So crazy to see this, wow 
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Well done, you go girl! What’s it gonna be for the 60-day treat? 
Better believe it! Big congrats Geneva! Hugs.
Lol! I dont even know! 
im still super stoked about my sneakers haha
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Thank you!!
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They are really cool!
I wasn’t going to say anything just because I’m not too experienced… I just started my recovery from a pretty bad sex addiction. I’m only two days in and let me tell you it feels good and awful at the same time. I’m in college to get my vet degree and I work full time as a vet tech so my job can get stressful more times than not. I’d come home and drink and like you I’m small so one glass of anything gets me feeling pretty crazy then from there it turned into finding my next book up or two for the night.
The one thing that has helped me in the past and is helping me now would be working out. After work I go straight to the gym and end up spending 2-3 hours working out then come straight home and drink juice. Lol I’ve thrown out all my alcohol and replaced it with grape juice or apple juice and then I work on my schooling until I’m about to pass out from being so tired.
I just found that making sure I don’t have the time to do things that might trigger me. If I’m working out or putting my phone away to work on my degree there’s no way I can get into my old ways. And honestly just talking about it. I hate talking about my feelings and haven’t truly shared my whole story but I started by saying this is my problem and confiding in my family and close friends about it. I share my location with them and I do daily check ins with them.
Maybe your husband would be a good place to start and just pouring out some of those feelings you may have kept bottled up. Sometimes as women we feel like maybe we’re overreacting about our feelings so finding someone that’s solid is a great thing to use in finding out if your feelings are accurate or over-the-top. I am bipolar so my feelings can be super over-the-top.
I wish you the best and hope your road to recovery is full of insight and love.
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Update!
78 days sober and enjoying a refreshing glass of mango juice at the bar yesterday at brunch 
my friend who I was with was really sweet and asked if I would be ok if she ordered a mimosa and if I was okay if we sat at the bar. Nice to have friends who are accepting/courteous of your sobriety journey 
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Girl-THIS!
It’s funny because we don’t tend to notice sober people around us until after we get sober. All of my friends that i had surrounded myself with always drank and i had some major life events occur that put me in a downward spiral. I just celebrated 4 years on May 28th and while it has been quite a journey full of good and bad- I feel so good and don’t even miss the alcohol anymore.
I think it’s great that your good friend doesn’t drink. Remember your friend- they are getting through life just fine without it. People pressure us and society tells us it’s normal, everyone does it, but this is bs. Like you said before its a sedative. Do we want to go through life asleep?
Keep getting those days girl! And if you fall - thats alright. Just pick yourself up again.
My suggestion, that helped me during sobriety:
- Try to limit alcohol fueled events as best as you can to cut the temptation- until comfortable
- Stay busy and grasp onto your goals: when I got sober I was aimlessly wandering - now I am about to finish my undergraduate degree at a university and apply for a doctorate program! The sky is the limit! Perhaps your clothing booth? Is this something you are passionate about?
- Community. Find your sober community whether it is in person or online. Find it and cleave to it.
Much love to you on your journey!!! Kick some ass!
Liz
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Also, same thing happened to me early on in sobriety with my husband. Hard journey to go through with someone so close. If you can make it through these times I think you guys will have a particularly strong bond. And therapy can work!
Praying for your journey! Keep up the good life!!
Thank you so much! Yeah it’s crazy, because even though she had the Mimosa in front of me I didn’t feel an inkling of wanting to order a drink or trying it I was totally fine with my mango juice and my yummy veggie burrito that I ordered haha but yeah I feel like I’m in a totally better headspace and I can definitely see the difference in myself even while going through a lot of traumatic life events these past couple weeks I’ve been able to just stay sober and on track and I’m really proud of myself for that❤
I just recently got in a car accident where I was an innocent bystander and two cars rammed into me on my driver side door which resulted in a bad sprain in my foot and I’ve been on leave from work the past week today was my first day back. I’m very proud that I didn’t turn to drinking even though this was an emotional past week for me healing
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Good for you! That’s life though. There will always be something hard to deal with - the question is how do we react?? Be proud of yourself and just know that you aren’t alone in this. There are multitudes of us all over the world going through the same feelings, trauma, emotions, and circumstances. We may not know each other but there is a spiritual bond!
Keep on killin it, girl!!
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Feeling very happy about life these days 
started at a new job and getting ready to go in vacation next weekend! Got a new car after my accident for a good deal from a family friend. Foot has healed and things are finally looking up. Super proud of myself for staying sober through it all
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So…not the update you guys will be overjoyed about…currently sitting in a bar…at 149 days.
Reset.
Alot has been weighing on me lately that i have been supressing from my husband, friends, and family. I have been seeing my therapist every other week and opening up, but at the end of the day, its been things ive been afraid to face. I have really high anxiety, and take on helping so many people in my life before helping myself. I constantly feel burnt out, but I supress it with my go-to “girlboss” attitude, posting on socials pictures of all my online sales and in-person shows I vend and try to keep a happy face. Theres alot of pain that lying under surface…a big thing is with my marriage.
I feel most days that I would be better alone. Ive known my husband since college ands been a great 8 yrs together. Hes my best friend. But he started his own clothing resell business (like i have) but hes very dependent on my help bc my phone takes better photos than his. Only problem is, hes very analyical about how the pictures look…which puts alot of stress on me. Each week. When i have all this other stuff going on in my life. I run 2 self businesses and work part time. I make time in my schedule to help him…but sometimes it doesnt feel like enough. Ive addressed these problems with my friends and they all say “he should get a new phone and take his own picutures” easy solution right? Well, ive said this…he gets mad and says he doesnt want to spend the money. So i feel stuck. Today broke it though. We got in huge agruement during picture taking which resulted in him being like “well, i guess i got to do this on my own bc my own wife doesnt want to help me anymore” made me feel horrible.
Drove to the store to get him a phone he was looking at, but he didnt have his parents info since hes on their line to complete the transfer so hes gonna go back tomorrow. When we parked back home, he walked right inside, didnt wait for me. I texted him “im going on a walk” and here i am, i walked to the bar around the corner. Im just…really sad. More sad than i let on. I took my friends advice…and it led to me choosing to relapse to let go of this pain im feeling, even if its temporary. Riding through the emotions like i have been these last 4 months have been so hard. Like. How do sober people do it? I know this isnt how to deal with things, but its what I always known. I debated being put on medication for my anxiety. Maybe thats the problem. Idk.
But yeah, sorry for the relapse to the people who looked up to my journey. Its just inner problems im still trying to sort through. Thanks for reading all this, had to vent to someone while i sit alone…
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Even though I’d rather see you in other circumstances, it’s still good to see you Geneva. I just wish you’d come here before you chose to drink. Maybe we could have talked you out of it. Anyway, what done is done. Time to come back to the good side.
Sorry for you marriage troubles. Sorry for your anxiety. I don’t have advice relation wise. Except the same I have concerning you anxiety: drinking won’t help. As you know. It’s just the way you (and me, and all of us) used to try to deal with life. We’re here because we have learned drinking doesn’t work and doesn’t help.
I can tell you from personal experience my anxiety got worse and worse and worse through my drinking (and smoking). Just by being quit for some amount of time it got a bit better. And what really made it better was therapy. Therapy which I only could do because I was sober. It’s my recovery. You recovery is yours. Find your way.
And finally, if I have learned one thing it is this: we can’t do it alone. When you write:
That’s such a sad image. But very true. Drinking is isolation. Don’t go it alone Geneva. I’m glad you’re here. You’re not alone. Hugs.
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