I have no idea.
I live in the UK which is largely secular, if I had to align my beliefs with a particular system it would most likely be Buddhism.
I am thinking of getting a 12 step book, got no idea where to start when it comes to finding a sponsor.
You donât have to believe in anything to get a sponsor. I wouldnât deem myself religious at all but I practice the 12 steps. All you have to be is open minded and willing to accept a âhigher powerâ
This can be a rock in your garden if you like 
Go to some online meetings and listen out for ones you feel you would feel with⌠
I donât know what I deem my higher power as but I donât care as it keeps me sober
My AA group as a whole is probably my higher power
Do you go to any meetings? I think if you want to make a connection with a specific person to support you through your recovery, finding a group you gel with would be the way to go. I know some AA groups are still running but lots are online.
As well as AA there is Recovery Dharma and Refuge Recovery (Buddhist inspired) which also have their version of the steps and sponsors (inquiry and mentors). And then there are SMART Recovery groups, which is a CBT inspired approach to recovery. I have also heard about Change Grow Live, but donât know much about them.
Lots of options! Plus lots of online support etc. More at Resources for our recovery
Where you from in the U.K. mate?
North East
I like the north east meetings ,
Donât you ever get nervous about bumping into your boss or something?
If you do you do. You obviously know the same about each other. Itâs not a place to judge âŚwe all struggle and are not perfect humans. The important thing is your taking action against the problem to be a better you. If he is there im sure he has the same goals as you do.
Itâs anonymous, âgossip is damagingââŚyou go for your self and to help others.
As others have suggested, what you and your sponsor believe in shouldnât really matter. The program relies on shared spiritual principles/wisdom but specifically doesnât require a particular faith. (AA Preamble and Tradition 3.)
Iâm a spiritual agnostic but have sponsored those of other faiths.
If it makes you more comfortable though, can just listen for a sponsor you better identify with and ask them for help directly.
There should be websites for AA in your area listing meetings or zooms to attend. Like AA UK:
https://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk/
I am sorry that I donât have any advice to provide. I wish I lived in an area that was accepting of secularism. Unfortunately, Iâm an Atheist living right in the middle of the US Bible Belt, Oklahoma. I assume there could be some groups in Oklahoma for this, but seeking them out would probably require a social media accounts, which I do not have because social media only adds to my stress and anxiety. I do enjoy diversity, so this forum has aided in that respect. However, I would like a place to go that is strictly secular and have thought about starting a group, but unsure where to start. I wonder if a sub group topic could be placed here for secularism?
Weâre more about talking recovery than getting into debates about beliefs. But itâs true, the two sometimes overlap. There are threads about it, especially reconciling various recovery programs with different faiths. (Much as AA specifically states it isnât allied with any belief, the reality doesnât seem to match in all placesâŚ)
You might also like SMART recovery though. Itâs a newer program so not as widespread, but I see it has meetings in Edmond, Oklahoma City, Tulsa, and Duncan that are currently held online!
Refuge Recovery is a secular Buddhist recovery book. There are online and in person meetings. And I like listening to the podcasts .
I like smart recovery too! They use cognitive behavioral therapy tools that I use all the time.
@Eke thanks for the information. I checked out their website. This will be a great outlet for me, but they donât have any meetings currently in Oklahoma City, maybe itâs due to covid.
Ohhhhh, sorry. Youâre right. OK City says âon hiatus.â 