It depends on how long it takes you to meet someone whose recovery you like the look of. I know one person whose waited a year, I know one man who has successfully remained sober for 7 years without one.
It took me about a month of being in meetings and talking in general/asking advice/listening to sharebacks from my sponsor before I approached him and asked him to help me through the steps. A sponsor is ultimately, someone who you can talk to, someone you can trust, someone who has a good message and someone whose recovery you feel you want yours to look like.
Thereās usually a show of hands at some meetings for people willing to sponsor
Can it be someone i have become friends with? There is a great group of guy i have met and i was going to ask one to be my sponsor but then we kind of became friemds and now he is my boss. I dont know if him being my sponsor now would be to much involvement or not
I slept last night! Almost the whole night, yeah. Today Iām happy. I canāt go without sleep again, no. Either way, I wonāt drink.
Town is overrun for a music festival but the weather is poor. Iāll stay in my area far away from the drunks and mud and do some hiking if possible. Looking forward to taking some trips soon. Much to do right here. Plus get more sober time.
Anyone else, feel free to jump in - My 2 cents would be no because you may already have some resentments built up towards him being a friend and a boss as well.
Day #25 away from my DOC
Day #6 sober from everything else
Still getting that craving for my DOC in the middle of the night, but the cravings are hopefully getting weaker I feel like. They at least arenāt getting worse for sure. Heading to the downtown office for some coworker event. Iāll make sure not to drink during it. My plan is to basically just order mocktails and soda, Iāve been really drilling this into my head
Checking in on day 725. I had an amazing day yesterday. doing the First Truth inventory with a fellow Sangha member. I relish one-to-one meetings. I am able to use my Zoom account that I also use for Eight-Step Recovery meetings. Better than a phone call,right? And that was awesome last night as well. She and another friend (she runs the Reiki meditation circle) joined me. It was really good. Have as good a day as you can,eh @Mno !!
Helllooo, checking in on Day 19 AF. Wondering whether to go for a swim. Think I will. Sorry my life is so boring to relate but is probably what I need right now. Back to work on Monday, been off since alcohol and I parted company. Iāve missed the office politics and the banter like you do. Wondering how much longer Iāll work though (part-time), seems like only 5 minutes ago I was the youngest in the office and now probably the oldest. Oh dear! Drink was always my after-work reward. (Well that was one of the many excuses I made obviouslyā¦ celebrate, drink! Feeling cāp, drink!, etc., etc., etc.)
Am feeling a bit better today but still mostly laying around not feeling the best. I had the worst nightmares last night and they have me on edge. If I had more energy Iād be tempted to drink. How do you deal with nightmares? I used to get them all the time and it was one of the things that would push me to drink at night. Now they are starting again and Iām afraid they will keep getting worse. I always get nervous about having them because I usually sleep walk when they are happening. Anywaysā¦in a few hours Iāll go to bed and all I can think about is maybe Iāll dream. I feel like I need to prepare myself for how to cope when they get bad so I can keep sober. But Iām not sure where to start with that.
102 days. Really struggling. Most of it money related. Hard to find decent paying work, but I remain diligent in my search. Selling off what possessions I can to keep from complete ruin. I started therapy to deal with anxiety and depression. They use CBT and mindfulness techniques. Encouraging. Getting to meetings when I can, looking for a homegroup and sponsor. Iām getting too old for this shit. Still doing it ODAAT. I need a hug and some decent fellowship. Canāt seem to find either. Trying to remain in the present and to be positive.
Good morning friends, day 40. Wifeās surgery (knee replacement) went well so now we begin the healing process. Iām working from home today to try and be helpful and I expect weāll take it easy this weekend.
Have an awesome day!
32 days and Ive had a couple of thoughts. The first was when my wife said she felt like going to the sports bar to just enjoy the vibe and relax Sheās pregnant so canāt drink either. We settled on Grillād, an Australian burger restaurant. I saw the beers and ciders behind the counter and had a surprisingly strong desire to order one. It was a very low desire but stronger than I expected. Kept me on my toes and a good reminder to stay in touch on here.
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I missed yesterdays checkin because i was soooooo sick. Idk if it was something i ate or a stomach bug but i was out for the entire day. After putting my son on the bus, i slept from 8-3pm and then slept all night as well. I just had very little energy to do anything. Thankfully im feeling almost 100% better today. Will do some cleaning and then my son has an appt at 130pm. Other than that, just going to continue to rest. Hope everyone has a great day!
I hope your appointment went well 