Checking in daily to maintain focus #55

[JennyH]

Thanks so much, that sounds like just the kind of thing. Have just signed up for This Naked Mind.

Massive congratulations on Day 472 and what a lovely way to approach your holiday. Hope you have a great time!

[nastya_is_fighting]

Happy birthday!!

[nastya_is_fighting]

Yahoo, let’s go, already one week! I’m really proud of you.

[nastya_is_fighting]

Stay safe please.

[Binx]

I’m sorry you relapsed Jenny, but I’m happy you’re back and making yourself accountable. There is no room for guilt and shame on our sober journeys, we just to have to get back on the horse and ensure we put methods in place to prevent us from drinking again. You know about your sober toolbox. The important thing is that you figure out why you relapsed - how did it happen? The reason why you relapse is very important, because you’re likely to face this problem again. You have to be ready for combat when that happens.

You say you don’t want any more day 1’s, well then, make it so. Right now, commit to saying NO to alcohol today. Your strength and confidence will return as you keep saying NO. You just need to keep saying that.

You’ve learned a lesson many of us figure out the hard way. We can’t drink in moderation. No we can’t ‘drink like everyone’ else, and ‘one drink won’t hurt’ is a lie alcoholics tell themselves to justify their return to drinking. We are addicts, our drinking is, and always will be disordered.

You have some hard work to do, but you’re very capable, you’ve done it before. We are here in your corner, just stay accountable

[Misokatsu]

Day 1058

I had a nice meeting with new sponsor. She has 10 years sober and gave me some things to ponder on today.
One was making a list of my key values, just a few, to keep it simple, and then checking each day to see if I am aligning with them. It was interesting because I sometimes feel bad about doing things (or more usually not doing things) but actually they are not that important to me. I just think they should be.
Second was “Self-esteem comes from esteemable acts” which hit me hard. I have been struggling the past few months really, kinda holing myself up (physically and mentally) and just feeling quite bad about myself and not doing much other than what I have to. If I want to feel better, gotta get out and do stuff to make me feel better. That’s the 12th step I guess.

[Amy30]

Day 172.

Anxiety is seriously kicking my arse here. I eat too much, I sleep too much, I’m in a state of panic over work.

I’m actually loving my new gig. It’s easy, fun and flexible. It’s exactly what I needed. But there’s this little raspy voice in the back of my mind telling me I’m gonna just fuck this up. Like I fucked everything else up.

I’m also moving on from the island on Saturday, so that’s bringing me down a little too.

I feel like a fraud. Maybe I am. I don’t know… I’m just a bit… off today.

[nastya_is_fighting]

11 days clean from self-harm.
8 months 24 days clean from alcohol.
1 day clean from binge.
5 days clean from purge.
1 day clean from taurine.
4 months 3 days clean from weed.
1 year 5 months clean from benzene.
3 months 19 days clean from hypnotics.
17 days being less amout of sugar.

I had psychosis tonight. I saw some bone skinny black shadow with creepy long fingers. It stared at me. It made me a lot cry. Stas, my voice or even a person in my head, tried to calm me down. He lately a lot helps me. That’s sweet of him.
I think psychosis caused me mainly severe anxiety from losing my boyfriend. We argued few days. Now he doesn’t talk to me at all. He seems… To be each day far and far from me. I don’t like it. Mainly because I have feeling he lost feelings for me or find someone else. I don’t know what to do. Is it okay with this after arguing? Am I just taking everything too close? Am I again being a lot delusional?
At morning I already cried. I’m feeling really down. Trying to find some energy and strength to talk about this all with my boyfriend, but I don’t want to hurt him or way worse, lose him.

[JennyH]

Thanks so much for replying. It has taken way too long for me to accept that I can’t moderate, and think that has been my main challenge. Even when I have had a good number of days, I was still bargaining with myself that maybe on “special” occasions. I am sad to have lost my days but equally maybe it was the shock I needed.

[Mno]

How well do I know this voice. We’re making it smaller and less important all the time by the work we do on ourselves. One day at a time. I doubt we’ll ever make it totally disappear, it’s so much a part of us. But we can force it back ever more. By keeping going. By doing stuff that’s good for us. And by surviving through days like this, when we feel like a fraud (lies!) or when we’re off. Keep going Amy. Together we got this

[Amy30]

Thanks you Menno, it is that incredibly annoying nagging voice not letting me fully breathe and enjoy.

In the real world, I’m ok and doing things I’ve been wanting to do for years, maybe a decade. Now I’m actually living the life I want and doing the things that make me truly happy, that goddam parasitical voice is like, ‘Nah fam, this ain’t you. Go get some wine. Doesn’t a cheeky line sound like a good idea?!’

[Mno]

Yes. I got more than four years sober, but every now and then that fucker still turns up in my head. But ever less. There will always be some times when I think I’m not good enough and it’s better to crawl back into a corner, both physically and mentally. To just forget. But I’m not going to. Never again. And it’s you and all my friends here and everywhere who will remind why not and why living our best lives possible is totally worth the occasional crap moments and days.

[Mischa84]

Im super happy today! I passed driving licence theory exam! I know that it’s weird that such an old person doesn’t have driving licence yet but my life was difficult and yeah, it took me a while to get ready. Week ago or so I also had theory exam but I failed, I went there after 2 beers, hangovered and totally unprepared. This situation also showed me that I’m starting to fuck up things because of alco and it’s time to do something with it.
Today is my 6th day sober, last 3 days I run 3km in the evenings (today I think I’m gonna pass cause the wind is craaaaazy here), I try to eat healthier. I want to make my driving licence asap and it will motivate me even more to stay sober.
Thank you guys.
Peace and love!

[crystalclear]

Congrats on passing! That’s amazing! I think it’s very courageous of you to do this. It’s never too late to get sober and make better choices for ourselves.

[1in8billion]

I’m glad you folks are here, there’s so much shared experience in this community…

Feeling anxious after having asked someone’s name and number at work. We met and spoke rather randomly and irregularly and I really, really like her! which doesn’t happen often. But it’s not easy during work I don’t know if it was too soon or spontaneous for her comfort, I hope not but no regrets, rather try than possibly never see her again… I’m still picking myself up, healing and growing so no expectations.

Otherwise I’m doing good back on track, optimistic and determined! The usual stresses at work and questioning where to in life…? I’m considering a whole new country like Canada, and maybe joining the police rather than continuing studying psychology… but let’s see, home is where it’s appreciated most…

Hope you have a good morning, day or night The world is both small and big depending on perception. But I’m grateful we’re here.

[Nordique]

Hey all, checking in on day 1116. I hope everybody has a good one!

[Cjp]

Happy birthday! @mx_elle

[JazzyS]

Loving the numbers!
A very happy 40th birthday

[PinkyP]

Thanks, tnm is really good, I got so much from it. Hope you find it supportive

[Nordique]

Happy birthday!!