That is too funny. 
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Didnāt mean to nag on you. Just give you options.
How about not letting him ride the bike at all intil heās old enough to listen and understand instructions or the danger that might come with it?
Or practice small bits with the bike thatās not dangerous and when he eventually get the concept then it might be time to ride along the canal.
Once again those kids are small really small. Even the 5 y/o is. Eventually they learn but not without practicing, explanations and repetition.
Thatās why most kids shows does things twice, and repeats the same concept/phrases in every episode.
I understand that it can be to much, thatās why I said that there might some help to get. Like parenting classes. Iāve been to several classes like that to learn how to deal with special needs kids. (Grown daughter with Adhd/ development disability, Iāve been put on the roof getting that kid in when she was on wrong medications for example. Then we have the 14 y/o with tourettes/autism, and the 12 y/o with dyslexia)
You get some ideas for when things feel put of hands, and you can go through some trial and errors with Backup from experts.
Not sure your country has that, but if they do. Check it out.
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Day 51. Now closer to 100 days sober than to 0.
Huge day today doing a termite barrier install. The client told me had quit drinking for a few years (issues with his gut from drinking V) but was starting to get on it again only to have these gut issues arise. āI just love drinking too much to quitā
I really like not having alcohol have a stranglehold on me like that anymore.
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Day 45 i am over it. I am going to quit NA. Every time i got to a meeting I leave hating myself more than when i got there. I am not at a good place mentally and being told i am not doing enough because i dont share just makes me feel like i cant do anything right. I am over it. I am almost to the point where i would rather be miserable high and drunk than being sober.
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Checking in Day17. Hi everyone, hope all is well.
Not starting the day off as planned. Our 6 y/o woke up this morning ready for war, so that took some time getting him calm before school. Im now at the ER with my mother in lawā¦COPD and her oxygen levels are lowā¦sheās at 77 when even with COPD she should be around 93-95. Most times when this happens we know sheās gonna be in here for at least a week. Itās always something, but Iām glad I can be of service and keep busy. Have a fantastic day, everyone, Happy 24!
Just for Today: I will be grateful for the opportunity to be of service.
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Oh Iām so sorry that your NA experience is causing you this much distress.
Do not give up my friend. Many other programs and groups to be a part ofā¦just have to find one that fits. You deserve a happy addiction free lifeā¦ please keep fighting the fight.
Have you looked at on line groups or recovery Dharma or possibly other NA groups (sometimes the group dynamic just doesnāt jive).
Stay connected with us here ā¦you are doing so well. I want to see you keep succeeding 
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I have been to all the meetings i. This area amd they are all the same. I will do it wothout a group all i need is me
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Oh Iām very sorry to hear that you donāt have good meetings in your area.
You do have us in your corner. We are all rooting for you and available for support. 
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Back to feeling bad again. Nauseous and off 
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Day 2237. Training a new guy. It is a study in patience and the serenity prayer seems to be todayās mantra.
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Day 131. My brain is not helping me with life. I say poor things to and about myself too often. Itās made entries rare and hard to do. I prefer to remove myself from organizations and representation I used to be good at. I am not doing well with all the things, except not drinking, which is easy because of why I am doing it this time. Thatās humorous, as all my self-talk fights against that thought.
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Sending many positive thoughts your way. Pardon my assumption but you sound isolated. Expressing your feelings I find is so helpful.
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Way to go with maintaining your sobriety. It is a huge accomplishment even if it feels like a easy task.
Negativity is such a killer and can find ways to infest your mind and body. When my mind starts to go into a negative spiral or a dark unfriendly space I try some of the following (maybe this can help you too)ā¦
- repeat positive affirmations to myself (especially as Iām looking in the mirror)
- watch light hearted comedic shows to induce laughter
- listen to upbeat music
-listen / watch my favorite stand up comics - meditate in a calm surrounding
- spend time in nature (sitting at a park or going for a walkā¦etc)
Sending you loads of positive energy. Here if you need someone to talk withā¦vent to. We got your back
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I havenāt been to an AA meeting yet. 
I am planning to go. I woke up this morning and I just got out in the garden and got on with the catio. I am so proud with what I got done.
I appreciate and am grateful that you keep mentioning it to me ā¦ Iām grateful you care so much.
I did think of you today when I was in the garden thinking I need to really plan to get to a meeting. 
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Iām going to have to start finding new ones in Cali. I was all excited about it a few weeks ago. But nowā¦ā¦ā¦ the time has almost come 
and I have to start over. With meetings. Al-Anon and AA. But I know once I get out there and go a few days without meetings my spiritual tank will empty. I cannot, will not let that happen. Iāll be miserable.
Itās amazing now; sometimes I go to a meeting and I can feel my spiritual tank fill. Especially if itās been a few days. Iāve always been afraid to go to AA meetings. I got almost 4 years sober under my belt before I started going. I thought I was doing it ass backwards. Like I was doing it wrong. Someone told me after the meeting. It doesnāt matter how we got sober. As long as we have a desire to not drink today itās where we belong. And where we will be accepted. I feel like I got the sober part down. Just donāt pick up. But I donāt know how to live sober. I have a lot of fears. I want to learn from others through their story how they deal with their fears.
I appreciate your honesty and getting back to me. I am glad you donāt mind me hassling you about going to AA meetings. Hell. Go to any kind of support group type of meeting. So Youāre not alone in this. Youāve got a story to tell. Someone can benefit from your story. Hell, Iām benefiting from your story.
Iām happy you thought of me in the garden. I will be on the road tomorrow to my new home and catio and garden in Cali. Iāll plant a coleus or 2 in my sisterās name and you eventually, like I had in Flagstaff.
Now git yerself to that meeting 
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Day 3 
Going to have some food itās 7pm I have been out in the garden since 11am and I am so hungry then I will be putting a movie on and catching up here I missed you all today 
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Wowā¦thatās super awesome friend 
. Congratulations on your accomplishmentsā¦ keep up the great work
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I donāt go as you know.
But I remember one thing NA said to me years ago.
It doesnāt matter how long time youāve been sober/clean. It doesnāt matter what city or even country youāre in.
If you feel like you belong,you belong.
Didnāt go back, but I felt that. And Still thinking about it many years later.
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Awesome!!! Congrats on an amazing accomplishment!!! 
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