I know… So easy to say right? Lol
I hope you find some peace tonight. This is the only moment that matters 
87 AF early check-in
Please don’t feel triggered 
I am feeling so lost this morning! 
Emotional… My heart feels sick.
I have a ton of old patterns coming up,
very loud in my head…
I am not good enough,
I have to be alone,
I am not valuable,
Nobody wants me,
I am wrong.
Sry, had to shout out this somewhere.
Any advises?
Tried some counter thoughts writing,
doesn’t work today.
Have to hurry to work now 
Day #55
Another day, and another opportunity to be grateful for being sober. I’m pleased to have gotten yesterday out of the way, as only a few months ago, I would have dealt with the situation differently, but my sobriety now has me seeing things in a different way.
Firstly, has anybody else felt really irritable since being sober? I’m not necessarily talking straight away, but once the “honeymoon phase” begins to wear off. I’m sleeping well, I’m eating well & exercising 3-4 times a week, but I’m still feeling a bit indecisive, and as though I could flip at any moment 
Didn’t have the best shift at work yesterday, but I’m sensing my triggers before things begin to get out of hand & I’m removing myself from potential threatening situations. I ended up going for my break yesterday at a moment when I could feel everything boiling over, so I removed myself, had 10-15 minutes & returned feeling more composed and clear-minded. Also, a few months back, I would have no doubt ended up finishing work, heading home and opened a few beers in order to calm myself down, but I didn’t do that yesterday; alcohol never even crossed my mind. So, all in all, small wins!
It’s approaching two months since I last had a drink, and I’ve worked hard to get to this moment. Of course, I’d like to help friends and family who may be struggling, but does it make me a bad person to guard myself & to remove myself from doing so when any help I’ve attempted to provide in the past has been thwarted? Of course, I’ve not attempted to force my choices or advice on anybody, but it just feels like some “friends” are beyond help at this stage. It makes me sad, but also, I cannot afford to burn my own fingers at the same time.
Sorry for the rant, but I needed to get some much-niggling thoughts off my mind. Today and Tuesday is technically my “weekend” this week due to work commitments for the rest of the week. Have a great day everybody - ODAAT!
1 week done 
First weekend sober in a very long time!
I have a stinking cold which may have made it easier, all I’ve wanted is hot drinks. But I’m so proud of myself, as is my husband which has been a nice feeling.
Monday, let’s do this.
Stay busy, this will pass
Day 324
Nearly 4 weeks since I last checked in, I’m still sober and still feeling ok, so much has gone on that could have ruined me, but it didn’t.
In the past 3.5 months I have lost a parent, a friend, a pet and spent 3 weeks in hospital having nearly lost my own life through a medical episode.
I honestly don’t even know why I’m bothering to check in if I’m totally honest. I read a lot of posts where people are checking in on others who haven’t been around for a while, concerned and worried about them. I genuinely wish I had that connection with people, I just don’t have that bond.
I was very active on here but closed my account due to my health concerns and the fact that it was unknown whether I’d be coming out of hospital.
I’ll be honest since I returned I don’t know if I’m just white noise with my posts or what. All I do know is since I re-joined 66 days ago after I came out of hospital 1 person on here has reached out, they know who they are. I want to thank them sincerely. It has made a difference and has kept me here in my little corner of the community rather than walking away.
I’m sorry for just ranting, I know support is out there and I know others on here would offer that support. I’m having a dark thought day, I am angry with myself for not contributing more and helping others and I have been self absorbed and now I’m trying to deflect that. I could delet the post and just not post it but that doesn’t help get it out, it just means I hold it in.
Anyway, have a good day people.
I get these thoughts too. We both know deep down that they are lies but let me try to help:
You are good enough.
You need other people just like they need you.
You are a treasure.
You are wanted.
Nothing about you is wrong.
It’s easy for another person to flip these but they are hard to unlearn. Walk carefully today and make it home safe and sober. Sending you a hug.
Checking in on day 9. Monday… just another workday.
Stay strong everyone! ODAAT
It’s ok to feel lost, it means you will find your own path back to what makes you feel good about you.
