I’m a guy I know these things, a simple text as such to get a glimpse into your life hoping that you haven’t moved on and found better, which after that text it seems being single is still better,
But he’s miserable, maybe on the outside he paints a picture of the “perfect life” but deep down he’s like well fuck I fucked up, so hoping your response is to tell him how unhappy you are, or that you want to talk or miss him, gives him fuel, fills his ego. He still has the power,
Best response is no response. When it comes to narcissistic fucks, that depletes them the most, if you fight with them, they feel you still care, if you show them mourning they feel In power, if you tell them your happy without them, they think your just lying to show a front. My ex is a narcissist, and well I left her in the gutter I found her in
$30 a week is insaaaaaaane and the fact that he intentionally got jobs that paid under the table so he could avoid such a ridiculously small payment is even more nauseating. i’m sorry you have to go thru that! i don’t understand people not wanting to support their own children. but as we know, everyone has their demons….what can we do but take up the weight and soldier on!
Caps, underlined, and italicized text should be used sparingly to emphasize something very specific. When people but 95% of their messages in caps, with the intent to show its important, I just cant take it seriously and sometimes don’t even bother reading the whole message.
I don’t think, “Ah, this message might be important,” but rather, “Ugh, god, this person is an annoying and disrespectful child who clearly doesn’t know proper communication etiquette. Is there any way I can ditch this person / organization / business?”
When my last doctor retired, I was referred to this clinic and every message they send is in all caps. Paragraphs of text within text messages in all caps.
The agency over here that deal with child support, (I’m sure people have had poor experiences with them as well), do not piss about. If you don’t pay your child support, you’re fucked.
We have something like that too. They reached out to me in 2020 but at the time he was in jail so nothing could be done. Then when I reached out, I never heard back. Since I was drinking, one shot, no dice, gave up.
Now I’m stuck somewhere between ‘I’m happy he’s getting his shit together and can take her on the weekends again to take some pressure off my parents’ and ‘give me the god damn money you owe us bc I’m a broke bitch’.
One special coworker who, after you’ve been sick for 2 weeks already and your sick leave goes on, calls you to get any information about what you have and why you’re still sick and when you’ll come back to work, and then tell you “I’ve been worried you know”. Mhmmmm, sure.
Suspicious.
As if I’d ever tell you what exactly I have. Sure not.
Depression, anxiety and ADHD can all fuck right off! I hate living like this. I hate that “normal” things are harder for me. I hate that everything feels like such a struggle. Insomnia can fuck right off too.
I just want to rest and feel at peace. I’m tired of always having to try so hard.
I’m not sure. He’s still on Drug Court and is tested randomly. There’s no release date for it. They cut him loose when they feel it’s right but it’s been over 3 years. I did learn it’s possible for him to be forgiven for his time spent in jail and mandatory rehab bc he couldn’t work, but he owed a lot before any of this even happened so…idk
I feel you girl. It’s our way to be, let’s make the best of it. Activate those self-care self-acceptance super powers! I was completely frozen last night w anxiety for hrs and had to eat three extra portions of protein until I felt somewhat less dead and was able to shower with the laptop w me in the bathroom playing old reruns of a calming series. Then I proceeded to have nightmares and now I have a migraine. Big hug.
FRO lovely boys who don’t text back in time. Dude, why you wanna be in my bad books so bad?!
When people can’t take responsibility for themselves (part 2). I get a bill that should have gone to my insurance. Clearly the woman at the new clinic didn’t give them all the proper information.
I talk to clinic woman who offers to get me their number, like… no, I can call them myself, but I’m bringing this to your attention because this is your job.
Woman then says that X must have done it so she would have to check with her about what’s going on. Bitch… you are X, wtf are you on about?
I am going to look at finding a new clinic. The doctor is fine, but her assistant has issues I’m not willing to put up with.
and the fact that he intentionally got jobs that paid under the table so he could avoid such a ridiculously small payment is even more nauseating. i’m sorry you have to go thru that! i don’t understand people not wanting to support their own children. but as we know, everyone has their demons….what can we do but take up the weight and soldier on! 
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