Everytime my ex and I would drink, he’d do terrible things to me such as steal my car or money when I’d pass out. He was even violent toward me under a few circumstances in which the police were involved. He’d get drunk and Cheat as well. I feel my own dependence on alcohol kept me going back. People would ask me why I kept going back to him and I could never answer. I feel I need to gangue my sobriety alone rn. My ex is currently being served a warrant for stealing money from my purse last weekend so I pressed charges. Now he’s threatning me. What are my rights? I plan on staying sober just in case he goes through with his threats which was to call DCF to make phone claims and also threatning to get me fired from my job if I don’t drop charges. What should I do?
Tell him to fuck off…
Kick his ass to the curb and tell him to fuck off…
That was really brave of you! Good for you!
Your local refuge will be able to give you some support and advice.
Have you got a support network - family/ friends who can help?
Keep yourself safe 
Do you have a protection order against him? If not, go to the police and get one.
Keep a written record of all of his contact and of any text or voice messages he has sent you. Report any and all threats as they would be a breach of the protection orders.
Do not engage with him. Google ‘grey rock method’. The less you respond the better. Him seeing you get wound up and reacting will keep him motivated to get under your skin.
Also, here in Australia we have DV Connect, it is a free service that provides advice, support etc for women of dv. Do you have a similar organisation where you live that you can reach out to?
If you’re in the USA, call the Domestic Violence Hotline, they’ll be able to guide you:
1-800-799-7233
You can also text them:
Text “START” to 88788
Abuse is about control. He will try to control you through fear and intimidation. Stay focused on what you’re doing to keep yourself safe and don’t get distracted by his threats.
Don’t engage with him. He wants you to engage. Don’t do it. Focus on you - that’s what matters.
If he says he wants to call DCF, fine. Yes if the children are in care for a bit you may feel worried, I know, but at least you know they’ll be safe while you sort shit out and kick that asshole to the curb. (Child services played a big role in helping David and his wife sort their shit out for example: Drunken Daughter Drama - #3 by CaptAZ - I’m sure there are other people here who benefited from it too.)
All this ‘I’ll call DCF I’ll get you fired’ bullshit is just him trying to use your fears against you, to control you. You just stay focused on your next step - calling the helpline (above) - and don’t get distracted by him making noise. You’re getting what you need and eventually, if you stick with it, you will be free of him.
Take care and keep checking in here if you can 
- Record everything. There are apps that let you record phone calls, and texts are easy to save. In some jurisdictions you may have to inform him the call is being recorded. Knowing that might make him hang up.
- Have a conversation with your boss. You don’t have to give him a lot of personal information, but make him aware there’s a malefactor in your life.
- Most important: contact the local women’s shelter or DCF and be aware of the resources available.
And of course, stay sober. Best of luck to you
I’d file a restraining order and keep it documented if he violates it.
It’s a win win for you. It sets boundaries that neither one of you should break.
He will get into more trouble if he breaks it.