I just had to google pasties meaning. I’m so uncool lol. I’d not heard that term, except as a term I’d heard back in 90s referring to when you’re thirsty after smoking marijuana 
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Ok you got me
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Ah, so now you know!!
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I always think of pastries. Like imma take a selfie with donuts over my nipples
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I’m not hooked on porn, but here I learnt, that for people with pmo a picture and visualized things can be highly triggering, because these pics are just like slides from an actual film. It’s not like seeing an empty glass of beer for an alcoholic, more like being handed a full glass of it while trying not to act on it. If a pornfilm is part of their drug of choice, than a slide (pic) is a piece of their drug. By posting these pics people hand them over their drugs. But it’s just my interpretation.
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Thanks for the info. I don’t think I’ll ever really understand, I only hope that I don’t hurt anyone’s progress.
Beer drinker trigger warning: Beer was my doc. I was a heavy all-day drinker. When I see a pic of an empty beer glass, I imagine it filling up, the color, the smell, the slight froth, holding it … etc etc … basically every. single. step. to me drinking it down in one. I get that I would have to take some extra steps to act on the trigger, like go to the fridge or store.
PS: happy to delete the last/middle paragraph if someone wants me to… just say the word.
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People have way too much frigan time on their hands. Put on a shirt or don’t post. Cleavage is a completely different thing. As a plus size woman I can wear a fucking turtleneck and still have cleavage. As the self proclaimed selfie queen I have learned to be careful with the photos I choose to post now trying to be respectful and understanding to those that are triggered. And FYI there are just as many men that post in that thread as women.
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You are spot on. Could not have said it better! Thanks man!
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Well said Courtney! Thank you for your words and your consideration. I appreciate it. I will happily crown you as the selfie Queen 
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My opinion is that there should not even be the possibility to ‘like’ as selfie. I fall in the less being liked category which I learn is okay. It hurt in the beginning. As we are all subjected to how we are looking each and every minute as we see and watch, I think here where I primarily come for inner healing, this should be less important.
As I wrote the other day, I was watching Embrace, there was one woman saying that especially women should never be told who cute they are looking, how beautiful they are. How wonderful the skirt is going with this and that. It reduces us and puts the focus on how we look. Some are more fortunate others less. Fact. At least in what we are trained to like, to find beautiful.
To the rules, well, when I don’t read them (lots of them I learn step by step 
), I still have to respect them. If not, I am free to got. No one is forced to stay here. Thinking back, when people tell me that I violated this and that, first little hurt child reaction, explode, telling the other part how irrelevant all this is, and they are just overreacting. Until, my boundaries are hurt and I speak up and want to be respected, welcomed, understood and helped.
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Yesterday I was just thinking about that the like button (or wanting likes) is a part of online addiction and therefore can be triggering too. But where do we want to draw the line in a forum? It’s not easy. So thanks to the people who put a lot of time and effort into keeping this a safe and comfortable place!
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Do it. It’ll make me like my feet, briefly. 
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How do I un-chime? 
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You might need to do an interpretative dance and sacrifice rodents.
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As long as she is not sacrificing unicorns
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Get real dude! 
You can’t sacrifice a unicorn. We’re far too magical and mythical for the shenanigans of mere mortals. 
Pissing off a unicorn… That’s a whole different ball game! Isn’t that right, @Fury?
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Olivia,
As a sex addict I can attest to the fact that triggers exist. Another word for triggers is life. I have to take life as it comes.
I’m of the opinion that trying to manage triggers is a losing battle and it isn’t recovery. While I can empathize that other people’s behavior might be insensitive I also have to admit the three C’s. I can’t Control others, I can’t Cure them of their disease or their defects, and no one can Cause others to drink/drug/act out. That’s a decision that falls on the shoulders of the individual alone.
If I am triggered it is my responsibility to find out the root of the problem. For me, the greatest threat to my sobriety has always been within me. Blaming others is a false narrative the addict tells me to keep me distracted from the truth… It is some unresolved resentment, fear, or harm that I have allowed to fester. I chose to wallow because it was the mud that I was comfortable with. This leaves me restless, irritable and discontent. At that point I can choose to seek ease and comfort by acting out or I can seek a spiritual solution. One leads down a road I know all too well. The other leads to fulfillment. Don’t let yourself be fooled that you’ll be forced to choose the low road again if someone hurts your feelings. You can either become progressive in your recovery or you can become progressive in your addiction.
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Im just gonna come in and apologize. I was absolutely already in a crappy mood the the other day, I was taking it out on everyone and everything. Ppl are acting like I wasn’t being Inconsiderate when I was I cropped out the picture bc I figured it would just be my face with my shoulders so I didn’t think it was a big deal. Now I see it was and it won’t happen again. I’m not a Evil person, nor do I want anymore drama on here sorry for my actions we all have shitty days. Let’s just all carry on.
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