I need help from other people: I need to learn from people who have walked a recovery path before me and who have built up some sober time. I can’t recover “my way”, because living according to “my way” is what got me in this mess 
I find those people in recovery groups and on Talking Sober. There’s a wide range of recovery groups listed here (along with many books and podcasts): Resources for our recovery
I need to take action. I need to say “I want this”, then I need to go to a meeting, and in between meetings I need to make calls to people in recovery, to check in. Addiction is isolation; recovery is connection.
I need to do healthy self-care: eat healthy food and don’t neglect it (don’t let myself get hungry); deal with my anger in healthy ways (usually by talking with a person in recovery for advice, then following that advice), don’t isolate myself, and get enough sleep (I’ve become a big fan of naps).