How has family life been since becoming sober.
How long did it take for you and your family to have a better relationship?
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Hi, Welcome Mary. My family life is a million times better in sobriety. The key for me though was that I quit drinking for me, not them. If i had to quit for only them I would’ve resented them and it wouldn’t have lasted. Best wishes to you, you can do this.
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It’s been really nice to be more present for them and to not have to keep canceling on them all the time on a Saturday morning when I’m hung over as hell and can’t do anything. I can’t believe I lived so long feeling that way and wasted so much time I can’t get back. But there’s no sense in regret, just learn from it and move on.
Welcome Mary! 
My family life is the best nowadays! My favorite change is that I no longer break promises with my daughter. I can’t count how many times I couldn’t take her some place on the weekends because I was too hungover. She has disabilities and loves to swim and go to the movies. Instead, she’d end up playing video games by herself in her room. Quite a few times she’d say “mommy why are you always sick? You should see a doctor.” What a selfish insidious disease. But we do recover. It’s been 4 years since I’ve pulled the sick card.
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Today is my son’s 38th birthday. My heart is broken because he never spends any time with me. I just want time spent with him. So sad today!! No, I don’t want to drink. I’m just trying to remember what I did that he just doesn’t care.
I do hope today was a better day for you. Our kids, sadly at times are driven by their own self will and can be self centered just as we were. I have to remind myself that I have no control over anything except myself.
Hugs Charlene.
My family life has improved more than i could imagine that im kicking myself that i deluded myself into thinking alcohol wasnt the problem in my life for so long.
It started to get better the very first day i woke up not half cut. I still feel like bambi on ice figuring out relationships family and generally how to adult but improvements will happen sober and not drinking. X
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