I love your fashion updates so never stop those BUT… instagram is a scam created to ensure that you feel bad about yourself. The feed is designed in the same way that slot machines are designed to hook the brain. Negative emotions are more powerful than positive emotions - the same reason that broadcast news covers bad news stories. I have never met anyone who was LESS happy after turning off social media
Life coaching? Also for the most part a total scam. There was a massive one here in the uk called Lifehouse which became more like a religious cult. You sound at peace now and that’s awesome for you!
I felt hungover yesterday. Doubting the descision to stay sober one day at a time… doubted for how long could do this before i would drink again…
‘Probably this friday night or sunday at a wine and cheese birthday party my girlfriend and I have been invited to’ said the voice in my head.
So I deleted the app once again and descided to keep on drinking.
Then the sun came up on a rainy morning here in Belgium.
Woke up, got our daugter ready for day care, dropped her of, came home and made myself some breakfast. And then the other voice appeared back in my brain… ‘what if our plan this time is only one day at a time?’
One day at a time. No ‘I’m never ever drinking again’ kind of thoughts that would some how haunt me after a few weeks or so.
Just one day at a time.
So I re-installed the app and started writing this post cause I felt I had to.
Thanks for reading!
Hope you all have a good sober day
Thank you, I’m happy to hear that
I’m not a huge fan of social media, I use Instagram mostly to keep family updated about what’s going on. And follow some accounts like the life coach I used to follow. You have to beware though, because you’re absolutely right. All you see is the good side if everything, the great adventures, the beautiful highlights. And not the hard reality, that’s not picture perfect.
I have a FB account but I don’t really use it. Because honestly I don’t care about if one of my High school classmates I haven’t talked to in 25 years have bought a new sweater. And I see no reason to even keep them updated about my life
Yes,life coaching. You get help from someone who’s supposed to make you reach your goals,get your dream life and be a better person. It doesn’t really work. I’ve tried. It especially doesn’t work if the life coach is the total opposite of you, from a total different continent, with a different lifestyle and wants you to help them reach their goals instead.
Lifehouse? I’m going to check that out. I find The psychology behind cults scary, but really interesting. Maybe because I was raised in a religious one. It’s so strange to me that adult people actually join things like that.
I’m definitely at peace at the moment. With everything. Not sure I’ve ever been that before. It’s a nice feeling. It’s nice to know that you don’t have to go big or go home to succeed. It took time to realize but at least I did it eventually
Amazing what a clear and sober mind can do.
Work today got suddenly canceled so I ended up with an unexpected free day. It was worried the sudden free day would get my anxiety going again but it’s been nice. Have been getting some chores done and catching up on a translation project I’ve been neglecting the past few days. I feel proud of myself today for doing well keeping sober these past days. I’m nearly to my 2 week mark. I never really thought about that being good for me because I would go days, weeks or months without drinking. But then when I’d get stressed and too anxious I’d go into a binge. And more recently the times inbetween were becoming less. But I’m proud now to be 12 days sober.
Day 2 went well, currently up later than i would like and im sure im gonna regret it tomorrow, but the good news is i have tomorrow off. Its 4am, not sure why im not that tired yet. Going to get in bed nonetheless. Kinda just want to keep eating and im not a fan of it lol
So you got almost a week to plan out how you’re gonna stay sober. Search out a few meetings in the area that you’ll be able to get to. Even if it’s not your thing just to be around other people in recovery. Find a book or a recovery podcast you can listen to on your free time and try and finish it. And take your phone with you so if you feel like you need to, you can reach out on here day or night.
136 days
Had a good day. Nightshift last night quieted down and managed to get a good rest in. Spent the day with the kids, and got some good 1on1 time with the youngest.
Back at work tonight and started with some training for one of the guys. Went well and although he’s reluctant to learn it I think hes coming around. @Juli1 where I live 35min drive is a regular occurrence just driving around the city, but I guess it’s all relative to what you’re used to. Try to reframe the drive as an opportunity. To listen to a new album, or podcast you’re interested in. Good luck with getting as many swims in as possible
Day 297.second check in. Just having a coffee. I read someone’s post saying ‘we all have another relapse in us but not necessarily another recovery’ and that just hit so many bloody chords with me. So scary. I know it took me three years this time to stop again. Three years. But only one drink to kick start all the rubbish
Im going to hold onto that quote. That’s a shi# load more powerful than saying ‘well what harm can one drink do’ its a knock out response. I may never get back to where I am now? So scary.
Good morning! Checking in on day 204 af. Today we are off and running with baseball for 2 of my grandsons. This week is Tuesday through Friday.
Today I am going to a meeting, and meeting with my sponsor. I’m currently working step 4.
Suppers this week will be quickies as we have to leave at 5:00 to get to the games.
Today I have a fruit salad dressed with vanilla yogurt, broccoli salad, and jalapeño smoked sausages. Going to throw those on the grill for a quick char! I hope everyone has a great day!
Checking in early on day 279… a shout out to a few of the many amazing people here… @john_connor1337 , so glad you are still with us, after seeing some of that tough love you received. You handled this with grace and humility. I admire your courage and determination!
@Mindofsobermike , congrats on your 5 month achievement! @Lighter , your tax story made me chuckle, but ain’t it grand to feel more motivated these days? @Jonachav123 , one day at a a time. Being in the present, not worrying about the forever part. That is wise! @K_S, it was so heartwarming to read about you and your brother’s reconciliation
Much better today. Looking forward to an active couple of days as I work on the house and yard. I need plants. I need flowers. And decorating and stuff indoors. Looking forward to a great day. Sober and rested.
Day 18 is almost there.
Mom is getting surgery today and I hope she’ll be okay. Living with chronic pain is terrible so I hope the new hip will finally make her feel a bit better.
Going to a meeting in the evening and after that it’s back to bed for me.
