Hi
I just joined this community today and managed to resist my urges, very grateful and thanks to those who responded.
I was hoping someone could share some advice/recourses for explaining addiction to your loved ones?
Im trying my best, but its obviously very difficult to explain to someone who has not gone through it, and (in my case) someone who is a very logical person. We all know that logic is not always there when it comes to this..
Thank you
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Honestly, I cant stop once I start and I need to stop to eventually build a better life, relationships and health for myself is absolutely enough and should suffice to get their support.
Your partner is not your focus rn. Nor is justifying anything. Your job rn is to read, educate yourself, engage w others in your position and get to know yourself and your reasons for wanting to escape your life. Build your sobriety tool kit and form healthy habits.
Checking in daily to maintain focus #77
Daily Gratitude, The Air Of Recovery #9
Welcome and good luck!
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I was trying to think of a good response for you. And what @Faugxh said is so well put.
If your partner is willing to learn about addiction there are Al-Anon meetings where your partner can learn about addiction. If you do suggest that I would only tell them once.
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Thanks to the two if you,
I here what you are saying.
Just to clarify, he is very much supportive and amazing but It just hurts me sometimes when he is trying to understand or help in certain situations, and I dont know how to explain it.
Tend to feel so selfish when its all about supporting and helping me, dont want to make him feel like he is not supported as well
But cant help him if I cant help myself.
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It’s a cunning baffling powerful disease.
I’m glad you have such good support. If he wants support he can go to Al-Anon. If I’m focused on someone else. I’m not focused on my sobriety.
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I echo @Faugxh. It is my experience that I work with other AA individuals through attending meetings. Place your focus on yourself and others will see that you are walking the talk. Take time to educate yourself and get a sponsor. Your sponsor will know exactly what it is like to be an addict. Wish you good thoughts in your recovery.
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Hey supporters💗
Was I suprised yesterday…
Was having a really bad day.. nothing happened, did not drink, just went to work and home. But experienced depression and hopelessnes on a next level. Normally, I still have passion for my work (lab technician in clinical trial research), I even lost that..
When I got home, I didn’t know how to explain to my partner how I was feeling. I felt like nothing matters anymore, I don’t matter, being sober is one part but the lack of motivation to actually make all the changes was so overwhelming, I stopped seeing the light.
To my surprise, my Partner spent the whole day researching this disease, reading every article he couldd find to try and understand what I am going through. He was so supportive and patient and I couldn’t believe all the effort he put in. I mean, I have traumatized this man with my behaviour..
My love gave me hope in a state of hopelessnes.
So grateful.. lets take on another day
AND THANK YOU EVERYONE HERE
Hope you all have a blessed day
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Trying to explain to anyone who really wants to know.
That’s a tough way one.
I can relate by describing a child who is told no in a toy store
We know it’s only for the moment but to a child is everything
Then being the grown up, we either leave with the child out of the toy section
or give in.
That’s addiction.
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Today
Tomorrow is a different story
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