Feeling like I should probably hide my face on here...😐

What if someone recognizes me… :flushed:

But then I remembered that I read somewhere once that what you do in the dark always comes to light in the day… So there’s that… :joy:

This could also be a disorder of some kind… Not even sure anymore… :neutral_face::100:

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I admire your confidence that you would.
If you feel good about showing yourself completely, nothing wrong with that.
I myself can’t do that. I am still in that self-shame stage and i don’t wanna put myself in that position as of yet.

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Don’t blame ya a bit… I can understand that and why most people can’t… :100: That’s why I said I probably should hide my face and maybe be a little less open about my life… :flushed: Where I come from though your best off to just put it all out there… If you don’t, everybody else sure will… :100: No leverage… Just freedom here in these parts… :joy: So I’ve come to a point in my life that if those most important to me know the truth, I have zero issue with the rest knowing…:100: One day were all gonna know… :100: They won’t be a bit surprised when I step up LOL!!! They’ll be like oh, I remember that… :joy::joy::joy:

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Dont really care who see my handsome face , nothing to fear keep on trucking

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That’s right Ray… :articulated_lorry::dash::dash::dash::wave::joy::100:

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Sending you all my love hope and strength,you reached out to me when I started 50 days ago now I will too reach out.your a strong women with so much to give ,don’t let things drag you down and if they do for abit remember to get back up and keep on keeping on my friend.xxx

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Welcome back! Just do what is most comfortable for you.

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I was thinking the same but then thought if they see me on here, they’re here too.

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Love you ray :+1::blush:

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if you’ve got it flaunt it. if you haven’t got it act like you have. I’ve met some beautiful women and handsome men but it soon changes when I find what’s inside. Looks like you got it covered though.

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Pretty face! :smile:

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It’s normal to feel that way. You shouldn’t feel any pressure to do so before you feel like you are ready and it is something you want to do. I happen to be comfortable throwing selfies up around here occasionally, and many are not. All a personal choice, not better or worse.

Though many of us use the app to access this forum, I did want to mention that it can also be accessed via a web browser including by people who are not logged into any account, so it is public in that way. Just for everyone’s information.

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Me too. Anyone can see my fine sober ass self and I don’t care , I even want it. If they can reach out to me because they know me. However, sometimes I want my meme-ing identity to remain anonymous because I can be really intense and different than what I show the world irl.

That being said, I get the importance of anonymity because stigma is real. In my experience, in confronting this stigma by saying HEY, IM AN ALCOHOLIC that has a beautiful family, a thriving career and an improving mental health, I hope to smash the stigma and also help others.

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I love this! I take a related approach with (EDIT: photos that show) my self harm scarring. I know not everyone is comfortable, but for myself, I don’t need or want to hide it so I just don’t. I wear the clothes I want. Show people out there that having a self harm history doesn’t mean you aren’t also a normal person, and send the message that my scars do not embody shame, only history.

However, that’s in my everyday life. I do try to keep it off the forum because in the SH case others may find it troublesome.

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While I get this, if this hinders your sobriety to not share, and hurts you to keep it to yourself, I would challenge this. Details can be hard to hear, but even harder to live them. I think the depth of our struggles are not always laid out, because to lay them out is scary and yeah, maybe not always necessary. But in the event I need someone’s input on my struggle , I share and it’s not my responsibility how it’s interpreted. :heart:

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Oh, I mean for photos specifically. My concern is that at a distance and angle that makes it obvious, it might be like someone coming across pictures of their DOC here (I’m not bothered by the phenomenon myself so I don’t understand how it affects people, so I just play it safe because I can easily do so). I haven’t run into a case where I’ve had to not post a photo I wanted to anyways.

When it comes to words, I feel free to share what I have to share.

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I did not know that but I guess if they are checking forums online, they could be in a similar situation to me and were to recognize me I can be there to support them if asked.

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Only thing I got is a bad reputation from a bad choice I made while struggling with issues I didn’t really know how to deal with… :neutral_face::100: Guess I’ve already been through the process of being treated like a sub human by people who didn’t really know me and even some that do… I’ve isolated myself in shame for more than two year’s trying to get better and be better in all thing’s by eliminating distractions from those that will purposely try to keep me there in dark… It’s pretty common to login to almost any social media site and see many people posting selfies and loving themselves for what they look like and all the good in their life… It’s just not too common to see somebody say “I’m me, I’m not real proud of every decision I’ve ever made in my life, but I’ve gotta still be proud of who I am”… Picture included… You just get a different response… :joy::joy::joy: That’s why I love it here!!! People here are not liars… :100:

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Wow Emma FIFTY DAY’S!!! CONGRATULATIONS to you my friend!!! I KNEW you could do it!!! :blush::tada::sparkler: And THANK you so much for remembering me!!! :sparkling_heart: I’m trying so hard but just having a rough time… I know it will get better… Somebody out there is struggling so hard and has it WAY worse… I hate that they do but they do, therefore we gotta get back up and stay strong always… :100:

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Oh ok, I didn’t get that :heart:

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