Ok, my almost daily excuse for
Running out and buying a six pack was my stressed out, menopausal, externalizing spouse. That aspect of my life is not going away, last night was typically not good. I am often the cat who gets verbally kicked, then my usual response is F-it I am going to get a six pack. What do you all do to not let your typical triggers well trigger you? Today is feeling like every other day, also no leaving is not on the table.
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Visit a recovery meeting. Thereās a list of groups here: Resources for our recovery
Take a walk and tidy up litter in a neighbourhood park. The place will look great!
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I too have struggles with my spouse. For sure I used the conflict to drown in tequila. After taking the first step toward sobriety and not drinking I soon learned to handle life in every area. It takes time to learn the needed tools for happiness within ME. Reach out for a recovery resource like Meetings online or in person. Keep reading here and make connections to lead a fabulous sober life. You can do it. I am glad you are here.
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Drinking, in this situation, is a way to escape mentally, emotionally, maybe physically.
Without drinking, you can either find other ways to escape, or you can confront. Those are really the only 2 options.
Iād be willing to bet that by confronting your ātriggerā, it will eventually cause your trigger to become less triggering.
By confronting, I donāt mean being confrontational or aggressive, but rather listen, learn and feel without running away to escape. Itāll be uncomfortable at first, but in the long run, itāll be worth it.
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This is so practical. Iām definitely going to use this. Thanks!
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