Dry January decision time

SassyRocks · January 30, 2021, 2:20pm

I am so glad your resolve has been strengthened!! I often say that I know exactly what drinking offers me…anxiety, shame, heartache, regrets, hangovers, I could go on and on…but sobriety??? That is a whole brave new world to learn and explore.

I too read This Naked Mind early in sobriety and took so much from it. Her book helped me understand what I was putting my brain and body thru more clearly and helped me move forward in sobriety. I really have enjoyed so many sobriety memoirs and other books on getting and staying sober…a solid part of my journey.

So glad you are here. I will definitely join you for Alcohol Free February!!!

Dazercat · January 30, 2021, 3:17pm

When Jenna speaks or writes I always listen.
She is such a blessing to this place.
@Singtone
@Private50

Singtone · January 30, 2021, 3:19pm

Thank you

Singtone · January 30, 2021, 3:19pm

I know what you mean…

Ray_M_C_Laren · January 30, 2021, 3:30pm

never read the naked mind i suppose its helpfull to some people keep on trucking

Badger · January 30, 2021, 5:11pm

You’ve answered your own question. If someone offers you a drink you have to just say “no thanks,” that’s literally all you have to do. If they push drinks, they are not friends.

SassyRocks · January 30, 2021, 6:36pm

Well, they might still be a friend. Just one who doesn’t really comprehend or understand alcohol issues well. It can take awhile for our friends and family to truly understand alcohol abuse issues, addiction, sobriety, etc.

Singtone · January 31, 2021, 5:10am

Can you give me some recommendations for other books to read, please, Sassy? I love a good recommendation.

Lisa07 · January 31, 2021, 6:05am

Here’s a link with a list of books Sassy recommended.

Singtone · January 31, 2021, 7:45am

Wow. Fantastic. That should keep me going for a bit.

SassyRocks · January 31, 2021, 2:56pm

Thanks for helping @Lisa07!!

@Singtone, plenty of books on my list, tho you will see I trend heavily for female writers.

Singtone · January 31, 2021, 2:57pm

Female works fine for me. Thank you.

Yoda-Stevie · January 31, 2021, 3:19pm

It’s possible when you get to that place where you realize that sobriety equals freedom, and you never want to wear chains again.

Until you find yourself in that place, maybe focus on saying “no” to the drink that matters…the first drink, and leave forever for another day.

Gotno · February 4, 2021, 2:50am

@Yoda-Stevie always knows how to deliver the message in every situation. Brilliant Sir

Singtone · February 4, 2021, 1:01pm

Thanks, folks. To be honest, I’m in a bit of a strange place. I played football (soccer) with some work colleagues this evening and then went to the pub afterwards. I drank water and didn’t think for one second about drinking a beer. In fact, I was looking at my friend’s beer and being disgusted at the thought of drinking it. The strange thing is that I still project forward and think about drinking in the future. I have a week of holiday from work starting tomorrow, which would usually signal 9 days of oblivion. That has been in my mind this week, but the idea of that first drink appals me.

SassyRocks · February 4, 2021, 1:09pm

I can understand having both of those feelings/ worries. For me, keeping my focus on being sober today helps me a lot. I do what I can today.

Singtone · February 28, 2021, 9:53am

Ok. I’m coming to the end of Free February and still going strong. I can’t think of a good name for March. Can you?

Misokatsu · February 28, 2021, 10:52am

Marvelous maintaining March!

Singtone · February 28, 2021, 2:10pm

That’ll do it. Thanks, Flo. That’s the difference between maths teachers and English teachers.

siand · March 3, 2021, 10:10pm

Maverick March.

Cos of being sober in March for no reason at all except for being a badass