It isn’t selfish to focus on your sobriaty. You have to give it all it needs now. You can’t help others before you take good care of yourself first. Your time will come too. And being here is helping others too, don’t forget that!! 
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Thank you so much!
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Sorry to hear that. Wish things had ended differently for you. Hopefully the day apart gives you both a little time to reflect and tonight will be a better night.
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I had to think this over how to say this. I do not want to downsize your story. I feel you. But you and your bestie know eachother for 20 years. I think she must know you with all your qualities and downsides. So I guess she knows this side of you. Talk it over with her. It’s your first sober Christmas Menno. She will understand.
Don’t be to hard for yourself
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Checking in on day 45.
Merry Christmas everyone!
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Furthermore, how shall we come to terms with seeming failure or success? Can we now accept and adjust to either without despair or pride? Day 54 day 14.
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I know that we shouldn’t do such things, that we should remain magnanimous. But I would have had returned the jab and replied with some simple like " at least I would wake up with a clear head, and be present for my family".
Or something to that respect.
At the very least I would have said it in my head and laughed it off.
But then, right or wrong, I do feel superior in that situation anyway.
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#115. Can’t sleep. Back physical therapy followed by acupuncture…I plan on being exhausted. Wife came to realization marriage is over yesterday, that was fab. It’s been a long time coming, I cannot imagine anyone completely shocked by this. Looking forward to some wandering today.
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Hey, is it possible that you just had a bad day? Sometimes we can look into things and find meanings that aren’t there, to kick ourselves when we are down. I know I do anyway.
I don’t know the full story but it sounds to me like you weren’t as prepared as you feel like you should be… I think that’s just Christmas. Letting go of our own expectations is hard enough, but trying to meet the unrealistic expectations of others is harder (impossible?).
Time goes on, things change, we live and learn. Keep on keeping on friend 
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That is truly amazing congratulations,checking in today with 33 days,happy boxing day everyone,I hope everyone had a pleasant or bearable Xmas day.xxits all swings and roundabouts for us all.
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@SoberWalker, I command you for volunteering at the animal shelter. You get all the brownie points in the world today.
Much love.
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Day 11 
I hope everyone had a wonderful Christmas. I was busy busy so I did not check in yesterday but I stayed sober. Seeing the looks on my daughters faces after Santa came was so fulfilling and made me so happy. I’m determined to stay sober one day at a time. Haven’t made it this many days in a long time. Have a great day everyone
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You know a place where it is warm and fuzzy, maybe it’s a little much for your likings but there you don’t have to fight or flight. You may freeze for a bit and then the warmth will be there if you can let it. Good luck Menno 
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Passing 24 hours here and feeling great. Some might think xmas is not the best time to give up booze. I think that every day of the year is the best time to quit 
there’s no other options for me anymore 
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Morning guys! I’m feeling good waking up today sober. I’m off to my parents to eat anything left over from yesterday Have a happy sober boxing day. 
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We can always find reasons for why we shouldn’t be sober, it’s about focusing on the reasons why we should be! Way to go on those first 24 hours 
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@Rob68, wow, sorry 
Timing not the best on that one. It’s good your sober, it makes dealing with it way better. I split with my husband last January at 8 months sober, and I can’t imagine the shit show that would have ensued if I were drinking. Hang in there, and if you ever need to talk I’m here. Whether you expected it or not, it is just a sad situation, I’m sorry.
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First christmas in 33 years sober, had a great day hosting lunch and a BBQ in the evening. I thank my higher power the day went with no craving for alcohol but I did contemplate having a cigarette once but it was just a memory. Overall, a fantabous day!
Blessings and sobriety y’all!
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93.49 Days
When I was out at dinner with the family yesterday, I was the only one not drinking. Normally I’m very comfortable with that, but I know my sister looks down on me for it. She’s patronizing and it drives me crazy. She is an alcoholic, she just handles booze better than I do. Granted she doesn’t drink in the mornings or have long benders, but she drinks very heavily and met her first husband in AA for crying out loud, but I digress.
I felt those feelings creep in yesterday with everyone having their little martinis. I loved dirty martinis and felt myself miss it a bit. Not ONE person pushed me, and quite honestly, nobody ever does. It’s always me. I have conversations with myself way before I actually pick up a drink, I’m finding those little conversations starting to happen again. So, for the first time in 30+ years of trying to get sober, I’m being openly honest with y’all about it. I was in my first rehab at the tender age of 16, I’m now 48. I think at some point in my mid 20’s I wrangled up about 3 or 4 years. I remember vividly the conversation l had with myself back then when I talked myself into drinking again.
I have a date tonight. The guy seems really nice so far. He knows that I don’t drink, so we’ll see. I’m super introverted. He just seems like a really great guy, but he’s shorter than I am. I’ve never done that before and I would like to be able to look past that as I feel it a stupid reason to pass on someone who otherwise seems would be a very positive and healthy addition to my life.
Have a great sober Thursday folks. I’m so incredibly grateful for all of you!!
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