Gay and straight pornography addiction

Iam a 16 years old guy so it startex at age 13 watching straight porn and at 14 i started getting addicted to watch gay porn also and wanting to have sex (gay or straight) iam actually straight so iam now trying to stop this addiction so i dont become gay

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Good morning,

2 things.

There are TONS of people on here who are battling porn addiction, so I’m hoping you find the support you need. If you use the magnifying glass icon in the top right, you can search for existing threads related to your specific struggle or addiction. Tons of wisdom and advice here on virtually every addiction.

Secondly, and I mean this in the most helpful way possible – perhaps consider therapy. Not just to help with your addiction, but also to maybe help understand and clarify your sexuality. In your teen years there is a lot of questioning and uncertainty that can occur around our identities, including our sexual identities. Experimenting etc can be part of that, which could explain the various types of stuff you’re looking at. But it might not.
However, I want to say that one does not “become gay”, especially as a result of watching gay porn. Just like a gay person cannot “become straight”. I see sexuality as a spectrum, not necessarily black and white, and one is born somewhere on that spectrum – gay, straight, or anywhere in between…and there is absolutely nothing wrong with wherever we fall on that spectrum.

Take care

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OK I’ve got absolutely no idea on this subject but if you are gay you are gay, I don’t think you become gay, that’s like being a bit pregnant. What do I know, I’ll shut up :thinking::zipper_mouth_face:

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This individual is 16 years old. 16.
I understand that 16 is the age of consent in some jurisdictions, but 16 is still a child in many ways.

Discussing the issue with a therapist would likely be a better next step…

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Ok calm down

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I’m very calm, thanks.

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That’s good😁youth of the day😞

I totally agree with TMAC and StellaLuna. Don’t judge yourself, just try to find out more about who you are. You can do it by therapy or other ways. You can also find support. There are so many levels on which you can experience your sexuality, identity. TMAC is right, it is a spectrum, don’t think black and white. About the addiction: I think the question is, that are you concerned about the porn itself or the possibility of not being straight?

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Hi, recovering sex/porn/masturbation addict here:

First, TMAC & StellaLuna are right on, above. Good advice from both of them.

Second, it is very common for people struggling with porn and masturbation to drift into “genres” or scenes that are very, very different from what they intended or expected to be watching. It is also common for this to continue for months or even years - you kind of develop a double identity (which is an experience many addicts go through). It’s not good or bad - but I can reassure you it is very normal.

I will add you to the private thread of men recovering from sex/porn/love addictions & you’ll have a chance to read about some of their recovery experiences.

It’s good that you recognize the problem of porn and are working to try to develop more interpersonal, healthy self-awareness, and eventually, healthy intimacy with other (real) people. Don’t ever give up on yourself. Keep an open mind and be healthy and safe (for you and others), and you can’t go wrong.

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iam concernwd about the possibility of being gay because please i want to be a straight men also i like girls and i soemtimes live ones and i am attracted to girls but the problem is that lately i used to cum on gay porn and i immagine fuckung a boy but how could i stop this attraction to gay porn

bro the porblem is i fall in love with girls and get attracted to them but iam concernwd about the possibility of being gay because please i want to be a straight men also i like girls and i soemtimes love ones and i am attracted to girls but the problem is that lately i used to cum on gay porn and i immagine fuckung a boy but how could i stop this attraction to gay porn

no bro some people could be bisexual not gay and not straight but iam concernwd about the possibility of being gay because please i want to be a straight men also i like girls and i soemtimes live ones and i am attracted to girls but the problem is that lately i used to cum on gay porn and i immagine fuckung a boy but how could i stop this attraction to gay porn

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hi i hope i had a mother like u iam actually arabian which means i cant be gay also iam concernwd about the possibility of being gay because please i want to be a straight men also i like girls and i soemtimes live ones and i am attracted to girls but the problem is that lately i used to cum on gay porn and i immagine fuckung a boy but how could i stop this attraction to gay porn iam sure that iam not gay because i hate loving boys the only thing i have is sexual attraction to fucking boys and girl does that make me gay? and if it does how can i get rid of it please help me

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It not that simple. You would like to know, if you are gay or not, but you can’t have the answer from the outside. Only you know it, the answer, which you are looking for is within you. You can’t force yourself to be straight if you are not one, as you can’t become gay if you’re not. And also: it is a spectrum, you can be anywhere on it. But instead of labeling you should find out more about your honest affections. @Matt wrote, that it can be something completely different from your nature, please read his comment.

No, it doesn’t. The important thing is, if you want to cut porn out of your life, you can do it - start making the changes you need, to make it happen.

Set up some porn blockers on your computer and phone. I downgraded my personal phone to a flip phone. Take some steps to remove your access to porn. That will help you see things more clearly.

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I really can’t advise you on this but I do know if I watch porn I prefer man on women more than women on women but I know I’m not gay. Apart from the bloke out of prison break, he’s got nice eyes :rofl::rofl::rofl:

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same as me i prefer women getting fucked rather than gay but i also cum on gay porn does that make me gay?

just be bi sexual, do whatever you feel comfortable with, the world has changed and life is to short, find another bi sexual partner who understands and you won’t have a problem. If you are ashamed of something then it’s obviously not for you is it.

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iam concerned about the possibilty of being bisexual i want to destroy this possibilty i started by blocking porn and i hope this way works maybe if i stop gay porn i will stop having this 30% addiction

my reiligion doesn allow me to have sex with bi i font have feelings to boys i just have sex attractions to some of them