41.48 hours no vape
9.57 days sober
I’m trying not to focus on the vape withdraw
Today will be just fine without the vape. It’s not a nessesatty. I don’t need it. I’m already feeling healthier. I have much more time on my hands.
Stay strong everyone
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1409 days without alcohol
2.18 days free of disordered eating
Working the steps again with a new sponsor has been life changing. I’m on step 5 and the saying that more will be revealed is absolutely true. If you’re in AA or 12 step program and you haven’t re-worked the steps, I suggest giving it a go. It’s been pivotal to my recovery from not only alcohol but recovering from life. 
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Man I cannot relate with what you are going through – just want to give you a big hug 
and let you know that it will get better.
I find it best to always have the app handy and ready (check in multiple times a day even if it is just to read) – this keeps you connected and hopefully won’t be a second thought when you are in need of urgent help.
Stick with the sobriety my friend – you DOC will definitely not make any of your other symptoms better. We are here for you! Sending you healing and loving vibes my friend!
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You are allowed to be happy, whether that is together or separated. If you’re not in it together then you’re not in it at all.
I’m not saying leave, I’m not saying stay, he has someone else and has children but you have children together too. Unfortunately there is always going to be heartbreak because you can’t have everything you need or want and a relationship which has those kind of dynamics there is always going to be the feelings of someone being put to one side or disregarded. What I am saying is you need to do what is right for you, your mental health, your happiness and your life.
You’ll always be connected to each other regardless because of your kids but surely you all want each other to be happy and the best version of yourself for each other and your children.
It will be a difficult choice but if you move on you have that right and he has no right to get pissy over it when he has been living that life already.
It shouldn’t be about levelling the playing field, it should be about you being happy.
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@Hisharleyquinn1318 How are you doing today? I do hope you are able to have an open discussion with your husband and state that you are no longer ok with the polyamorous situation. You do deserve to be the only one in your relationship and shouldn’t have to share your husband. Wishing you the best of luck with your journey – do know we are here for you. Hope that you are able to make it to a meeting today (in person or on line). Oh I just saw your latest reply – that is a complicated situation for sure. Is this polyamorous situation one sided? That doesn’t seem fair imo. Sorry if I am overstepping love but you are a beautiful woman and deserve to be treated like a queen. Even with the kids he can still break off the relationship with his GF and be a dad but be a faithful husband to you? I don’t know the situation and am an outsider but do know you are hurting and this can not continue the way it has been. Sending you comfort!
@brokernwolf congrats on your 600 days!
@mischa84 Well done – now 3 weeks AF! With 4 little ones around I can imagine missing school and playgroup – Sending you strength for the exhaustion. Sure you are making some amazing memories with the kids. Well done with the fitness challenge as well
@sco well done with day 2 and a solid plan to keep with your sobriety. Keep it up and yes it is a blessing to start living life without the poison.
@pat_m thank you so much for sharing your story – how lovely! Absolutely amazing to be someone whom others can talk to and count on!
@chase.e.u How lovely to start a weekly date night! Sorry you were ill again. Wishing you a healthy Thursday!
@sabrina80OOH – love that you are getting out and enjoying yourself – hope you had a lovely date Sabrina
@sissychris39 well done on your 2 milestones — you are kicking ass my friend – keep up the amazing work
@anon15828629 Sounds like an absolutely lovely day of getting shit done and taking care of your own mental needs as well. Day 5 is looking good. Appreciate the shout out – we are part of an amazing community. BTW – you still owe us a pic of your tattoo (lol) – I am curious to see how it turned out.
@katiee Well done on your 25 days! We are here for you if you would like to check in daily or multiple times in a day to stay accountable – I know vacations are hard enough but family get togethers (especially after so long where everyone will be celebrating with a drink) can be very difficult – not impossible. Go into the visit with a clear plan – have your go to non alcoholic beverages ready and also have an escape route for when you feel overwhelmed (even if it just to go into another room to breathe for a minute). Above all – have a marvelous time!
Checking in on Thursday morning -
I am catching up here and keeping my mind and hands occupied (lol) - watching some stand up comedy to keep my funny bone happy. have made a list of things to get done today and hopefully i will be able to accomplish this.
Have a wonderful sober day everyone! Sending much love 
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@RosaCanDo @Mno the concert went great, well except for the drunk guy behind us who spilled his drink on my wife and was totally out of it. It wasn’t funny but I laughed at the irony because I used to be like that guy and at one point they were both passed out in their seats 
I really did enjoy the concert more without drinking. They did have some N.A. options there but I didn’t even bother with that. I just had some water and diet soda and enjoyed my evening. I’m also very thankful I get to wake up and not be hungover driving back home this morning and feel terrible for people that do have to be hungover. Thanks again for your support 
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Thank you so much! It feels great kicking addiction in its ass!
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Doing a little better today. Taking my son to the doc and trying to get to the local meeting tonight. It seems one sided. Telling him anything and wait for the pin to drop and get the explosion. I’m scared to even tell him about going to meetings. Finding my footing day by day.
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Woo-hoo!! Look at you! Keep up the good work.
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Sounds like a success to me! Well done! Sorry about the spilled drink, but it certainly happens.
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Thanks so much!
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Glad to hear that you are doing better. I do think the more sober days you accumulate - the stronger your footing is going to be. Maybe also try some positive affirmations to get your confidence in yourself back up. This may help give you the strength to have the difficult conversations with your husband. Until you feel comfortable in talking with him do keep working on you and do take time to give yourself some love and self-care!
Here for you Frances - You are stronger than you think!
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Day 39 I think. My days are blending but I haven’t used and that’s what I’m focusing on. Made a doc appointment today gotta wait til oct though.
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Wow way to go on your milestones! Great work!!!
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Have a lovely day friend!!! 
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Awe – you too Dana – hope your day is starting off on a positive note.
keeping my fingers crossed for the test results - hopefully you will hear something back today.
Here’s to an amazing day for us all!!! 
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Just checking in 
today is 10 days sober, the night sweats are reducing a lot thank God. I’ve been bummed my ex didn’t come running back after I apologized for him is probably the millionth time in 3 years. He did say he forgives me though and at least he finally replied back. I know it’s selfish to expect him to come running back but I’d give anything to remain codependent on him. I recognize it’s all for the wrong reasons but searching for that comfort is all that my body and mind wants. Just soothe this icky, antsy, guilt ridden, anxious feeling 
Secondly, later today we’re flying out to the Ozarks. My daughter is beyond excited but I planned this trip with lots of drinking in mind so lake days, shows, and the amusement park I’m doing sober. I’ve been to 10 countries and 15 states but NOT ONCE have I been sober on a vacation. I’m uneasy but brought books, and got AA zoom ready in case it gets too much. My mother in law I’m also going with is a wine lush but she was happy to hear I’m sober so she’s not going to drink around me at the show but at the lake everyone I’m guessing isn’t going to extend the courtesy. I do enjoy Heineken 0’s so hopefully that’ll take the edge off. Growth I never imagined could be so lonely and isolating. Thank God for this app. 
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Checking in on day 163 sober. From kids camp!
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I absolutely love your compassion for everyone! Thank you for the advice, having the community on here will help me tremendously 
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You are most welcome my friend - appreciate being on this journey with you.
So glad to hear that - i myself wouldn’t have made it this far without the support of this lovely community.
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