My husband was so upset that I came home blackout drunk again that he hit me.
I deserved it I was wasted and acting crazy…I asked him if he feels bad about hitting me and he said no. He said he was so disgusted that I was drunk again. What do i even do here
Has this ever haplened to anyone else
Okay I’ve been drunk before and hit my boyfriend. And that made me feel like a pile of shit. At the moment I’m single and trying to work on myself because I obviously have anger issues and problems with anxiety and depression. I’m on the road to fixing that. I’m not perfect. I know its a long road ahead. But I’ll keep doing what I’m doing.
That being said, he should not have hit you! What he should have done is put you in bed and talk about it in the morning how your drinking affects him. I repeat, he should not have hit you!
I mean how crazy were you acting exactly? Maybe instead of hitting you he should have tried to get out of your way? Leave you alone to sober up? I don’t know but I know him hitting a drunk girl is wrong.
Umm, you don’t ever deserve it. Ever. I mean ever. Not to sound mean but your husband is a fuckin pussy. I’d beat the ever living piss out of him if given the chance.
Seriously that is just never okay.
I forgot to add to divorce the piece of shit and take all his stuff.
I Don’t tolerate a man hits a woman . Whatever u may have done !! So sorry u did go trough that . Abuse thats just wrong. I hope u are ok and safe
yh my partner did that to me when I was drunk. I had a black eye for 3 weeks and the blood vessels had burst, I looked like a monster. But I was admittedly being an arsehole. Its not right, but I forgave him as I have been abusive in the past.And he did apologize . Your husband should apologise too, as this kind of thing isn’t easily swept under the rug. You’ll end up feeling very angry towards him if he doesnt, and anger isn’t good for sobriety. Explain to him that you’re sorry u acted the way u did, but he’s totally out of order. A man should never hit a woman, especially a drunk one . Don’t let him get away with it.
It’s really of context.
I don’t know any of the factors… How and where he hit you.
He could have just called the police, and let them sort it out. I know I’ve ran my mouth and just wouldn’t go to bed blackout drunk. It’s a disgusting site. I’m not minimalizing it. It’s not ok. Sometimes we make our significant others act in ways they never would if we were sober.
The emotional distraught , chaos and destruction I caused loved ones while drunk is beyond sober comprehension.
Its not right at all : to hit a woman for whatever that reason is so so so very wrong . He should be on his knees.
In here we protect our wimmen !! With whatever it takes
Did you ask him what you did to make him do it? That’s missing in the story. I don’t condone hitting either way either but I could be downright vicious and nasty when i was drunk.
It’s not at all right! I didn’t say that.
I’m just saying I’ve been punched for saying and doing things that wasn’t ok. I deserved it… I’d rather be punched than thrown in the back of police car.
Maybe it was… we don’t know.
Man or Woman, being negatively physical with one another is never the answer.
Agreed, drunk people do stupid things…
I got physical with my ex one time. I felt so ashamed of myself. BUT! That’s why I want to stop drinking and get to the source of my problems. I use it as motivation to change and grow. I don’t like the person I am when I’m drunk and its not me!
But sigh hard lesson learned. I know it will get better. And I’ll be better and stronger for it!
It’s not right, but do you think it would have happened had you not been drunk? Was it an out of nowhere hit because you were drunk? Was there something more to it that made it happen? I ask because typically someone is sorry for hitting anyone, let alone, their significant other.
So when I was practicing law I did a lot of work in the domestic violence field. This is not a gray area. It’s wrong period. And it’s rarely just once. You don’t blame a rape victim because she wore a short skirt. And if you do it’s time to crawl out of the 1950s asshole. She didn’t deserve it. I don’t care what she was doing short of holding a gun to his head.
I bet everyone of us has put ourselves in altercation with loved ones, that would had never occurred sober.
Rather we hit or they hit first. I’m not condoning the behavior. Alcohol has a lot of emotional and negative effects on all of us, I haven’t found an exception or place where alcohol made a positive long term influence in my life.
Drunk or not I’ve never hit a female. But I’ve said some things that caused a punch or the police to be called.
Has he ever hit you before?
My first husband started out hitting me when I was drunk, I would hit him back. He progressed to hitting me when I wasn’t drunk and I no longer fought back. It got worse and did not end well.
Only you know how your husband truly treats you. There is NEVER an excuse for getting physically abusive, it does not matter if you were out of control drunk. He could lock you in a room and or call the cops on you. There is NO EXCUSE for physical violence. The fact that he is not remorseful is also troubling.
In my opinion, therapy for the two of you would be a good start.
If he continues to hit you, please contact the National Domestic Abuse Hotline in the U.S.
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
1-800-787-3224 (TDD)
Define “wasted and acting crazy”. Were you a danger to him or children that would legitimately require physical force, and was that force proportional to what you were doing?
See, that’s the question. Saying “it’s never ok to hit a drunk woman” doesn’t hold up when the drunk woman is in the midst of beating a child, or pounces on a sleeping man who was defenseless at tge time of the attack.
Not trying to defend his actions here. If he hit you out of anger and frustration, or “crazy” means you were obnoxious and damaging property, then there is no justification. It’s an assault with disparity of force, against someone who is impaired. 100% wrong.