Thanks so much for all the love yesterday (and anyday) friends. Another thing that has changed in me is that I no longer believe y’all are just saying it to make me feel good, also that I’m actually worthy of some praise, I deserve it. That’s huge. Working my sobriety one day at a time is a gift that just keeps giving.
Pic is from the botanical gardens of the Vrije Universiteit where I visited yesterday. Love that place. X @Butterflymoonwoman So happy for you both Dana! Happy travels!
Hey Mike, former Dating App user here
People on those Apps focus on the looks, how your face looks, clothes and what not. But they almost never take the time to get to know someone better, they don’t give you a chance.
Guys texted me because I work in the medical field and they thought I’m a Dr.
After I uploaded pictures of me without any filters, 100% me so to say, matches went downhill or I kept on collecting creeps.
Those Apps are designed to keep you there, to let you stay Single. They want to earn money with you.
Do you know what I learned?
Be the partner you want to attract. Be the best possible you. To achieve this we have to work on ourselves first. And then, maybe some day, there will be someone who’s worth it.
If not, then not.
Went to work without my phone charger again It’s just too early guys
The summer finally has arrived in my area, temperatures will go up to 30°C and above. I hate it! I mean it’s nice that the sun is out now that often but it’s too hot for me
Ok, enough crying over things I can’t change.
Only 6 hours of work today and only some routine checks, no special examinations
Less stress, that’s always good.
After that I’ll try to walk home some km, get some nice groceries and then stay inside like a nocturnal animal hahaha
Have a beautiful sober day friends, stay strong
The wife being away meant my routine was a bit changed. I didn’t eat as much, and I went to bed late. But there was no other dysfunctional behaviour. I still walked the dog. Normal stuff.
I enjoy that I don’t click into that solo carnage pattern that was a given when I was alone in the past.
So I’m tired but sober today. That’s not too bad at all.
that’s what I would call a garbage human. you should have replied with: my hair came out naturally - what about your social graces, just born without?
still, if that would happen to me, that would hurt my pride bad and it would probably get stuck in one of my middle layers. so let me tell you: nothing wrong with you. you’re a nice looking man and you obvs have a sweet disposition so. you take care of yourself in the gym which in my personal book quite literally makes up for hairloss in a guy, and you’re working on yourself in recovery and learning to be conscious and open with others about your feelings - all top priority properties in a mate for a lot of women. so: you’re fine. and you will find someone long term. however, Derek is right - lay off the online dating for now. chances are sooo slim it works out and the chances for disappointing encounters like the one you just had are enormously high. I think that’s not worth the risk rn for you. with risk I mean the risk for relapse.
I hope it helped you sharing about this. better out than in with this shit.
Feel like half my routine is back so I’m going with it
I’m going to cook all the sides that can be precooked and reheated for dinner tomorrow I will cook on the BBQ.
That half the work done and tomorrow I can enjoy the outdoors cooking.
Still going slow with myself but still moving in forward direction.
Was very lucky to get a grooming appointment for Polly (dog) so quick on Monday.
Need to do some kind of exercise today, long walk or swim or weights or a jog. Something. That way my routine is getting back on track, I just have to push myself a little.
My vacay is goin pretty good. We took the kiddos to Legoland and the SD County fair. Just chillin. I’m still dealing with heartburn. Couldn’t eat the fair foodies . My doc bumped my omeprazole to 40 mg per day. I’ve been eating healthy and stopped eating after 7pm. I’m still experiencing symptoms, though. Feeling drained AF. My fam sis concerned about my weight. Anyways, I might need an endoscopy. Hopefully it’s nothing serious. This is what happens when you replace booze with caffeine, soda, and junk food. Fuckin hell. My fault.
Other than that. All is good here with my sobriety. Staying focused. Staying busy with the fam.
I don’t know anything about dating apps. Or sites.
She sounded like a drunk witch.
My suggestion is if you’re looking on the Internet or in real life for somebody to focus on looking for somebody sober.
Places where you have something in common. She sounded like she was a part of the meat market.
I know lots of people who have met their loved ones on the Internet, some with lots and lots and lots of mixed interaction beforehand. No shows. Disasters, etc.
Checking in on day 60 last day at work then have the weekend off going to do some training over the weekend as I’ve took the last 12days off from training to recovery from the marathon time to get back to the grind hope everyone is well
Picture from yesterday walk. Still 2 parcels missing, going to contact the senders tonight. Hope they can fix this.
Still sober and wishing you all the same
Amigo! Felicidades on your 600 days, man!!! That’s fantastic. Glad you and the fam are having a good time. Sorry about the heartburn, I feel your pain. Take a look at your intake of high acid foods and try reducing. That’s helped me a lot.
I guess you already got the most important feedback. From my experiences: I went there with the pictures I liked from myself. Never got much feedback. Asked my friends and showed them the pictures: Hmmm, well, yeah you know, mayb5you should put other pictures where (that’s me now: look nothing like yourself). So I stomped off yelling that again I don’t fit in. But then again: if that is what I have to show and I don’t have this, this I probably not a community I want to be part of.
Again a lot sleepy. How I said yesterday, my boyfriend has filming today, so I will be at home by myself until 9-10pm.
I planned to go to the library but I feel tired, so I will stay at home, do work stuff for my job and then take a nap.
Day 16. I seriously appreciate all of your responses that I read this morning it was all very insightful and just helped me see alot more. The apps gone and I’m moving on. I’m happy it’s Friday, have a work out session with a buddy that lived here. We were like brothers when he was here and we haven’t talked much scince he moved. Honestly I was jelous of him for getting a apartment through the program that won’t help me. But I’m over that too. After @Englishd called me out on falling right back into that behavior I noticed there is a lot of behavior that needs adjustment, I need to get back to my gratitude list and If I say Im gonna do something then I need to actually do it and put the work in. I notice myself feeling very stuck and confused and honestly it’s kind of hard to put it the work in when I really have no clue what to do. I’ll be honest I almost don’t have a desire for school, part of me thinks it’s because of fear tho. So I’m like alright well if you don’t wanna go to school then you need to find a job and I’m struggling like fucking crazy with that bc I don’t just want some dead end job that I’m going to hate the rest of my life. Yes I get im not gonna like any job but I would like to find one that I enjoy waking up for. And that’s where I feel being a counselor and helping others would be very nice. But shit Idk first I need to be able to help myself, I’m not beating myself up but I definitely see where I need to put in some work. The hard part for me is doing It. Yeah I’m not sure if any of this made any sense lol but much love
It’s just too early guys 
. My doc bumped my omeprazole to 40 mg per day. I’ve been eating healthy and stopped eating after 7pm. I’m still experiencing symptoms, though. Feeling drained AF. My fam sis concerned about my weight. Anyways, I might need an endoscopy. Hopefully it’s nothing serious. This is what happens when you replace booze with caffeine, soda, and junk food. Fuckin hell. My fault.
