I’m curious on how to stay consistent on my sobriety. My sober dates seem to bounce around from 3 to 2 to 1 to 4 back and forth . I’m going to be a father at the end of the month and I need help, each time I mess up I try to look at it at where am I going wrong . And then I adjust . Some times I do feel bad because me being a father amongst so many other reasons present and past should be enough for me to say fuxk it and quit. Which I I already made that choice. I know if I hang out with people or associate with anyone using then I use . So cutting people off his hard to do, I’m doing it though. Anyways any ideas
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and that is all that matters
What do you mean…
Did I post something I wasn’t suppose to
no, you brought a good topic
i can hang out with you f0r a while
I just started this account , I’m literally loading up with an arsenal of things that will help me stay sober . I know I’m the only one that can do it. Also yeah I don’t want to use because it will be the death of me
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welcome to the group bud
What you mean?
Thanks 
I really appreciate it never have done the online thing for help . There’s lack of na type programs in our community
you will find alot of support here. DRINK SOME WATER
That’s funny you say that , I’ve been thinking that and have been hearing it alot lately
Welcome to the community @GetOutOfMySystem glad to have you here with us 
congrats on expecting the baby! What a wonderful gift 
when i finally quit for good i did 3 months away from booze of any kind…i didnt have it in the house…i didnt socialise where it was and even avoided it in the supermarket…then i did alot of work on myself…alot of people find meetings very helpful too but instead i literally lived on here reading around…also allen carrs easy way to quit drinking really helped with mindset on drinking…eat well, hydrate, get vitamins b vitamin complex in particular is great…
@SolarEclipse are you doing ok? Something seems a little off in your replies here…
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thx bud not good
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I thought something was up, you can pm me if you need to talk
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Hi and a warm welcome for you here!
At first congratulations with a baby on the way! That is so special!
Consistency, good question!
I can only look to myself and my recovery proces. In the awareness period I quit for a few days, maybe a week not more.
Like I was not wanting it enough. Like I was aware of the problem and trying to cope with it by balancing with not drinking for a while and then drinking because I stayed sober for a few days and deserved some.
It finally clicked in when things really got over the line for me. Then I really, really wanted it!
I found this app and decided to stay and put in the effort every day. I also made a plan for myself how to become and stay sober. Just something practical to give my recovery hands and feet.2 years sober and what helped me to get there: Maybe you see something in it you can use too. I would alse reccoment to read this tread: What's YOUR plan? Put the time you did drinking in reading recoverybooks, ore podcasts about it. It’s like building a new house brick by brick, day by day.
I’m sorry it isn’t going well @SolarEclipse , I was worried when I read your replies. Open for pm as well.
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Thanks for your warm welcome , this is really good stuff hearing other people’s stories. Greatly appreciated 
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Sorry to hear , I just met ya so I couldn’t tell if something was up , I hope things go better for you
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Thanks as well for the welcome @Starlight14 , it’s nice to be a part of something positive. I have been kind of drifting in my community looking for people who are trying to stay sober, I know we have meetings, the Aa meetings don’t do it for me . So I’m going to start another Na meeting in our town . My mind set is set to be sober , I try not to kick myself to much when I do mess up, maybe I’m not hard enough on my self when I do mess up . Anyways thanks for the advice
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Whats your DOC (drug of choice) if you dont mind me asking?
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