Lol. Unfortunately I don’t think I’m qualified to give advice there.
It’s OK I’m sure I’m not going though the menopause just feels like it
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I think I’m approaching midlife crisis with this whole biking thing. Does that count for anything?
My husband said if you have had and ridden a bike before it’s not a midlife crisis, he’s, 41 this Year
It’s been 17 years until this year. And it’s a pedal bike lol
Every bike counts, last time I was on a mountain bike I had 11 "stitches in my leg and haven’t ridden one since, still got the stitches in a jar to date
It’s a dangerous sport lol. I got bonked by a car yesterday
Oh yeah, how did the car fair up
They drove away lol.
Hope you are OK, no fun getting older, jealous of the young generation who have a chance lol
Yeah it was a minor dust up
I cried once. It was horrible. I never want to do that again.
But seriously, a huge part of getting better at getting better, is learning to deal with real. Real living means emotions: experiencing them, AND dealing with others experiencing them.
My last big relapse was a lie. Excuses are lies we tell to ourselves. I said I was grieving. I wasn’t grieving, I was avoiding grieving. If I had the balls to grieve right when my Mom died, to deal with the emotions right then, I wouldn’t have spent the next 11 months drinking. My counter would read 570, instead of 205. I wouldn’t have burned almost a year of living…a year that I can’t get back.
But I can “Live Forward”. I want to feel what I feel, each and every day. Most days, I feel pretty darn good. Some I feel awesome, and yes, some I feel down, tired, sad, angry…but never defeated.
As long as I am sober, I win, regardless of the day I am having, and how I feel about it.
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Right there with you, my friend!
Well this definitely takes me back, who knew that at this point I had one last relapse in me that nearly cost me my kids and my life, from my beginning to now the constant support that I have had from you guys has definitely got me here today, with my own work too 
thank you @Meggers, @BondJaneBond @MoCatt @Yoda-Stevie @Englishd @MandiH
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Could you speak with someone on the phone? To speak.with a friend and shared my temptations and struggles had helped me a lot. Same with prayer. When I am totally alone I pray and I ask for help
This was from June, I’m in a much better place now at 85 days sober, but thank you
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It’s always such a trip to re read these threads. Oh how much we have changed! Glad you’ve pushed past the hardest days. It’s such a treat to see how much you have changed and how much more confidence you have! Well done my friend!
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Oops. I am sorry but I am very happy that you overcome that
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