Frequently Lonely

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Hey Lance - great job on getting and staying sober for 6+ months!

Have you considered joining meet up’s in your area? I think this is a great way to meet new people and form friendships/ relationships.

Patience is key - i’m sure you will click with your partner when the time is right. Don’t give up hope.


You’ll find it.
Be you, sober, authentic you and You’ll attract the right kind of person :bulb:


I am doing good with my sobriety journey. I do appreciate the help and people on this site who are moving forward in their growth in life w/o alcohol!!! My problem I am sooo— depressed most of the time!! Of course I know that being a heavy drinker before is what killed my brain. No wonder tho, that people give to their urges because they feel sooo— crummy. To know that for years that you will feel this way!! :exploding_head::exploding_head:

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Loneliness is a terrible reason to want to start a relationship. Its setting the stage for a codependency relationship where you are relying on someone to fulfill your life, when in reality you need to learn how to fill that void yourself.

If you are going into a relationship thinking about what you stand to gain rather than about what you can give it’s probably not going to end well.

Honestly judging by your post it seems like you probably aren’t ready. As a person who entered not one, but two, relationships prematurely in my early sobriety I can tell you that you have a lot more to lose than gain.

Work on yourself for a little while longer. Then write out all the things you have to offer a partner. Then write out what you are hoping to get out of a relationship before you start looking. Set some boundaries with yourself and don’t violate them while you’re out there looking.