hey there, glad you’ve found the forum, welcome! there’s a lot of support from others with similar experiences on here so you’re in good company.
that’s a thread i encourage everyone new to the forum check out. read it over it’s a great starting point.
the forum has a lot of people going about their recoveries with different approaches. some engage in established programs of recover (smart, aa, etc) and others create their own programs. there’s a lot of people maintaining sobriety and living better lives on this forum and regardless of their individual paths and approaches i think a common factor in the people having success is that they are committing to bettering themselves and staying clean/sober each and every morning.
i’ve seen a number of people turn their lives around and rebuild broken lives/relationships. with consistent effort and time i’m confident you as well. i encourage you to get out of your comfort zone and put the effort into your recovery. in my experience it’s a “you get out what you put in” type situation so give it all you got and the results will come.
again, welcome and check in here often and stay connected 
and congrats on 4 days. that’s bad ass!