Annnddd i messed up… and went out all weekend!!! Feel awful and i am so angry and upset at myself… how do i move forward from here… in work today and i just dont want anyone to even ask me about my weekend and just struggling not to cry… why do i do this!!!
It happens to all of us. It’s happened to me more times than I can count. All you can do is dust yourself off and move forward. It happened and there is nothing that you can do to change that. Just try to learn from it. Why did you decide to drink? What triggered it? Hopefully those answers can help you to prevent another relapse. Stay strong.
I have been in your shoes plenty of times. Those first few days after a slip can be so awful, I feel for you.
But dust yourself off, and be kind to yourself. You are back on here and you are TRYING. Learn from your mistake, try to pick apart what happened and formulate how you can better prepare for future times where you might be tested. Rome wasn’t built in a day!
You can do this.
I second @TMAC that’s good advice.
I can certainly relate to those feelings at work. My office is filled with people who party all the time, so I know how upsetting those weekend conversattions can be. Stay strong!
Sorry to hear your upset , dont know if a meeting might help get phone numbers and new friends not for everyone but they helped me stay sober this long wish you well
Its a hard one because i had hit a month sober and was so proud of myself… why i would risk everything and my mood has been awesome and i am in the gym working hard all the time!! What does everyone the do those first few days to get through it?
I tried to stay as busy as possible. Going to gym, reading, doing errands, housework, anything but sitting around.
It took me a couple of serious tries before sobriety stuck. I imagine so many have of us have chewed the same dirt your chewing right now. I know I have.
As long as the desire is there, and the willingness to keep trying, you will achieve sobriety.
Get better at getting better each and every day!
Thanks everyone its such a relief to know other people go through this so often… i am going to see an anxiety specialist and im really hoping she can help with ways for me to not want to have a drink
I’ve had to reset my sobriety time plenty too. Unfortunately. But…I think I broke ground when I was able to reach out to other sober people and sort of “tell on myself”. For me, honesty was tough. I liked to sweep things under the rug until I realized I was only cheating myself. I was only as sick as my own secrets. Bless you and you will climb again. I’m only on day 7 and everyone here has truly helped build me back up. To be happy and eventually proud of the progress again.
I got sober in AA. The first 30 days or longer, I did a few concrete things. Read Step 1 from the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions, prayed each morning in thanks for another sober day and asked for direction and strength for the new day, called my sponsor and most times left a message, and planned my day around going to a meeting. For me, the emphasis on a meeting being the keystone of my day, rather than something I fit in if convenient, was a publicly accountable behavior that really changed my thinking.
Other than identifying trigger situations to avoid, I’d leave the analysis of why you drank this weekend or any other time for the future. What will work for you to not drink until you go to bed tonight? Answer that question one day at a time, and follow through. Do not become discouraged! Know that you can change your plan mid-day as long as you stay sober. Leave tomorrow to itself.
Blessings on your house.
I went work yesterday! Which i was jusy glad i didnt miss i have an appointment today with an anxiety specialist which im very mervous about going but i know its important and i have literally just gotten out of bed to go to the gym after reading all of your support messages
You just do. You don’t give up. It’s worth fighting for! And you’re on the road already! Look how many of us have tried multiple times until it stuck…you’re that much closer to long-term sobriety. Don’t lose faith, don’t be discouraged. Surround yourself with support & You. Will. Get. There!!
Failure is part of the process my friend. Just make sure you have a goo d honest look at what happened sonthat you can ally that informantion tonyor sobriety plan moving forward. I’d also suggest joining us in the SMART Recovery group! There are some free worksheets that you may find helpful in mapping out the steps you can take. @anon37742172 will tag in the post you if you ask her