How do you all deal with feeling really guilty from drunk driving? I know I need to stop. This is not the first time it’s happened. I have a great job and grad school on the line. I am ashamed that I woke up in the bed without even remembering getting home. I sometimes don’t even believe the drunk version of me is real. How does she do what she does!
I forced myself to read news stories of people who have driven drunk and gotten long prison sentences or have killed themselves. I am frightened now. I am ready to stop doing this. I also need forgiveness.
Yeah take it from me, if you can’t control yourself enough to not drink and drive then quit drinking. Or else you’ll end up like me with 3 dwis and being without a license for 6 years with two little girls you can’t take anywhere, no Independence, can’t take my girls on cute Lil daddy daughter dates. I feel like a damn bum and I’ll let yah know now you will lose it all. It’s not a joke now day when you get a dwi. The interlock device is a couple Grand to have installed, you end up with a couple Grand in fines. It sucks
I know that I did alot of drunk driving. I never got a dui but ahould have countless times. I know one time I did about 130 mph. So careless.
When I first got sober I was beating myself up for every mistake I made while drinking. I literally lost sleep over criticizing myself for drunk driving. I have finally jumped into the deep end and have been working my AA program hard. With this I have found that I must forgive myself for all the terrible things I’ve done in life, sober and drunk. Ita really hard but with time the guilt turns into forgiveness.
I hope this helps and that you can continue striving to be the best version of yourself.
This is so hard. And yes, so scary. I think you’re on the right path, for sharing about it here. Don’t let yourself be one of the stories you have read— try your best to let those examples be lesson enough, without creating your own tragic lesson. Praying it gets better and easier for you!
You see? You’re not the only one who has been through this. Some of the people here have experienced DWIs or worse. Reflect on that and use that as fuel to change your ways. It’s not to late. You can do it!
I got a DWI last September, hitting a pole and totalling my car. That was my rock bottom. Thank god I didn’t kill someone. That scared the shit out of me. God gave me a 2nd chance and I knew I had to do whatever it took to get sober. I went to detox, followed by intensive out patient treatment and now I’m continuing my recovery in AA. It’s 9 months since my accident and I’m still feeling guilty. I have another court hearing tomorrow. Letting go of the guilt is a work in progress for me thru the 12 steps…
I suggest you get yourself into a program. The more support you have the better chances you have of staying sober and freeing yourself of the guilt. There’s many programs out there to help you work thru this.
On Friday I drunk drove and hit a car and a wall I have court next month iv never done anything like that before has scared me so much that’s when I realised I had a problem and needed to stop drinking, your not alone everyone makes mistakes look forward not backwards
I got a DUI back in March, but actually am waiting to go to court since mine happened right as covid started and the courts were closed. My situation is a little bit different though bc I don’t know if I’ll be charged for a DUI or an OWI (operating while intoxicated) as I wasn’t driving on the road but rather sitting in my car with the engine running and open alch inside (mind you I was drunk though). Nonetheless, I felt like a piece of shit and guilt and I know the court fees, community service, restricted license are all coming for me. For some reason my drunk self decided to not start driving my car, and I count my blessings each day for that. Just think if you would have killed someone, or yourself? It’s a harsh reality to think about. I know thinking about that gave me more determination to stay sober. Hang in there though, you should hopefully learn NOT to get behind the wheel ever again if you drink, it’s not worth it to do so.
My neice who was 3 years old was killed by her mother drink driving .when you bury a child that shit is real…please stay safe so others can be safe:pray:
I’m assuming that, at this point, you haven’t had any negative effects from your drinking and driving. No accidents? No DUIs??
If that’s the case, say a prayer of thanks for getting you through this so far…because it could change at any second!! Then forgiven yourself and your past. You acted poorly but you now realize how wrong you were.
Then make the changes…starting now. As a brilliant person here states “once you know better you do better” (or something like that). Now you know what you’ve been doing is wrong so NOW you start to do better.
So, what is your goal? Not drinking or not drinking and driving? Once you answer that question you’ll know what you need to do.
Very very sad times it happend about 3 years ago ,she had a drink problem and she drove to her mum and dad’s with her daughter she stopped off on the way bought vodka went up a back rd drank half of it then carried on driving little baby didn’t stand a chance she was brain dead and in a vegatative state so the machines had to be switched off,her funeral was beautiful white horses and carriage she had a prinecess funeral unfortunately she didn’t get a chance to have princess b days.
Poor little angel… I’m tearing up for her…
My brother has been missing since 1981; he was 14 and hitchhiking. I don’t know how my mom went on living. It’s still hard for my sister and I to talk about him without crying.
You stop drinking. You say “no” to the drink that matters…the first drink. You do this every time, so there won’t be a second or third or eighth drink, and you won’t get behind the wheel. If you are sober, you can’t drive drunk. If you are sober, you never have to feel guilty about alcohol ever again.
Same !! Forreal. I thought id be fine until one day I got pulled over and thank God I didn’t hurt anyone or go to jail but it COST SO MUCH MONEY. I got charged with an owi and I got 2 tickets for $861.00 and my licence are suspened for 6 months it cost me alot and now its going to be on my record for 10 years. Its horrible and from now on I plan on never drinking and driving again. I feel like my whole life is ruined and I’m only 25 years old.
You quit drinking… thats a huge part of the reason I need to… i know I get blackout drunk… fight people, say shit i regret also… ive really dug my ass a hole this time too…and on top of it my friend died from a drunk driver hitting him… I guess we will see what I do… I personally have tried to quit drinking a few times and have failed! But we will see… im pretty done making myself miserable… but its only day 2! Ugh… gl in your journey
it cost me alot and now its going to be on my record for 10 years. Its horrible and from now on I plan on never drinking and driving again. I feel like my whole life is ruined and I’m only 25 years old.
