No, I’m not worried about being triggered and yes I am strong. That post was me highlighting (yes, sarcasticly) a comment that was, obviously, nothing other than sarcastic and unhelpful. I’m more than happy for you to pick apart that comment and show me the bits that weren’t sarcastic and were actually of some help or use.
@siand. Yes! This!
Someone made a snarky comment to me the other day. Initially I felt bad. Then upon rereading I felt that words were put in my mouth. And I had tried to be supportive to this person. Second emotion, anger. I wrote a pretty tame response but realized it would just spark controversy or an online argument. Neither of which I need. So…I didn’t respond but also deleted my initial post. God forbid should someone else call me out (yup, sarcasm). And I didn’t feel good about that decision but didn’t think too much about it. But I will, as I think my unwillingness to support myself and stand by my input here is important. Anyway…I read a bit more and the person who wrote the snarky comment totally RIPPED someone else a new one. Then out of curiosity I read a few more of their posts. Ouch!! Then…all their posts were gone. So, although I was figuring it out by this time, I realized this person was in trouble. Next feeling…compassion.
I learn so much here!
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Apology accepted and I too apologise for my sarcastic response. I do have an open mind and I do listen to other people’s stories, thoughts and experiences. I don’t know the methods others have used but the method I have used is about living my life without alcohol. Living a life that includes going to parties, weddings, the pub, funerals and so on. It focuses on adopting a very different view of alcohol, retraining and learning new. It’s a method that says you don’t drink so you don’t need to hide from it. There’s quite a bit of science involved…new responses to old stimuli, neural plasticity…yada yada… Dont fully understand it but its working so I don’t really need to understand it. Everyone here has their own path, their own method. I am very much open to other opinions but when, in this discussion, I said how I was embracing these situations, I was shot down and told it was a “terrible idea” and basically told it would guarantee relapse. I was then accused of “promoting” my “terrible idea”. I accept that for the people who made those comments, this method may not work for them…but, I have, genuinely met and spoke with 100s of people that have succeeded this way. My mind is open but from some responses I have had, I feel others minds maybe not so. I suppose part of why I took offence is…rather than “that’s a terrible idea”…whats wrong with “well if it’s working, great! Keep going”. Just feels a bit arrogant and unsupportive.
But yeah. We’re all doing our thing and, mostly, helping and supporting each other.
Good luck with your journey and whatever you are doing, I hope its helping and working.
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If a relapse is triggered by a comment from an online stranger… Then you don’t want to quit drinkng. You are in control of your alcohol intake. Not someone who lives on the other side of the world. I think the sarcasm comes from the fact that you advise people to confront their addiction at parties when that leads to relapses in many occasions and potentially death. And i also think @Dan531 wanted to make you realize that you’re doing some risky shit through sarcasm as common sense does not seem to work. Which is a common occurance in early recovery so I don’t blame you. Just be careful not to shutdown all help. This forum has centuries if experience amongst its members so they often know what they’re talking about.
To me it seems as though you’re desperate to be near alcohol, I’ve had the same thing with my doc. It might very well be your addiction telling you to be close to alcohol to lure you into a deadly trap. But I can’t see inside your head. I don’t know what you’re thinking.
Do as you please with this information. Good luck 
Edit: looking at your last post, you have put plenty of thought in your choices. If it works, it works. And I truly hope it does 
Ok. Boomer
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I’m not advising anyone to do anything. I’m sharing what I’m doing and what I feel is working for me. As you point out, I am in control of my alcohol intake, so is everyone else. As you say, do as you please with this information, as can anyone reading my information. I’m not desperate to be near alcohol. I’m desperate to be able to live in an alcohol-saturated society without needing to drink it. For me, using the method I have adopted (a method that 1000s of others have successfully used), means facing situations and challenges head on, with a different mindset- coming out with a different result and repeating- the effect being I retrain, adopt new learned behaviour and become stronger and better at it.
Yes, it is working, for me and yes I have given it a lot of thought. Thank you for your best wishes.
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Best advice I’ve ever got regarding posting on the forum 
Is it ok to derail a conversation in the derailment void? 
Asking for a friend 
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Which friend? I thought I was the one and only 
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Yes, you are the one and only. I was asking for you, obviously, you doofus 
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Oh fuck, don’t give me away! 
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Sounds like I was your mama, “Don’t give away your bebe!”
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@SoberGuyUSA
Sure we are. Just look at her. She’s our Olympic wrestler. The blonde, that is.
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Is that Milile?
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Y’all done derailed the derailment thread. Kudos
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Talented bunch
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Have the Finn wear red/white, and the Japanese wear blue. Who thought THAT made sense?!
That said, I figure both of them could twist me into a pretzel and break me in half without getting a sweat going.
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I seriously remember being worried that I’d get a suspension for derailing the derailment void 
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They told me early on that I don’t have to attend every fight I’m invited to.
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I’ve been around alcohol multiple times since getting sober… I don’t avoid the gatherings because of fear of getting drunk, I fear the boredom and monotony of it. After 2 or 3 drinks people change, conversation stagnates.
Go to get togethers if that’s your thing, more power to ya, just don’t pick up a damn drink.
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