See the problem I have with this is quite simple. Life is so glamorous and fantastic on social media, or that’s what we are lead to believe.
I would sit scrolling on my phone and see all these apparent Happy people. Out boozing having a great time…
“Why ain’t my life like this?”
Well the truth behind those closed curtains is that theirs probably ain’t either, yet from what I’m seeing I would feel I’m missing out. Leading me to going out myself.
Only for this to create more problems. I might of even had a good night (rare) although irrelevant… Because the problem doesn’t stop there.
I live alone so the very next day I would have feelings of depression and anxiety induced by the hang over and your left feeling worse than you was before and this is only if the night was good. Not too mention the amount of money I would’ve spent and the lack of sleep.
See, when I don’t drink or go on social media I feel non of this, not depressed nor anxious. Infact very confident person.
On the other hand the night may of been bad, black out, fights, police etc. We all know how that story goes…
Now stopping drinking is hard enough, but I’ve found it’s harder when pearing over everyone’s “glamorous fb/intsa life.” After deleting this. Everything seems clear, Easier to manage and less of the feeling of missing out.
I’m not saying I’m staying of them forever. But for the short. It defo helps me.
Too much glorification and useless information that you don’t really need to know…
I believe it can take a massive impact on people’s mental health. Especially vulnerable people who maybe suffer already.
I like to think I am a confident out going person but too much time on social media leaves you questioning many things…
For me life is so much more simple with out it.
It most definitely plays a good role in the helping of many things to rid of social media.
It can be a great tool for many for work purposes and keeping in touch with family etc, yet also a mighty trigger for others.
I deleted FB a long time ago and it was definitely the right move for all the reasons you mentioned. I still have an IG account, but I follow only sobriety and dog posters, so it’s all positive. I spend no more than 5 minutes a day on IG.
I deleted social media as one of my first steps to help with my sobriety, and this app is my only form now. I no longer miss it, especially when I see what Facebook does for my friends anxiety levels. I wish you the best on your journey
Good on you!
I’ve gone and deleted my social media as well!
I felt myself taking pictures, solely for the purpose of posting them and the never ending scrolling and messaging people who I never spoke to, while blacked out was a bit of embarrassment.
I figure if someone wants to get ahold of me, they have my actual phone number.
Ha ha, funny you should say about the pics. I had found myself doing that. Sounds sad but true.
Crazy when ya sit back and actually think about it. Why would I do that?!
Oh well, onwards and upwards.
Thank u for sharing this! I appreciate ur insight on this. The only social media thing I have is Facebook. I have thought briefly about deleting it. I dont necessarily have the issue of seeing others partying or drinking etc on my fb as pretty much everyone (at least 90%) on my fb is from 12 step meetings or treatment back home. But I do experience issues occasionslly of drug related posts when my friends back home have relapsed… and if its too much for me I “unfollow” them so I don’t see their posts. BUT… that being said… social media is super bad for me in other senses. I have a huge habit of comparing myself to others (this is related to fitness and health) and actually an even worse habit of comparing my relationship to others relationships. I will get jealous in a way, wishing my hubby and I were more alike (we are opposites in many many ways lol) or wishing we did things together like hiking and stuff. Or when I read my friends husbands compliment them and I would wish that I had that (I cant remember the last time my hubby complimented me or said I was beautiful or whatever). But I have to remember what u said tho… that most everyone always shows the best side of their life on social media. Oh! Or those damn fb memories or old pictures that pop up lol sometimes thats triggering. Ive had fb for a long time and I’ve written things on there years ago that would pop up in a memory and would bring me back to… well a not so great memory. The only really good thing is that I can keep in contact with my family in other provinces and in the states thru fb which is free. So that’s a plus. But ya social media has definitly impacted me. And I do wonder how my life would be… how much more peace I’d have if I wasn’t on fb.
Ur right tho! It is all about how we look at it. If I look at my old posts and see how much I’ve changed, then it’s a good thing but I might try it. I did attempt to try it for 1 day lol and couldn’t get thru the morning without checking it
Also on that, I’m sure you fella still thinks the world of you and that he still adores you. Just sometimes I believe we all get in a rook and kinda forget to implement little compliments etc. We forget about the small things in life which are in actual fact the important things.
Yea I’d say try the fb delete for a week. I reckon that’d help although it’s not for everyone as you say you see family and friends on their. I assume that’s important to you.
Maybe download Skype.
I mean deleting social media ain’t for everyone and it won’t be for ever for me. But it was definitely needed for a little reset as I found it was getting me down.
Thank u Justin! I appreciate u saying that it’s true, we all get into a comfortable place with our partners and ya sometimes things can be forgotten about, not intentionally tho. I know he loves me he’s just not the emotional type.
As far as fb, I could just not go onto fb. They do have the separate fb messenger app which is what I use to keep in contact with family. That’s all i really need honestly. Maybe I will give this a try
Comparing our looks, our financial statuses, and relationships with others is debilitating. It weakens any good we have in our lives, because there’s always someone else who’s got it better. It only takes a second to snap a picture, or a few seconds to type out some bragging or compliments, but what then? There are days, months, and years of life behind what someone posts online. Are they really living that every moment of their lives? Nope. I find that being real is the best way to live.
I deleted Facebook almost 12 years ago, and I’ve never missed it. My family is over 1,500 miles away, and we keep in touch through text, Zoom, Facebook Messenger (which from what I understand, you don’t have to have Facebook to use), other random “non-social media” apps, and good ol’ phone calls.
P.S. My husband and I are total opposites. In our ways of thinking, in our sense of humor, and so much more. We butt heads a LOT. But for whatever reasons, here we are, still together after many years.
Congrats and well done. Lol
I think in all honesty the loudest on fb and Instagram are actually more than likely the loneliest or possibly the ones searching for compliments because truth is they’re not actually happy, yet we all look at that they post and get effected to believe we’re missing out.
Fb is just smoke and mirrors.
Mostly, not all but mostly fake.
Just my opinion.
Agreed! My life is my own and we aren’t friends - you just like my posts and I like yours. No happy birthday texts, no happy thanksgiving calls and no Christmas well wishes. If I don’t cross your mind without a little automated notification, we don’t need to have any communication!
YOU are the mirror image of me and my irresponsible behavior on FB and then living to regret it! I dumped Facebook for the same reasons you did. I wish I could access Marketplace though w/o activating it again!
only to watch funny animals videos 
but I might try it. I did attempt to try it for 1 day lol and couldn’t get thru the morning without checking it 
