Any advice on how to deal with the urge to drink ? I’ve hardly been sober a week
They can after a long time, but not right away. Keeping taking it a day at a time. You are doing great…
Hi welcome. Many things, take a cold shower, take a warm bath. Try to focus on something you can see, focus on a lil object or drawing. What can you smell, hear? Taste. Go for a slow walk and just listen to the wind, the way the trees blow, all the cars and just watch the universe… during a urge, you can also think h.a.l.t… and I hungry? Angry? Lonely? Or tired. We are going to experience withdrawal up to about 10 days, things will experience is irritability, head fog, anxiety, sad, happy. The urges to get easier and sobriety is worth it. No it’s not easy, but life will become maneagble again. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time. The urge will pass just try to keep your hands busy.
Also drink lots of water, get lots of rest. Eat some chocolate, and be easy on yourself. I started taking some magnesium pills and men’s vitamins. It helps as well
I found just distraction. For distraction there is so much you can do.
People have cleaned their houses top to bottom in early recovery.
I used to get home from work have something to eat, hit the bath then bed. Most nights spent on here or reading literature.
Unfortunately they last for as long as they do. It helps to rethink how we see alcohol. We need to retrain our brains to think that we aren’t missing anything.
I found accepting where I was and just getting on with what needed doing the best way.
I’ll give it a shot
Recognise them for what they are. It is your addictive desire deceiving you. It tells you that having a drink will be great, it will take you away from your problems, it will find any excuse to tell you it is OK to have a drink. They lie and when you are in between cravings you can see the deceit. But they are transient. I knew when I gave up cigarettes 22 years ago that I was ready when instead of thinking “I’m gasping for a cigarette” I think “I’m having a craving, I wonder how long it will last” I got curious and this is helping me with alcohol. I am more than 5 months sober and get the occasional desire but nothing strong.
Cravings get shorter, they get further apart, they get weaker and it is great that you can label them as just cravings. Go kick their ass.
BTW I relapsed after 2 years before and I wasn’t craving a drink at the time so lack of cravings doesn’t mean it is OK to drink.
That’s all you can do Jacob.
As Piglet says, recognise them for what they are.
Hang around in here as much as you can. It helps pass the time.
Congrats on nearly a week, keep it up.
Urges are just temporary. They will pass
Thank you all for the supporting comments! It’s really helped me, I’ve over come the urge and I’m now aiming to last the weekend
They do go away. Stay sober, keep saying no when you get an urge and it gets better. Relapsing just starts the process over.
That’s great but don’t just aim to last the weekend. Know you will last the weekend because you are strong enough if you believe in yourself and you want it bad enough. You are worth it! This is the point at which you can turn your life around. You have done so well so far. I’m not being patronising (I hope) but lots of us have been there at a critical point and glad we didn’t look back. Don’t throw it away!
For me the first ten days were brutal I was fighting cravings and urges every second I was awake. They got much less intense after that, but drinking was still on the forefront of my mind until that obsession was FINALLY lifted for me at 5 months sober. Get past those first 10 days then it is much more tolerable. You can do this.
Excersise, sleep, yummy food, sleep, excersise, read, sleep, eat, hot tea, tonic water, vitamins.
I would just commit to 24 hrs.
“I will not drink today.”
When it gets tough…
“I will not drink right now.” Then go do a task and recommit. " I will not drink right now." Go have a nap. Etc until you get through your day.
There’s a million tricks of the trade but if all addicts knew the answer to that we wouldn’t be on here now, so read everyone’s advice and then at some point we have to decide how much do we really want sobriety and are we willing to do anything to get it.
Hi Jacob, welcome to the forum.
Reading through the previous responses, the other members here have given some solid advice.
As @Geo stated, the cravings take as long as they take. It sucks but the important thing to remember, they do eventually go away.
Finding ways to fill the downtime was very helpful for me. I picked up new hobbies, read, meditated, went to therapy, and plenty of other things. The steps can be different, you gotta find what works best for you and I encourage you to do so. But the main point is to DO something. Take steps, make plans, set goals, and work towards them. Go as fast or slow as you need to. Just be honest, patient, and kind with yourself on where you’re at. And ask for help when you need it. We all need help from time to time, no shame in it.
Remember you have a safe place to talk. And a community full of caring people who want to see you succeed as badly as you do. Keep shaing and keep coming back.
Nice job on one week! Welcome
For my first 2 weeks it was really hard. Then I ended up getting sick for 3 weeks after from side effects so it changed my mind a bit. Then when my boyfriend relapsed a few weeks back it made me feel some type of way. Like if he could relapse I could to. But then when I said it to myself it sounded so stupid I was able to avoid it. I am not far along, but extremely far at the same time with 86 dyas! I haven’t had a “craving” in over a month now, but sometimes I have the thought of drinking and my mind will obsess about it. Just take it day by day & keep reaching out. You are not alone.
Guys thank you so much !!! Really helped and I couldn’t of done it without you. This is the 1st Saturday I spent without a drink since I remember myself. Thank you so much ! I feel great.