Thank you very much for this input.
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I’m right there with you. It’s frustrating. But its also frustrating trying to raise/support a child alone. I never wanted to go thru a custody battle or anything but it became no choice for me. I went for child support while I went for custody.
This begins my own rant. I was granted $30 a week. He’d purposely find jobs off the books so they wouldn’t take it from him. For 5 years. Finally he got a real job and was paying $45 a week for a few months this year, but then switched jobs and I haven’t seen a payment in two months. He keeps blaming his boss for not doing it right. He owes me $6,555 today and it’s only going to keep going up so he’s not doing himself any favors ignoring this. $10,000 past due is a felony. Ugh 
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Damn, before I got custody of my kids I was paying 1200 a month, and I was making 60k a year. That’s for 2 kids.
I pretty much paid for the house and all the utilities for it. And it showed when I got custody, her and her husband went belly up and were living In hotels until they squatted for too long and got kicked out. I never pursued child support cause it would have been so much of a hassle to not get any money or similarly small payments like you do.
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Truth be told, he’s a miserable narcissist,
I’m a guy I know these things, a simple text as such to get a glimpse into your life hoping that you haven’t moved on and found better, which after that text it seems being single is still better,
But he’s miserable, maybe on the outside he paints a picture of the “perfect life” but deep down he’s like well fuck I fucked up, so hoping your response is to tell him how unhappy you are, or that you want to talk or miss him, gives him fuel, fills his ego. He still has the power,
Best response is no response. When it comes to narcissistic fucks, that depletes them the most, if you fight with them, they feel you still care, if you show them mourning they feel In power, if you tell them your happy without them, they think your just lying to show a front. My ex is a narcissist, and well I left her in the gutter I found her in
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$30 a week is insaaaaaaane 
and the fact that he intentionally got jobs that paid under the table so he could avoid such a ridiculously small payment is even more nauseating. i’m sorry you have to go thru that! i don’t understand people not wanting to support their own children. but as we know, everyone has their demons….what can we do but take up the weight and soldier on! 
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Boss was quick to accuse me of something I didn’t do, and after explaining myself didn’t apologize. Get the facts first before you blame!
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Insomnia can FRO
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People who put everything in caps.
Caps, underlined, and italicized text should be used sparingly to emphasize something very specific. When people but 95% of their messages in caps, with the intent to show its important, I just cant take it seriously and sometimes don’t even bother reading the whole message.
I don’t think, “Ah, this message might be important,” but rather, “Ugh, god, this person is an annoying and disrespectful child who clearly doesn’t know proper communication etiquette. Is there any way I can ditch this person / organization / business?”
When my last doctor retired, I was referred to this clinic and every message they send is in all caps. Paragraphs of text within text messages in all caps.
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I have a client that puts URGENT in the subject line of every email to me…
They are, not surprisingly, the last emails I get to! 
Today though? iphone updates can fuck right off… 
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I had a colleague abusing exclamation marks and points/full stop. It felt like being yelled at every time and I was pissed when only opening a email.
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I’m with you on this one. It’s like the person is shouting at you.
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Jesus.
The agency over here that deal with child support, (I’m sure people have had poor experiences with them as well), do not piss about. If you don’t pay your child support, you’re fucked.
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We have something like that too. They reached out to me in 2020 but at the time he was in jail so nothing could be done. Then when I reached out, I never heard back. Since I was drinking, one shot, no dice, gave up.
Now I’m stuck somewhere between ‘I’m happy he’s getting his shit together and can take her on the weekends again to take some pressure off my parents’ and ‘give me the god damn money you owe us bc I’m a broke bitch’.
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One special coworker who, after you’ve been sick for 2 weeks already and your sick leave goes on, calls you to get any information about what you have and why you’re still sick and when you’ll come back to work, and then tell you “I’ve been worried you know”. Mhmmmm, sure.
Suspicious.
As if I’d ever tell you what exactly I have. Sure not.
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Just out of curiosity, If you can demonstrate that you work a program, are living sober and can back it up do they give any leniency?
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Depression, anxiety and ADHD can all fuck right off! I hate living like this. I hate that “normal” things are harder for me. I hate that everything feels like such a struggle. Insomnia can fuck right off too.
I just want to rest and feel at peace. I’m tired of always having to try so hard.
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I see you. Rest, don’t quit. 🩷
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You’re not alone in this 
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I have the sniffles. Better not be the beginnings of man-flu, because it can 100% GTFRO.
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I’m not sure. He’s still on Drug Court and is tested randomly. There’s no release date for it. They cut him loose when they feel it’s right but it’s been over 3 years. I did learn it’s possible for him to be forgiven for his time spent in jail and mandatory rehab bc he couldn’t work, but he owed a lot before any of this even happened so…idk 
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