That’s a good one! Should have thought of that.
It also suprised me that at the end of each of their drinking stories they’d say:
‘it’s okay to drink that much once in a while’…
Kind of odd to say that in front of on alcoholic no?
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Well today is my cousins birthday party which usually ends up being a drunk fest. I plan to leave early before all the “fun” starts. I told my cousin I don’t drink no more so don’t offer or expect me to drink. I packed my cooler with some energy drinks and non alcoholic beer-drink (Hop Water) just in case!
Not nervous at all. I got this!! I’ll be sure to check in this time if it even crossed my mind.
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Thank you! 
I’m sorry that situation made you drink again 
It’s such a hard fight some days…
Yeah I should have said something right… but I’m gratefull I was able to control my cravings. Kind of… But I made it through sober!
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Checking in
Day 279
Im feeling much better than I was earlier. Im grateful for the time i had at work to do recovery related stuff. My client went home at 10am so i had 6 hours to myself to relax. I attended an online NA mtg (just listened in), i did a deep breathing mediation, made up a new morning routine to make sure Im incorporating everything I need to in a day for my recovery, did a gratitude list, journaled, and connected to my HP. I definitly dont feel like using right now. Tmrw i wont have as much time during work to do this since my client is coming home, but still i can do a couple things on the way to work. Hubby also got the xmas tree up so we will decorate today after a nice home cooked meal. Feeling good overall. Hope everyone is doing well today and staying addiction free!
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Hi everyone,
Day 12 AF for me.
It’s been going well, I haven’t really had the urge to drink, even with some anxiety rearing it’s head, and a very stressful moment with my dog the other day. She had a seizure and bolted and thought I’d never see her again. We were out bush on a walk, but thankfully someone found her 1.5km from where I was. Normally this would definitely trigger me, but it wasn’t until that evening I realised that having a drink never even crossed my mind!
Anyway, my dog appears to be having more seizures, so no more walks for her which is sad. She has renal failure and was so sick 2 months ago we were about to have her put down. But she just keeps on fighting and is really living her best life. She’s only 7 months and not expected to live much longer, so we are enjoying every day with her that we can.
My partner who used to drink heavily is now 7+weeks AF, I’m so proud of him! He managed to go to a music festival yesterday and stay sober so I’m super proud, but then I made him sleep in the spare room as he was snoring and twitching because of his gout…this morning I feel bad about that. Does anyone else hate sharing a bed?? Lol!
Anyway, I’m off for a walk with my other dog and I’m determined to do something nice with my partner today, maybe even fit a skate in?!
And thanks for the Netflix suggestions people! Keep them coming! Maybe we need a Netflix thread?! 
Happy sober Sunday!!
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@Sabrina80 @Twizzlers I also have suspected PMDD. My symptoms improved significantly when I didn’t have periods, i.e. when pregnant and breastfeeding. I currently take medication to help. There is a thread where we discuss these things
https://talkingsober.com/t/womens-hormonal-roller-coaster/122389
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That’s a new one for me! But I totally get it.
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@residentevil congrats on getting the job 
@PaigeTurner congrats on your year 
@Clarity I’m glad I’m back too 
and it’s wonderful to see you’re doing well 
@Juli1 congrats on triple digits 
and your other numbers
@Ktorres congrats on your week
@SassyBoomer good luck for your scan on Monday 
@HBT congrats on 3 weeks
@Scorpn I hope you can find some time to yourself soon sending strength
@Fiarra congrats on 3 months
@DryIn785 congrats on your week
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@Nordique congrats on all the 8s
@Mali ikr! My brother has Sky so he saw it a while ago and I’ve been waiting so long for it to come on Netflix, I just wish there were more episodes. I heard they are making a movie but I haven’t researched to see if that’s true yet, but it would be pretty epic 
831 days no alcohol.
296 days no cocaine.
Missed yesterday’s check-in. Haven’t had my head screwed on properly. My friend that I cut contact with again a couple of months ago, reached out via a new profile, and I got caught up in caring too much. It never ever helps, and then I feel drained and exhausted, mentally and physically. So I haven’t engaged in convo with them today, my mind needed peace. It doesn’t feel good to ignore someone, but I think that comes from an innate need for connection, which I don’t have with anyone.
