Sorry for your loss. The death of a parent is very difficult. I continued drinking and drugging as a way to cope. Now that I’m sober, I know I wasn’t coping at all and never grieved the loss of both of my parents properly. Thankfully, I’ve been able to do so in sobriety.
For me, i came to the conclusion that trying to do this on my own wasn’t working. I finally had to surrender and ask for help. I went to an intensive outpatient program followed by AA. I have to put the same effort into my sobriety as I did into drinking and drugging. That means every single day I do something recovery related. Putting the hard work in has paid off tenfold.
Here’s a link with tips from some of our long time forum members.