@Cjp Congratulations to 7 sober month! 
@ReeBee28 I hope you get rid of COVID19 fast! 
@Ktorres You have got some nice achievements on your journey!
@Misokatsu What exactly does a 90 degree bow means exactly? Is it polite or the opposite? 
@Scorpn Congratulations to your half a year achievement! 
@Hollieberry Congratulations to the new job!
@JP123 Congratulations to your first sober month!
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All the best for your grandpa!
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Day 9 early morning. More nightmares and another headache. But instead of complaining, Iāll add to the things we are proud of in 2022:
Decided to quit drinking
Got a big promotion at work
Passed my exam for a professional certification
Met a great guy, and while our relationship may not work out we are really good friends
Continued working on myself in therapy
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Have as good a day as you can friends. Love.
Itās cold. Iām having a bit of a relapse in old negative thought patterns and feelings lately. I donāt feel triggered to use any substances as I am firmly convinced they wonāt help me with anything. I do feel some old coping mechanisms creep in, unhealthy coping mechanisms, taking flight in myself, isolating, obsessing about sex and sexuality.
High time to break out of those negative patterns again. My journey of Discovery towards the better, healthier, happier me takes work. Lots of it and life long. Itās work of love though and I am happy to do it. Actually doing the work itself makes me happier. Writing it down and sharing it helps. I feel it. Love to you all.
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Day 63
I have some minutes left to drink tea and then I have to go to my appointment at the orthopedist. Cross fingers that my spine has no damage yet and that itās āonlyā tight muscles I have. Gosh Iām nervousā¦
See you later sober folks 
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@Planipennia
The lower the bow the politer.
Usually you get these
I got this
And if you really fucked up you have to do one of these
But you also have to do this in martial arts to the teacher. So my kids and I do this every week at karate. But in dramas I see unfaithful husbands doing this to ask forgiveness from their wives.
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Day 904. Todayās a day where I want to say fuck it but I probably wonāt do it because I just donāt. Have a great day everyone, love you guys 
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No spine damage yāall! Iām so happy I try not to cry here in the train 
My spine only has a little extra curve but that shouldnāt bother me.
Edit: now that Iām home Iām calmer. I went grocery shopping and put everything away and there was this sneaky little bastard that whispered to me: now get a drink. It wasnāt even a second, and it wasnāt that I crave alcohol now that this stress is gone. It was kinda remembering the feeling, the ārewardingā myself for doing something good.
My reward are some sandwiches and a coffee and the fact that I did all of this sober.
I won. 
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6 months clean and sober today! Holy shit! I remember the first time I heard āIf we are painstaking about this phase of our development we will be amazed before we are halfway throughāā¦ Amazed is an understatement! Itās only been 6 months bur I remember when it was 3 days and I was detoxing off of fentanyl and NEVER thought I would make it this farā¦ Yet here I am! I have a Higher Power todayā¦ connectionā¦alliesā¦ employedā¦can sit in a room ABSOLUTELY ALONE and itās not excruciatingā¦I donāt wake up with the obsession to useā¦life is beautiful todayā¦I love yāallā¦have a beautiful day!
#fuckfent
#wedorecover
#honesty
#openmindedness
#willingness
#wellonmyway
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Checking in. day 56
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Hey all, checking in on day 902. I hope everybody has a good one!
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@SadMemeQueen Congratulations to 9 sober months!
@Faugxh So true, what you wrote about the pink glasses.
@Twizzlers I hope youāre OK and sound!
@KrispyMac Yeah, 5 months of sobriety!
@Juli1 Do you have problems finishing the work on Fridays, because of the weekend? Good to read, that you are back in the pool.
@Intothesun Congratulations to your first week of soberness!
@Butterflymoonwoman Woah! Very brilliant cake! I love it! 
@Sabrina80 Iām glad to hear your back is fine!
@Misokatsu Thank you for the explanation.
@VeeMaria Congratulations to half a year of sobriety!
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It really is a shame isnāt it. Iām sorry this happened.
Iām glad everyone is ok but Iām sorry you missed your concert. Another important reminder of why we are here, staying sober, one day at a time.
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I havenāt been around muchā¦Just trying to catch up. Iāve wanted to comment on a lot of posts but I realized Iām days behind so I just kept reading. Iām glad I did. Iām so glad to have all of you to come to when I need support. Just by reading your shares I feel stronger and not alone,
December is difficult for me.
In one week I will be 100 days completely Alcohol free. Not one drop. Iāve been trying not to to think ahead to much but Iām worrying about this holiday season. Over the last 10 years, Iāve only made it though one Christmas without drinking. Anyway, my mind starts to snowballā¦staff partyās, family get togethers, decorating the tree(with the traditional appetizers and cocktails) Nope! Stop right there. Here I am, just for today. Not tomrrow, not next week. Just today- I am not drinking.
Love you guys. Thanks for being hereā:heart:
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Morning Check In
Day 293
Today is my 38th birthday. First clean and sober birthday in a while. Im not working bcuz I have that cake to deliver to that Icing Smiles family, so im at home with my son. Hubby went to go and tattoo for a bit. As predicted, nothing is happening today for my birthday. He said he would have to wait until next payday to celebrate (but to be honest i dont think that will realistically happen as his pay will be low next payday also and then theres xmas and he has to buy a few things for himself). Sooo i think im going to try and do a few nice things for myself here at home. Outside of the laundry and cleaning i have to do, I think im going to have lunch at Tim Hortons (I got a gift card from a friend), and then im going to workout once hubby gets home. I think ill have a nice bath later. Go for a walk with my son if its half decent out. Not sure what else. Will go with the flow 
Have a great day everyone!
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Itās awful how itās glorified. So many sitcoms and movies have people walking around with glasses of wine or beer all the time it drives me crazy.
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I hope you can do for yourself what you would do for someone else. You deserve a wonderful birthday
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134 days free from alcohol
115 days free from toxic relationships
25 days imperfect regular eating
Need some help if possible
I am emotional in trouble. Had a swim with my training partner i got to know in summer.
I am not sure how much intimate details i should share here. I just need someone to talk about it. And I am alone. 
How can I explain it. I think itās difficult.
My english isnāt good enough and the space here is maybe not rightā¦
Ok try to keep it simpleā¦
We had a lot of fun and we were and are constantly flirtingā¦ thought we could get in touch more and more and maybe build something like a relationship. Had about 25 swim appointments since end of August. On and on.
Last times we met, we got a bit intimate.
But he is just not asking for a date (not a swim date) and there were moments he could have done that, I gave him a detailed sign. But he didnāt.
His saying goodbye today was super superficial! I just smiled kindly and said ābyeāā¦
Sitting in my car I broke down crying! 
If I tell the storry in a bad wayā¦
- maybe he has a strange personality type.
- maybe flirting was more love bombing and future faking.
- maybe itās a red flag if someone is constantly talking about covid
- maybe getting intimate and not kissing or only soft on the side is more then a red flag and something that narcā¦ use to do!
- and damn, he forgot details we were talking about
- maybe i am still much more codependent then I thoughtā¦ And so this man came in my life. Still work to do.
If I tell it in a positive wayā¦ We just have sooo much fun and everything is so positive.
Fuck. It is not.
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You are not alone.
It was here this afternoon too.
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