Hi all I’m going through divorce and I just feel even though I thought I wanted this now I want to go back even though I really don’t and there not sober. And I’ve been sober almost two months but I feel like I’m down and out please help I want a beer
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Sorry for being vague will explain if need be just going through a lot feel like I’ve lost my salvation as well
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Before you pick up ask yourself “what would a beer do to help the situation?”
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Divorce is hard. Alcohol won’t make it any easier.
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Wanting a beer is natural when you’re up against hard feelings. But keep in mind, the feelings won’t kill you. Really they won’t. I’m here to tell you that everything is gonna be alright. You will not drink and you will get to sleep sober tonight. Tomorrow is another day and something new and something good will happen tomorrow.
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Divorce put me here as well. It won’t help.
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One year ago I was in your shoes but only one month sober. I knew that drinking wasnt good for me and going back to my drinking husband wasn’t a good choice either. I was miserable, depressed, and craving some sort of relief. The relief came in time through treatment, therapy (which I still do once per month to this day), and a twelve step program. Today I’m grateful to be over a year clean and sober. Still going through my divorce but I’m no longer miserable not am I the same person I was a year ago. Hang in there and put yourself first and I promise it gets better
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There is alot of people where you are at now, so you are not alone. I’m sorry you are going through a divorce and I don’t wish it on my worst enemy. Stay sober because alcohol will only make it worse, my ex tried using it against me also. Stay busy and try to keep your mind occupied. I know easier said then done. Again I hate you are going through this but your in a great group with great people.
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Thank you so much everyone for your kind words of encouragement I have chosen to stay sober tonight you all are right it will not fix anything
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Nice going @Maverick!
Staying sober is wise. If you got drunk you’d wake up with a hangover, and would still be going through a divorce. I drank almost every night after my mom died. When I woke up the next day she was still gone, and I had a hangover plus a bag full of regret.
I’m coming up on 650 days sober. When I wake up tomorrow, my Ma will still be gone, and that’s OK. My life goes on, and it’s pretty darn good these days. Grief, whether over the death of a marriage or a loved one has its own season, and seasons change.
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I left my wife of 13 years and a week later i stopped drinking got divorced got sober got married again 25 years now had two sons still sober keep on trucking
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I’ve been sober for 4 years and I often feel sad about my life. I just try to remember that I only have two choices now: start drinking again and make it much worse, Or stay sober and stay on a better path. I wish there was a third option – but there isn’t. Sometimes life is about choosing the better of two bad alternatives – that’s what staying sober is for me, to be brutally honest. Just sharing my experience. Sorry you’re feeling bad. So am I. Hope we can both stay sober.
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I’ve been sober 4 years and met a woman in my recovery group. We started dating and it’s been good to date someone who is sober. I guess I choose women like this…over time she has become more and more outspoken about telling me what I should do. Like the old cliché “I met you, I like you, now change.” Last night she really laid into me as we were driving to a meeting, and I finally just asked her if she could please stop because “I am really getting upset.” She didn’t apologize she just got angry. We didn’t really talk after that I just drove her home after the meeting and that was that. So I guess it’s over, right? Any insights would be appreciated.
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I honestly say “good for you”. I’m very sorry that your relationship may be over but WOW…good for you for standing up for yourself. And you’re right. We often focus on all the things we like about each other in the beginning but then start to focus on all the things we don’t like after a while. It often happens that we want the other person to change those things we don’t like rather than accepting them for who they are…good and bad. I think it is fantastic that you are willing to say “this is me, take it or leave it” rather than let another person change you. Feeling like I needed to change to make people like me was part of what drove me to excessive drinking…I never felt like I could live up to everyone’s expectations when ultimately the only person I had to impress was myself!!! It sounds to me like you have grown into a strong and confident person. If you keep being true to yourself you will find the right person. NONE OF US need to settle.
(says the woman struggling daily to accept her own husband…good and bad…but I am trying, and growing)
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Hang in there!
Thank you - truly helpful. I certainly don’t feel confident, but I see your point that I appear to be a bit stronger than I used to be. Thanks again.
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Hi all today has been rough bot going to lie about it feel very isolated and and and alone I miss companionship even though it had its negative moment. Most of the time and alcohol abuse coming up on two months sober is this normal
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If you drink that beer you’ve just given yourself one more thing to piss you off and made all the others seem even worse. Be strong, there may be a day you break but that is NOT TODAY.