Your heart is healing, it has to be given time to heal itself. Just give time some time. Recognise your emotions, acknowledge them and if they don’t make you feel good then don’t give them value, acknowledging they are there though is important.
YOU ARE ENOUGH! Nothing else matters!
You do not have to be alone, you’re trying to protect yourself which is natural, you will find what works for you, some people thrive on being alone, others don’t. I love being alone with my thoughts etc but sometimes I wish I had that support I need, even when I’m surrounded by others I love I still feel alone because that is the nature of the beast of recovery, others don’t always know or feel what you’re going through. Look for comfort in those times where you feel alone and know that YOU ARE NOT ALONE AND DON’T HAVE TO BE ALONE!
No matter what and no matter who tries to put you down, know your own value. If nobody else appreciates your value it’s their loss not yours because you hold your own value. Don’t ever feel like you are not valued, your value is priceless. YOU ARE PRICELESS!
Somebody wants you, somebody needs you, this is just your addiction trying to convince you otherwise. It has a hold and tries to coerce you back by making you feel this way. We want you in our community, you offer so much. YOU ARE WANTED!
YOU ARE WRONG, yes you read that right, you are wrong because what you wrote was wrong. I am wrong, we are all wrong. There is a saying “You show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a liar” there are no perfect people, we are all wrong. I dread to think how wrong I am in so many ways.
Sobriety (from whatever addiction) is a gift and it is a gift that not everyone can keep, everyone in here lost that gift but we all fight to get it back we are all wrong for letting that gift go, but letting go of that gift shaped our paths, shaped who we are and made us unique. We are now a unique community or wrong people doing what is right for us to keep our gift.
IT’S GOOD TO BE WRONG BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT MAKES YOU RIGHT AGAIN!
A wise person will learn more from their wrongs than fool will from being right.
My advice for what it’s worth is smile, do what you need to do for you, concentrate on you and nothing else matters!
1227
Coffee. One day off. Slept well. A setback occurred wanting to buy a car to commute to work with. Waiting time for a parking spot in my street is 4 months. Used to be zero. Paid parking without a permit isn’t an option. So now doubting what to do again. Have to park quite far away to park for free. I am an excellent doubter.
Otherwise I’m good. I’m mostly happy with my job again, and my holiday is coming up in two weeks time. I feel I got my addictive behaviour with sex and porn under control for now. Which makes me feel a whole lot better all around. Sober and clean. One day at a time.
Have as good a week as you all can friends. Make it clean and sober or nothing will come of it. It’s why we’re here. Love from my wet little square.
@dani_x Huge congrats on a full week Dani! That’s big! Just keep going one day at a time and you’ll never be stopped.
@AEGFletcher Sounds to me you’re approaching this sobriety stuff with exactly the right mindset, seeing triggers, seeing your own mindset, your irritability (totally normal), as well as your progress. You’re doing great! Also, to use a terrible cliche, we have to help ourselves before we can help anybody else. And another one: we lead by example. Both are very true when it comes to addiction and recovery. Keep going.
@Juli1 Sharing helps. Talking about it with people who get it. Thanks for being here. We help each other. Stay in contact. Big hugs.
Hey all, checking in on day 855. I hope everybody has a good one!
Hello all,
Checking in on Day 1,544.
God Bless!
Yes sir, you did it! One month full of sober days! 
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt. And yes, it is hard that one can’t say it was the booze anymore. 
That sounds like a heavy few months! #understatement
It can be so hard seeing other people have connections that we want. Not just on the forum! But here in particular, it is so busy and so many people coming and going… It’s hard to keep track.
I’m glad you posted. Asking for support can be so hard, for so many of us. We have it drilled into us that we are supposed to be able to manage on our own. But no one really does it alone. And sometimes we do have to ask to get our needs met.
It can be hard to make connections, it’s quite a time investment. But if nothing else I hope checking in helps you remember that you aren’t walking this path alone.
Congratulations for staying sober through such a trying time and I’m pleased to read you are feeling ok all things considered.
