So, i havent been on here in a day or two… Haven’t really been feeling that well physically/mentally. I’ve been feeling very unappreciated. Yesterday, i kind of celebrated a small victory of 7 days clean and sober from everything, one whole week. But, soon as i established a sense of accomplishment, i had this voice in my head say " 7 days? Thats pathetic… thats the longest you have been clean in 2023, way to go junkie "… i tried very hard to ignore the stupid voice but it got louder and louder until i was no long happy at all about my 7 days clean.
Im feeling a little selfish too… i feel as if my boyfriend didnt really make that big of a deal about the 7 days as i thought he would. I didn’t even recieve like a sweet little congratulation text or anything. Idk what i was expecting, nothing really… cause i know now its nothing special right? I guess i was just expecting him to care just a little more because before i heard that voice i was really proud of myself. I have to take a drug test today for my doctor office and its the first drug test i will be able to pass in 2023. I thought that was a pretty big deal. Maybe i dont need to be as selfish, ya know. I have put my family thru alot, i should be grateful they are even still by my side supporting me thru my battles. Im going to head over to the gratitude thread, maybe if i list the things im grateful for. That will help me a little…
Am i being selfish for wanting to be celebrated a tad bit more? I am a people pleaser and when i get praised or complimented for doing a good job or whatever, like it ignites my soul. I live for that shit.
Ah. I know this little stupid voice. I have it too. He is with me all the time… He’s so annoying, I swear.
1 week is already a big thing! I’m so proud of you. I believe it’s now hard for you, but trust me, you’re not alone in it. Keep going.
So sorry that your boyfriend didn’t seem as a big deal with 1 week being clean. Did he survived something similar like you? If not, maybe he doesn’t understand how it is. I would explain to him what does it mean for me.
7 days is a huge accomplishment congratulations. Everyday you go to bed sober is a huge accomplishment IMO. That little voice in your head telling you it’s no big deal is the same one that told you that it was okay to put shit in your body for however long you did. Ignore it. As for being selfish, it’s a selfish disease, you’re gonna have to be a little bit selfish in order to beat it. Don’t worry about people making a big deal out of your sober time, you have to be doing this for yourself or it ain’t gonna matter anyways. Everybody here knows how hard the struggle is day to day. Celebrate every one of your little victories.
Congratulations on 7 days clean. You got this. Just take it one day at a time. I know what you mean about being celebrated. Its hard to stay clean and so many don’t understand that. I wish i could get an im proud of you or a congrats every once in a while but its ok. Im so proud of you for your journey and am grateful that you are clean.
Congratulations on your achievement. No, i don’t think you’re wrong for wanting some acknowledgement and support. It shows how hard you’ve worked and how proud you are for your first clean test this year. 7 days can feel like a lifetime, so well done. I’m new on the forum but think you’ve definitely come to the right place as the comments are supportive, people can relate to your situation, recognise your struggles and achievements and boost your confidence by giving you the congratulations you deserve you got this
That is a very huge thing you’ve done! Be proud of yourself, you deserve to be proud. You should feel good sharing your success with your loved ones and your loved ones should be excited for you. If they’re not supportive maybe they’re afraid of you succeeding.
I dont think its silly at all to want a little congratulations on gaining 1 week clean. Recovery is hard work and its nice to know that our loved ones are proud of us. The only downfall is when we have expectations of others to do something bcuz when they dont, we end up getting disappointed and ultimately hurt.
My husband has never congratulated me on my milestones. And i dont expect him to either. We both got clean at the same time but he doesnt have to work at recovery like i do (which can be alot of work). So he doesnt view the milestones as anything special really. I gain that congratulations from those on this forum and honestly some of the most heart warming congratulations have been given to me by good friends on here if u arent able to get that congratulations from those around u, u can always come on here. We know how hard it is and how important those milestones are.
Jessica - it is a huge accomplishment to be 7 days clean and sober!!! YOU are doing amazing - this is by far the hardest period. The beginning 1 day thru first 30 is the worst! You’ve gotten through the thick of it. Do this for you and congratulate yourself. Put your time sober on the How many days are y’all sober and / or Screenshot Your Clean time.”I’ll go first” threads — We will all praise your accomplishments.
I know that when you feel like shit the last thing your addict brain want you to do is get help (it rather see you succumb to the disease) so you stay away from this community or your other support systems. Do know that this is the time you need the community and your support systems the most. Force yourself to log on even if its just to say hi in your daily check in’s or do some daily gratitude. I can’t tell you how much being here has saved my life.
I’m sorry that you did not get the congratulations you were expecting from your boyfriend. For those that are not fighting addiction(s) or for those that are able to leave addiction without the same struggle then they don’t understand how big this is. I proudly say that I’ve hit such and such milestone to my family members and tell them that it was a hard road so far and I’m celebrating this milestone by doing xyz. I don’t wait for them to say congrats as I’m doing this for me and i want them to know i’ve accomplished something and i am rewarding myself for that accomplishment. Nothing big - a dinner, movie, jewelry…etc.
I hope you are able to celebrate this 7 day milestone and be proud of yourself. You’ve made it another day sober!!!
I can absolutely 100% tell you that you need to be selfish. Get that this is about you. If those around you aren’t willing to support you, give you the encouragement that you need deserve, then I would suggest you search out those that will. But being selfish, particularly at the early stages of recovery is a good thing. We have to be 100% honest with ourselves or we’re going to compromise how we truly feel about the situation, the person, etc. The skin lead to relapse quicker than you can say relapse.
I promise you will feel better, but do not put yourself down or allow that little voice convince you otherwise. You be you and do not feel bad about it. In least be selfish with your sobriety. You never know who’s out there. Looking to steal it from you.
Stay strong
7 days is huge for people that struggle with addiction. We celebrate you each and every day, but my gosh, those early days can be minute by minute. Do you have any sober connections in real life? That would most definitely be helpful for you.
Unfortunately, no sober connections. Im looking into attending meetings and hopefully finding me a sponor soon… everyone around me, family included, is all in active addiction of some form.
My boyfriend is my only support system i have and hes never done drugs or anything in his life. He may have a drink on a special occasion but thats it. So, he doesnt understand. He really really tries tho and after i posted this post earlier, i voiced my feelings to him and he made me feel a lot better about it.
I really have to work on my communcation skills as well. I really appreciate everyone who has left supportive comments. Yall are truly a blessing and im grateful for each and everyone of yall!
I’m definitely going to do my best to force myself to log on here at least once daily… every time i get on here feeling some type of way, i am greeted with the most amazing, supportive, and sweet comments and it honeslty makes me feel ten times better than before.
Congratulations to you this touched my soul I have 5 days I am definitely proud of myself I definitely couldn’t sayit a week ago My man insist that I’m not an alcoholic and I just need to drink less I got upset when he said it I explained to him that I want his support more than anyone else and he may need to educate himself He as seen me at my worst like you I’m glad that is is still with me but i also hope he understands that my sobriety is even more important than him Celebrate every chance you get no matter what!!! We got this thanks for sharing this you are awesome and congratulations in advance for day 8
I think, sure it’s OK to be selfish. I know we, rather i am a totally different person. And being a different BETTER person is something to be proud about
you got this 
if u arent able to get that congratulations from those around u, u can always come on here. We know how hard it is and how important those milestones are.
this touched my soul 
