Maybe a time out instead of cutting ties? It may be good for the both of you to step a bit away from the fire for a while.
My father cut our ties 17 years ago, I have never seen him since despite I tried to contact him.
It traumaticed me 
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I will hold on to that view and step back a whileā¦Iāve made it repeatedly clear he is welcome here at any time. He remembers where i am when it comes.to.crhistmas and what he wants but doesnt send me cards for Christmas ,birthday or fathers day. But i will step back like u suggest
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Day 222.
This is one cool number so I had to check-in before heading into my work bubble.
Hope you all have a wonderful addiction-free day 
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I had to Google his age cause I thought heās like 65yo or something (so was surprised heās 55 years sober). Heās looking good.
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Amazing for 79, eh?
Right on!
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Congratulations on 5 years, wowzers! 
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Iām on day 3, feeling so empowered because of the connections Iām making in sober circles. Iām going to a couple of meetings a day which is helping tremendously. My wife and I rarely eat dinner together due to schedules and I donāt like to eat alone, so I found a 5:00 meeting online and ate while I listened, which was so nice.
I have a couple of questions: What does ED as used here mean, and do people abbreviate sober time as TS or is that something else? Thanks 
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Hey all, checking in on day 1166. I hope everybody has a good one!
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Hey hey,
Checking in on day 7. Wish you all strength.
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Checking in for day 31 AF.
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Not yet! 
18 september is my sober date 
But nearā¦
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Very well done, Beautiful
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Days PMO free: Day 21
Days with PS5 in the closet to close the day: 29
Days went to bed the same time with my wife: 29
Good morning all.
Last night, i started to feel myself get overwhelmed with negative emotions/shame/guilt. It was kind of overwhelming until i understand what my brain really wanted: Dopamine. It misses that fix as a 20 year addict, even 21 days free itās like crying out for that trash. Itās like once i understand whatās really happening to me, i smile. You dont have power over me, not today anyway, i see what you want, and instead of giving you that trash, i give you CONNECTION. I talked to my family, friends, not about me, ABOUT THEM. Then last night, just layed in bed and watched shows with my sons and wife. Itās this formula along with TS and all my tools, that can get me to 365 and beyond. Iām fighting selfish/self absorbed behavior every single day. I have to have a counter to all my non-sense. My counter is connection and focus on others. This morning, grown man sitting up on this keyboard with tears in my eyes, just happy to be on here and working thtrough my struggles. Yall have a great day.
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Day 92. Well last nights tattoo did go well, but i was sitting there looking at it and i am happy, but it needs some more shading lol. Im so picky and i knew that when i was doing the tattoo, but we both kind of wanted to get the color in. Itās ok even tho i colored it i can still go in and do some shading. So we will when it heals.
Getting ready for my zoom meeting, not to nervous but i really need this assistance to stay active for me so i can focus on school and stuff. I mean if not ill do what i have to do, and then tomorrow i go for orientation from 12 to 4 at college and idk, i just am struggling with it, like Iām so scared to get up and actually do it, i just need to keep telling myself i can do this, I will get through it and i will do amazing. So yeah much love everyone, my girls are coming down today bc they are picking up the camper to bring it home and weāre all going to go out for lunch. My mom was nice and wanted to me to come home until Sunday, but i just canāt bc of orientation i dont want to miss it. Talk to yāall later. Well editing my post, got on zoom and nobody was there, it said her name and I know i logged on correctly, so i called and she said she had been sitting there for 11 minutes, I felt like this was going to happen, i know I logged on and it just sat and spun and said her name. I hope i dont get in trouble for this, she scheduled me a new appointment for Monday, but still Iām scared now wtf.
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I still want a drink, I still want a cigarette at break time at work with everyone else and the memories of getting high on numerous substances are very glamorous, oh the good old days!
Still an alcoholic, still sober.
The mind is a beautiful yet dangerous tool. It will make you do things you donāt really want to do, remove pain over time and expect you to repeat the whole process again.
Keep your tools sharp.
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Day 82 and itās been a little bit of a struggle. I went to my daughterās harp recital last night and despite having my phone turned to silent my alarm to remind me to take my evening meds went off. I know itās not the end of the world but it made for an awkward feeling for the remainder of the performance and I woke with tension in my shoulder. I had been going to meet up with a friend today but he cancelled. I had been looking forward to seeing him as he lives out of town now.
I had an electrician to the flat to install a new bathroom light, which went smoothly and then I continued on with the tidying. That took a lot of emotional effort today but I still got another bag of junk into the bin. I then went to the place I donated some old clothes to as they give you tokens in return for your donation and I picked up some plain fabric that I intend to decorate and then make into tote bags. I already put the sewing machine out and I think Iād like to treat myself to a day off from tidying tomorrow by being creative.
Iām now taking a bit of time out in a cafe before the kids get home from school. I brought two pens with me so that I can do some sketching.
Wishing everyone an addiction free day.
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