Checking in daily to maintain focus #71

Thank you. I’m glad I’m allowing myself to grieve this season. Years passed I would have drank it away.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. The holidays can be especially tough when you’re grieving, and it’s absolutely okay to feel sad. Remember, it’s natural to miss your loved ones and it’s important to give yourself the space to feel and process your emotions. Take things one day at a time, and don’t hesitate to reach out for support when you need it. Your parents’ memories live on in your heart, and they’ll always be a part of you. Be gentle with yourself during this time. :sparkling_heart:

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@MrMoustache How did the day go? I am glad you looked into positive ways to to help you through. Did the walk help?

Your readiness is showing my friend. Great to see your efforts shine in your journey. 17 days and going strong :muscle:
@Tragicfarinelli 100% agree and grateful for you for standing up and fighting for justice :pray: Glad to hear that your hot shower helped.
@BrownGecko Double digits is amazing. Grateful that you are finding this community to be so helpful. This place has been my salvation for sure. Stay connected my friend. Sorry that the AA in your area was not a good fit. Grateful that in sobriety we have many options of how to connect with support :hugs:
@GOKU2019 Sorry for the loss my friend. Wishing you well as you go to the funeral next week :pray:
@efountains I so love it – how lovely to add a new untainted mattress free of any drunken horrors. This is a wonderful gift to yourself and I would also be excited!
@lighter Much love my friend - I am sorry that you are missing your mom and can imagine how the memories are flooding in and wrapped with grief. I am sure your mom is enjoying watching you make the pie. :hugs: Grateful you came here to share your stress / grief… Glad you did check through HALT :hugs: :heart:
@TrustyBird Big hugs love. :people_hugging: Chinese takeaway and movies sounds lovely! Here if you need to pop in for some hugs - you are not alone :hugs:

Checking in on Wednesday night
707 days free of alcohol and weed
1122 days free of cigarettes
Today was a crazy storm of a day - Got a lot of stuff accomplished. Very productive day and glad I got some self care in there too. I am grateful that I will not be participating in Blackout Wednesday. Grateful that everything is set for tomorrow and just need to get things in the over in the morning. Friends arriving later so that buys me more time in the morning.
Gonna try to get some zzz’s soon – Wishing everyone a wonderful addiction free day / evening – sending you all so much love :heart: :heart:

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Thank you. I just declined some concrete plans for tomorrow with a maybe. I want to give my grief all the space it needs tomorrow.

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2000

Truly the dark days before Christmas here -pic was 15:15 yesterday. But working on my own mood in many ways. One day of work to go, followed by 10 days of free time. That’s a good prospect. The solstice is just three weeks away. The trial shift I worked yesterday was nice. Will apply for working there and see what comes from it.

Hope the weather will permit me to be out and about for quite a bit the coming days. And I’ll make today as good a day as I can and expect the same from all of you. Sober and clean or nothing would come from it. Much love.

@Blanka Welcome to the thread Blanka! Coming here has been my start of the the day 2000 times now. It works :people_hugging:
@BrownGecko Congrats on 10 days friend! That’s big!
@EFountains Many good nights on your new mattress friend, a mattress that will only know sober you.
@Kdog Good to see you Kevin, hope you’re doing well friend.
@TrustyBird It’s good to take care of yourself in the best ways possible Emilie. Hugs and love your way.
@Lighter Thanks for checking in Marie. We’re in this together. :people_hugging:

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That’s amazing! 2000 days Menno :tada::tada::muscle:t4:
y2k-2000

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Congratulations @Mno !! You’re a long way from reaching out for that third bottle of wine on the shelf and really not wanting to ……
Big congrats :balloon:! Happy, happy for you!
You could still be drinking ( and smoking) and you are free from both!

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Congratulations on 2,000 days, @Mno, that is bimillenially extraordinary! :tada: At first the significance of the number didn’t click because I am used to your numbers representing years in the music threads, but then the penny dropped :face_with_monocle:

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One year, I remember wondering why tf was the bar so busy this night bc I didn’t know it was a thing.

