I am sorry Mel, my comment was a response to CaptAZ and the challenges of moderating. It was not directed at you or about you or any of your threads.
I am not sure why you are directing that comment to me.
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Well thatās kind of you but ya know team work makes the dream work!
And agreed with @SassyRocks definitely not aimed at anyone in particular but moderating such a busy forum can be a challenge. Not a complaint just how it is sometimes 
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@some of the mods
I found it insensitive after such a debate about Melās topic, to see a mod actually gave a like to someone shouting obviously political comments in another topic instead of upholding the āno politicsā that apparently are that important.
Similarly, it can be offensive to someone else to see how this topic continues with mod jokes.
But again, letās just agree to disagree for we definately do disagree.
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Yes, this works best, agreed.
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Because you offered a simplistic and sarcastic response (the āruns for coverā suggests you know it is not a pleasant response). On a thread for anorexics, how would a ājust eat a cheeseburgerā go down? Looking at some of your previous replies on this thread, you seem sympathetic, but this time it landed wrong.
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No one asked you to leave. Your comment was flagged as inappropriate and offensive. It is also dismissive.
Many of us who have been here long term have made comments that were flagged as dismissive, insensitive and inappropriateā¦myself includedā¦so I understand how it feels to be called out here. We can take such opportunities to learn and grow or we can leave, the choice is all our own.
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You asked for an explanation. I offered my opinion on why other members (not me, fyi) flagged you. I agree that men can be involved and said you seemed sympathetic. The sarcastic āwell done youā was mean and uncalled for. No-one is asking you to leave. As Sassy says, we have all had comments called out, yes, also me. I didnāt enjoy it, felt defensive for a bit, and then moved on. And my condolences about your wife.
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Me too but not here on a sobriety forum. Iām sure thereās a different venue to accomplish that. The struggle for women navigating sobriety during their menstrual cycle is real and your comment was very dismissive.
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Why leave? Thereās plenty of other threads Iām sure will be conducive to your sobriety. This forum has tons of great information and conversations. Stick around and explore. I like the old sayingā¦ ātake what you need and leave the restā. If you come across a thread or conversation that doesnāt apply to your situation, we just ask that you keep on scrolling.
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I understand feeling hurt and embarrassed. I did too when similar happened to me. That just shows that you are a decent person. But there is no reason to leave. Nobody is perfect and says the right thing every time. If everyone who put their foot in their mouth left there would be no-one here. The forum has much to offer in terms of support for sobriety, and even learning about other ways of thinking.
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Should a man have one ? 
Welcome to the derailment void where all of us end up sooner or later ! 
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Should a man have an opinion on this topic? Hmmā¦Let me convene a meeting of my wife and mother in law this weekend and I will report my findings to you sirā¦
That isā¦If I actually return alive from itā¦
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Surely everyone can have an opinion on anythingā¦
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Can, yes. But should ? No.
I donāt menstruate, so I donāt have an opinion.
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Ah okā¦so if you dont have something you shouldnt have an opinion on itā¦i must remember that
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Three blind men were examining an elephant. The first touches the trunk and claims that an elephant is like a snake. The second hugs its feet and explains why it is like a pillar. The third grabs its tail and calls it a rope.
Now, these are opinions.
But only a fourth person with eye-sight can see the elephant as it is. He can expound a better elephant thesis with facts.
So yes. You can only hope to have an āopinionā without knowledge, which begs the question: would you really want to?
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Everyone can have opinion about everything, but if itās about another personās personal experience, they shouldnāt be surprised, if their words are not welcome.
Men in average tend to have opinion about everything while lacking the willingness to openly, respectfully and flexibly listen to womenās experiences and taking their words and emotions seriously. Thatās why itās even more important in these kind of cases for guys to step back. But without being sexist: if someone doesnāt have the experience, than itās way more respectful to listen and learn.
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