@JazzyS I use to argue with a female coworker and she calls me by phone to discuss some things of the work or my attitude and it’s really difficult for me not loose my patience, I try hard but most of the time I become nuts and afterwards I feel miserable
Oh man – that’s rough.
I’ve been in similar situations and honestly I had to leave the job all together as everyone was causing me distress.
Are you able to talk with someone else or is she part of your particular team?
Can you communicate via emails instead of having to talk with her?
I’m sorry that she is making you feel miserable - remember that you are working on you and she is not worth losing your sobriety over.
It may be helpful to figure out how she triggers you and if you are able to do word or visual associations with those triggers. Ie. Listen to something funny or a nice upbeat song when you have to deal with her so that you are in a happy place.
Also - when she starts arguing, don’t engage. Even if she is in the wrong, just don’t let her push your buttons. Say agreeable things and try to end conversation before it escalates. It will take time to get here fully but gotta start somewhere. She may be the type of person that feeds from an argument 
Day 11 sober and I read the liver begins to heal. I think I hear it shouting Let ye be healed. Have a great day everyone.
@JazzyS thank you for the excellent advices, I hope to follow the words you addresed to me.
She is in my particular team. I am a kind of calm guy and I don’t do too much questions and I am not a planner, but she question almost everything and has the power to put me on my nerves. I know I have to be quiet and not answer back but it’s difficult in the first stages of recovery
Thomas - I can totally understand where you are coming from and how triggering that situation can be. I am sorry that you are having to deal with this woman so closely. It is very difficult to hold your tongue or turn the other cheek as they say especially so early on in recovery. I know i’m still struggling with this – being a Sagittarius I am very head strong 
I have someone close to me with whom I get into conversations that somehow end up making me feel like shit and then we argue (I have in the past year started to just sorta stop listening if you will when the conversation starts to turn) - i’m still listening but not absorbing her words - meaning I’m hearing her but not taking it personally so I don’t feel attacked and therefore don’t need to defend myself.
You are at day 16 my friend — 1/2 way to your 1st 30 – Doing fantastic and making so many changes for the better. Wishing you the best of luck in dealing with this woman.
Day 12 today of no alcohol. I don’t mind so much to look in the mirror. Puffiness and dark circles still a sign of how unhealthy I had become. I really have turned to this website for inspiration and education on what I am going through and what I get to expect in the future days of my sobriety journey.
I just stumbled upon TalkingSober searching for first days of sobriety.
So glad that you found this community and are exploring all that it has to offer.
Sobriety in itself is rewarding but knowing that your health, your energy, stabilizing and feeling your emotions, etc all come from time spent on sobriety --it’s really the best path forward.
Do remember that everyone is different and heals / recovers differently. I’ve had to come to this realization as I would often ask when does such and such symptom go away --The symptom will go away but when is different for everyone… so I just have to be patient and know that I’m doing the best I can and the benefits will show eventually.
Such very good advice. I am in a couple different programs. Also educating myself with as much information as I can handle.
Have a great weekend. Happy Soberness!
1,335 days.
390 days today…countdown to 400
13 days and counting 
Thanks for posting this! Really inspiring 
13 days for me too . Keep thoughts on progress you have made and know tomorrow brings wonderful possibilities you would not be able to recognize if you were not sober. 
Sober Time says 20 days.
Glad I installed that app so I don’t forget or have to do math.
Yass!! Totally on board with that
Im so blessed to be on day 116… im extremely proud of myself, this is the longest ive been clean n sober my whole life and i feel great… almost to my 4 months and omg i NEVER thought in a million years that I would or could EVER get more than 1 day sober qnd look at me now, 116 days and going strong… thank u every1 and hope yall have a blessed weekend…
Im 52 days sober
Good for you. This is great accomplishment.