Anyway, I’ll be alright. Visited family last night for my SILs bday last week, was a nice visit and I always cherish seeing my niece because I don’t see her anywhere near as often as I wish I did because my brother and his wife have such a busy social life.
Today I’ve had the worst migraine I’ve had in a long time. So I have been trying to nap it away in darkness. Its still not great and my eyes are blurry. It has taken me hours to do my check-in, but I’m now feeling pleased to have caught up.
I hope you’re all having wonderful sober weekends.
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Day 8. I carry on
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I think in about 20 years I’ll have some alone time. 
I’ve been raising kids for 17 years…since before I had any of my own. And my youngest is 4. She’s also special needs so 18 isn’t the year she will go out on her own most likely… But I do appreciate you thinking of me .
I hope you’re having a good day today 
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It’s just the opposite for me. When I’m around drunk people or hear stories like that it makes me grateful to be a non-drinker. Sounds like your brother is trying to defend his drinking. He has a problem that he doesn’t want to acknowledge. It will take some time. You are a great example for him. Well done.
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Day 399 AF
Day 6 no soda
Went for walk this morning. Then went out to breakfast with the fam.
Gonna do laundry right now, and jump on Insanity. Gotta keep the body moving.
We don’t have any plans tomorrow. Prolly clean up the apartment and watch football.
You know what? Not a lot peeps hit me up now that I am sober lol. Fuck it. I have my fam and my kids.
Have a great day/night everyone!
ODAAT.
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There’s this thread:
https://talkingsober.com/t/netflix-hulu-hbo-apple-etc-binge-ideas-please/49254
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Day 40 no substances
Day 170 no self harm
Day 3 regularish eating
Today was stressful. And I think I’m finally starting to feel it.
I got about 2 hours of sleep, got up at 4, went to work where there were two less people than there needed to be. The next 3 (by over an hour each) people were late, the printers weren’t working and the computers wouldn’t update.
And i had to work straight through 7.5 hours before i got one 5 minute break. Worked another 2 hours, and then left and took someone grocery shopping to 3 stores and to get her food. Before i could even drop her off I got a call from my partner that one of my bonus kids (14 y/o girl) got dropped off at my house by her dad but left with a boy to go to his house and didn’t even ask me if she could (I would have said no anyway) and then she lied to me saying she was there to meet his mom, who wasn’t there. So i picked her up and had to discuss how that was a bad idea…before immediately having to run errands for my partner and while we were out my truck finally gave up on the water pump/radiator and the antifreeze started spraying out all over everything under the hood, and smoking and the belts got wet so the power steering wasn’t working, and the battery light came on because the terminals got wet…it was a mess. I didn’t get home till 6 pm but when i walked in my little one was having a meltdown because she couldn’t have a squishy toy (because she would chew on it and eat the pieces) and then I still had to make dinner and wash dishes, help my oldest finish cleaning her room, etc. etc.
Now it’s closing in on 10 and I am feeling overwhelmed.
I did manage to eat today but nothing healthy 
so my ED mind is stressing about that too…
All that, and after yesterday, the urges to SH are creeping up…i just need a hug and some sleep.
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Day 40! Hope everyone is having a good weekend
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Sending the biggest hug possible
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Ah cool! Thank you!!
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Day 259 again
I had a moment to just enjoy something. We did a Netflix double feature - The Platform and Okja. I recommend both those films, and they paired very well.
I at least did 15 minutes of cleaning. No more, but maybe ill go back and set the timer to do some more random things tonight.
Sleep. Still sober. Absolutelu terrifying to think that i used every day and couldnt imagine not. How did i let myself become this way.
only thing i can change is the present.
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Thank you for reminding about the other threads i can go off topic sometimes 
Day 416
7am
I have woken from a dream that is all trauma based i won’t go into details it wont do any of us any good. It was just so real i am hoping in 5 minutes i forget it 
Its rainy heavy, im so glad i did what needed doing in the garden yesterday.
Today im going to try and be comfortable with how i feel until it passes and see how well that works.
Still in bed warm and cozy glad to be up and awake. I had an okay sleep.
Have a great day/night everyone 
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