I think i might be a kind of an odd ball beach i havent drank with anyone i have called a friend. The only time i ever have done anything like that is on the few occasions i have gone out to eat with people and we order a drink maybe maybe two. The most i have ever drank out in public is 2 drinks. It’s when im at home drinking where it geta out of control and i feel lonely even though my husband is there
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Way back when, I rarely used alone. I was always around a group of other drug users, but I would never call them friends. We never trusted each other. It was just a place to use basically. People would often steal or fight and cause drama. Ugh i dont miss it. The only time I ever used alone was during my opiate addiction as I had to use to prevent dope sickness so I used when and where I could. I was also very ashamed of sticking needles in my arms as I honestly never thought I would get to that place. Last 7 years of a diff DOC, was mainly with my hubby. Addiction/alcoholism is such a lonely disease. Wether we are around real friends, “friends”, family, or alone, I feel like we often feel alone in all circumstances.
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I started drinking so i would have friends. I invited people out to clubs and bars and over to drink and hardly anyone took me up on it. Alot of people pressured me to drink and then when i started drinking no one was around.
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I would drink whats socially acceptable in public then go home and binge
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This made me laugh, it was so me too!
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What do you mean ?
Haha, me too!
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I replied to CJs post, I did what she said as well.
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I think i am more of a loner than i realized. I’ve always done everything by myself or with my husband.
When friends if they were available but mostly alone.
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I used to drink with friends but more recently it was just whenever the mood struck me. I’d be at home drinking alone until my roommate got home and then offer her a drink, or FaceTime other friends to drink, or end up at the bars drinking with complete strangers. It really was just an anytime, anywhere, with anyone at all situation towards the peak of my use.
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Now that you’ve determined you isolate when you drink, make new sober friends and get out and enjoy life. Sobriety has opened so many doors for me. I no longer have to worry about getting behind the wheel after having a few at home. I actually go out with new sober friends and enjoy a nice meal in a restaurant without constantly thinking I have to leave before the liquor store closes. Living in the solution rather than the problem has changed my whole outlook on life.
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Actually, i drank because i was isolated. I dont think you understood what i was saying. I started drinking so i could make friends because i didnt have any.
My apologies, I don’t understand. Why not make sober friends without drinking?
Well before i started drinking, i didnt have any friends…i tried being friends with so many different types of people and it kept not working out.
Have you considered going to women AA,meetings? There’s some pretty amazing ladies in those meetings that understand what we’re going through. Not only are they great supporters in sobriety, they’re very authentic friends.
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The AA meetings around here are all Christian based.
Well that sucks! Maybe look into others programs in your area like SMART recovery or Refuge recovery. I’ve heard others on here mention they’ve made friends with ladies that go to The Luckiest Club. Unfortunately, I don’t have those in my area but I’ve built up a great network of good female friends at AA. You could also try looking up sober hiking clubs if you like to get out in nature.
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I would be drinking from the minute I woke up until the minute I went to sleep I’m sure at some point someone else was there, if they had drugs or alcohol they were relevant if not they were an inconvenience.
Now I’m sober I’m the inconvenience, I’m that weird person who will talk to strangers 
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No AA meeting should be Christian based. Is that how they are presented or is that your perception? AA is a spiritual program, not a religious one. But they throw “God” around which can be misleading.
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