Welcome @Dr.z 
sounds like you know what you want - that’s a great first step.
In the early days, a lot of it is mental. The mind wants to take shortcuts, because the addiction habit (a shortcut) has been there for so long. It takes accountability and communication and follow up with other people in recovery to make changes here 
Fortunately you’ve got a good group of people here on Talking Sober. There’s loads of good threads with useful info a checkins, like these:
Read around and make yourself at home. Welcome to the club!