Thanks @Dazercat - always feel so much love from the amazing sober community, and no one shouts at me for going and coming back (we all know our own self-criticism and that of our partners is probably stronger than anything else). Actually my partner has been amazing today. I asked him to just cuddle me, and give me love today and that I will be thinking and reflecting on my behaviour and drinking. I ordered us a takeaway and we spent time cuddling the cat. My life is too valuable to keep the booze. Hope all well with you and your journey. I will keep revieiwing everyones helpful recommendations.
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Sugar cravings are huge ā¦I went for dark chocolate and ice cream. Our body is trying to replace all the sugar we were getting from alcohol. I went with the surgery stuff and found it month 3 it died down
I can understand not being able to remove all alcohol from homeā¦I too kept it out of my sight and added many la Croix and seltzer water drinks for my go to.
For the beginning stages (until you start feeling comfortable) maybe stay away from friends/ triggers if possible. Always have a plan in mind if you do have to socialize.
We got your back hereā¦glad to see you so determined for your recovery 
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Hey there 
I was a blackout drinker too. I can tell you your drinking was worse these past couple years bc your disease is progressing. It isnāt ever going to get better. You could go months without a drink and pick right back up where you left off. I know bc itās happened to me many times. I know and understand this and thatās why my advice works, for me at least.
Tell yourself ānoā. I know itās so simple I almost find it ridiculous to suggest, but that is what saved me in the beginning. As soon as I felt the inkling to go to the store I said NO. Usually outloud. Or in my head as many times as it took. āNo. You know what will happen. Youāll regret it tomorrow. Just no.ā Use that hatred you have towards alcohol. It is your enemy. Keep that connection alive every day. Do that until youāre in bed, and you got another day under your belt.
The more days, the easier it gets. Even today, at 284 days, I still have those thoughts, how easy it could be to numb things, but I still shut them down with NO.
This forum, along with AA, is a lifesaver for me as well. Donāt be afraid to share and be truthful. You will be understood and accepted. Have patience with yourself, and with time, things will fall into place. Welcome back 
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319 days sober. Just planning to hang out with the fam and do some housework. Maybe get outside at some point. Feeling the starts of some joint/muscle aches and headache. Not as bad as a hangover. I donāt get sick often and itāll pass soon. Have a good day, all.
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Day 648 and its a day off. Iāll start it off with books and coffee.
I had a quick Thanksgiving on Thursday and my husband skipped it completely so today we are going to make our favorite Thanksgiving sides. Itāll be mashed potatoes and gravy and green bean casserole from scratch and Stove-Top stuffing from the box (the box tastes better, fight me 
). We had to buy the pork stuffing which happens to be vegan because my husband is vegetarian. That feels like one of those childrenās games where you match the animal to its picture but none of the right ones fit.
I think the day will be pretty lazy. Weāve been watching the old Mad Max movies and Beyond Thunderdome is next. The first two were GREAT, a little rough if you are a sensitive softie like me but very entertaining. I love a motorcycle chase and any excuse for an extravagant costume. Maybe Iāll wear sequins while I cook in honor of Tina.
I feel settled in my soul today. Onward! š©¶š©·
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Day 155, took my parents and rest of family out for a Sunday roast today. So good to see everyone together
Driving back to Cornwall tomorrow. And have Tuesday off as I could do with a day at home to chill after however the journey goes tomorrow
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I think you are on to a really good thing putting the work in, especially meetings and therapy. I was Sober for a year plus (which was magnificent by the way, so lovely) then started drinking again. Since then, May/June time and over the last 6 months Iāve been on and off, 50 days off/ 30 days offā¦ Now on day 6 again.
Iāve given up now on trying to moderate, whatās the point, it doesnāt work. Itās a sick carousel where only you will hurt, and you find out hard to stop it. If you truly want to start somewhere, then start by drawing a line in the sand. I canāt help with anything to do with moderation, because, quite honestly, itās bullshit. For me.
Stick around and share with us, we are here to support you. Glad you are here
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Congratulations on 200 days 
X
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Gorgeous pics @Mischa84
Hope youāre doing ok x
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Hiya Freckles. Great to see you back here. Excellent advice from our friends.