That was every Wednesday for me :rofl: :roll_eyes:

@JP123 The first drink is no joke. Last time I had ‘just one drink’, I couldn’t stop for 3 years! I was initially a binge drinker, but turned into daily drinker. I remember when I started being able to feel something off the first sip(probably around 21). Like something was activated and my body knew what time it was. It was like night and day and all bets were off. This phenomenon made me wonder if this is what people mean when they say they’re allergic to alcohol :thinking: I mean, I do have a reaction every time I drink, it always makes me sick(often for a very long time), and I know it will kill me. Convincing myself I’m allergic is what ultimately kept me from drinking in the beginning this time. Idk why that’s what finally worked :woman_shrugging: but ever since, I look at alcohol the same way I do escargot. As much as I might like it, ingesting it could kill me. Hey, if it works, it works :joy:

@Mno Wow, it’s today! I knew it was coming bc everyday for a while now, your number was reminding me of years, especially once you got into the '90s :laughing: You’ve just entered Y2K!!! :rofl: Congratulations on 2,000 DAYS!!! You’re such an inspiration :sparkling_heart:

Bro :astonished: :laughing::joy::rofl: Glad I wasn’t the only one :sweat_smile:

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Many congrats on 2000 days :two_hearts: It’s such fun to see the round numbers and dedication to living a healthy life. I look forward to celebrating the solstice with you :sun_with_face:

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My name is Collins and I’m an alcoholic. Today I celebrated 1,516 days of continuous sobriety. Here’s a video short I just found that pretty much sums it up perfectly. I used to think alcohol was the problem. But no. Alcohol was the solution. I was the problem. I didn’t know how to manage my life. I didn’t know how to manage my emotions. I didn’t know how to process all the childhood trauma. Thanks for letting me share. Watch the video…

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Good morning everyone, day or evening :hugs: Just wanted to say hello and wish you a good time. My plans for today are to be active, do some training and be productive at work. And be thankful and grateful for my health, I can be satisfied with what I have. Love to everyone

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Congrats on 2000 days sober, mate! :partying_face:

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2,190. 6 years today without drinking alcohol. And day 1 was right here, posting in this very community. I wish you all a happy holiday season and the courage and strength to stay sober from your addiction. There is no better gift you can give to yourself and those who love you. -Tom

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Yep same thing for me haha. Thank God no more.

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2nd check-in.

Had a good time with the fam at the mall. Didn’t buy much but did some walking and ate at Red Robin. Man, these kids can eat. Gonna go to my in-laws tomorrow and then my mom’s. My sister decided to invite my dad for Thanksgiving, but my mom doesn’t want him there. They separated about 5 years ago (lil too late, in my opinion). My sister kept pressing my mom about it. Now shits gonna be awkward with him there. I don’t really care if he’s there or not. I think my sister messed up with this one. She should’ve just respected my mom’s decision. But it is what is now.

Have a great and safe Thanksgiving, everyone.

Gonna watch a couple of episodes of Silo and then pass out. Nite y’all. ODAAT :heart:

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Good morning! 126 days check in.
I had a brief conversation with a colleague yesterday he doesn’t know a lot about my sobriety only that I’m currently teetotal. He asked was I still “off the drink” I said I was. What about Xmas he asked. Told him I’m not planning on drinking as I have a busy Xmas and I’m “not really going to bother with it”
It felt good saying that with confidence, I believe it and I’ve locked it in. It won’t be my first sober Xmas and I really enjoyed previous sober festive seasons so that’s that. It was a good flex of the sober muscle and I took something from it.
Speak it, live it & just accept it is where I’m at right now.
Have a great day all and happy thanksgiving to any American warriors here :us:

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Thank you, sista. I’ll be ok.

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Day 1440,

Bit of grey mood, bit of mwah is this it mood. But it’s fine, I put on the time of the year and people pulling at me, including myself :see_no_evil:. And I forget that I stopped smoking, but forgetting that might be a good thing….on day 15 there :pray:

Have a sober 24 :heart:

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Bravo on forgetting that you’re not smoking! That’s huge! I always say that if people can possibly just give themselves just a little bit of time away from them, they will realize how much they don’t miss them. Cigarettes. You are a good case in point on that.

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