I just wanted to add that for me, getting through the early days was through reading. I read loads on here, every day. I also educated myself on how alcohol affected brain chemistry through podcasts and books. Itās hard to unknow what you learn, if you get me.
Hope to see you around X
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Again, Iāve not been checking in for a while. I am fine, maybe a little stressed with the run up to Christmas. And a few things just didnāt go to plan recentlyā¦ for example: who breaks down with a brand new car? Less than 300 miles on the clock, less than two weeks after picking it up from the dealership? Wellā¦ me of course!
But Iām 265 days AF okay. But even better today marks 12 years that I stopped smoking.
Wish you all a great sober day with lots of love and contentment.
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Second check in today. Iām feeling more settled now. I managed to get out for a walk and just to be outside for a bit. I bought pesto sauce for dinner which is so easy to prepare but the kids really love it. Iāve been playing guitar and singing and I even got my daughter to join me for one of the songs. Sheās feeling better from her viral infection so she should be back in school tomorrow. Thankfully it seems neither my son or I picked this bug up. Iāve just lain on my acupressure mat for 20 minutes or so and itāll soon be time for bed.
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Back to old trains, when I did everyday daily check.
As usual insomnia is with me. Meh. But this day is good. Feeling good in these days is for me some rare shit honestly. Depression and PTSD is kicking my ass a lot lately.
I did a lot of homework for today and currently finishing essey for Czech language lesson. We have to write some story, so I decided to write about a man, who met a satanic cultā¦ Please donāt ask me. My fantasy is sometimesā¦ Weird. 
As well I drew few arts and added some arts to my ArtStation. Itās website/app, which is kinda digital portfolio. I long time wanted to make there my own, soā¦ Today I finally did it.
Otherwise then that thereās snowing in Czech republic. Itās a lot sweet and makes me smile honestly. I love snow. Tommorow I need to buy new toy for my dog Dizel (he broke his toy), so I canāt wait to play with snow.
And how are you all?
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Day 12. Well I set my alarm for 730 this morning and I heard it go off, I shut it off right away. I donāt know y Iām so afraid to go to church but I am. Other than that I slept all day, I did go to the store to get some milk and chocolate milk and some food. I ate and now just relaxing. Tomorrow I have group at ten. Idk much love, hopefully I start putting in some serious effort to changing
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Second check in on day 10.
Bad cravings. My emotions are raw and intense. I donāt feel like I have anyone I can talk to. Iāve been dating someone but thatās turned into a source of stress. I feel like my kindness is being taken advantage of. His life is a mess and Iāve been trying to be supportive but itās like heās not even trying to improve his situation.
I know drinking wonāt fix any of that. I just want to check out for a while.
And Iām stressing about new job offer. Itās a big step up in responsibility and Iām full of self doubt. The pros of taking it definitely outweigh the cons, except for my horrible insecurities. I worry I wonāt be able to do the job. I need to give them an answer tomorrow.
OFDAAT
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1y 2m 8d AF
Just wanted to jump on and say thanks to everyone in the community for help keeping me accountable and inspiring me do not only stay AF but also to be better as a person day to day! ODAAT Team.
Much love sober Whanau
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Day 40. Productive day. Had a good get-together with my sponsor. The plan is to approach the 4th step with a focus on why I went back out. I haveva few ideas on the why so I need to do some deep searching so it doesnāt happen again. Have an awesome night my friends!
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12 years no smoking!! Hoy smokes 
This is amazing friend and your 265 AF days ā totally crushing the sober life! Sorry to hear about your new car. Hope they fixed the issue and you will have a safe vehicle.
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So great to see you back on the check in thread ā back with us. Glad to hear that today was better for you.
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Karen I am wishing you well with all the stress you have going on right now! Itās hard when you donāt feel you have someone in your real life to talk to when the going is rough. You can vent here and reach out and Iām glad you are doing it and protecting your sobriety, but I know it isnāt the same. Keep strong anyway. You deserve happiness and peace of mind . I do hope all goes well with the job offer. Keep us posted! Love and strength to you.
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