Thank you for sharing that
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What would he be like now if you had fallen backwards and smashed ya head where it may have left you paralised. But. Without sounding like a dick or agreeing that its right in ANY way. Sometimes it is the SHORT SHARP SHOCK that can put a stop to things before they get any worse or dangerous for everyone. I spent my whole childhood watching my own mother beat the living sht out of my kind hearted and hard working father. And when I was a kid. I can remember thinking. Why dosnt he just put her on her arse to stop her. If he had of. The police would ONLY have arrested him. My mother go away with it for absoloutly YEARS. if a man had done the same things my mother did hed be in prison for a very long time.
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Ive been in this situation before. Ive been beat by toxicated women. Sometimes u have to defend yourself with force woman or not. Have u watched females in mma would kick an avg guys ass no problem and wiegh half as much. Dont underestimate a womans strength…
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Basically I was suspicious that he was making women online (which as been an issue in the past). Looking back I know he wasnt but I was drunk and really thought was and wouldn’t let it go. J don’t remember touching him but I remember him slapping me in the face and me walkomg away
Does he go to al-anon or find some other way of getting support? The fact that he said he’s NOT sorry sounds like he has built up of a lot of anger inside himself and needs help.
That’s no excuse for hitting you. I’m sorry you’ve been though this and hope you are ok.
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AA and therapy…a good combination.
If he hits you more than once, get the fuck out of there. It does not get better.
Same for men…your lady is beating on you, get the fuck out.
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Nor have I ever struck a woman. Heck, I’ve never spanked my daughter. I did once have to put a woman in an arm-lock. She was drunk and thought I had made an unflattering comment about her (I didn’t. Her boyfriend did) and came at me with a beer mug. I used only the force necessary to gain control to a point where she couldn’t hurt me, nor could she continue to a point where she could be injured. Cops agreed that the force was appropriate. So did the bartender, the waitress, and her long suffering boyfriend.
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Ok. No excuse for his behavior.
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Absolutely putting someone in a hold, sitting on them, locking them in a room, straightjacket them etc is all cool when they are belligerent out of it…you do not have to punch peop!e to subdue them.
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I was in jail with a man whos wive had been drinking over the local park in the sunshine and came home drunk while he was decorating the living room of there house.
She went to attack him and he pushed her away from him. She fell backwards and tripped over a bucket and hit her head on the radiator. And it left her paralised from the kneck down. The guy was an absoloute mess in prison and was serving 5 years. Think about it folks
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Ive been to jail becausea gurl told the cops a lie. I had witnesses that saw most of the argument. So you can go to jail without even touching a gurl. I dont say beat a woman. I usually try to restrain them from hitting me but one time i did get my lip almost bit off from the gurl holding her arms back. None of it is right and a hard situation to be in. Abuse is never okay…by either party
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Men who physically abuse women don’t deserve to be called men. It doesn’t matter what you did its never okay. No matter what, nobody deserves to be abused whether its mental or physical. First they’ll make it seem like you did something wrong so they don’t feel guilty about what they did to you. They can only see the faults of others but are often blind to their own. Stay away from people who don’t feel bad or take responsibility for their actions they’ll always find a way to throw it on you when its them that did you wrong. Stay strong and positive!
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I think we can all agree that violence is a last resort. I, however, understand and believe that there are times where it’s the only answer, but also understand that I will be called to account for it, and better be able to justify it. I don’t see any justification for it in this case.
I train in Krav Maga. One of the reasons I love my gymn/studio is they bring in lawyers who are experts in lawful self-defense to lecture, every 6 mos. What conditions must be present to justify force. This educates the students and also shields the studio from civil liability. Smart if you ask me.
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My Ex attacked me for 4 years before I finally snapped and slapped her arround her face. Iv got 14 police recorded transcripts that ALL document ME making the emergency calls to the police. All of which happened in MY own home. Not hers. And she wasnt arrested once in 4 years. Yet. When i finally retaliated it was in HER new home and I was arrested without question. The Police only arrest the Male to make there own lives easier. And I believe that a lot of women deliberatly antagonise men into hitting them. Because they know the results will ALLWAYS work in there favor. Contriversal but true.
Thank you guys for all the responses…its not like I’m going to tell this to friends or family so I appriciate it
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If he hits you again, without justification, I’d say tell the world. Society still frowns on a real wife-beater.
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He hit someone who was wasted and had no control over themself …so he is in the wrong. To me, that’s unacceptable and pathetic of him. Even worse that it was his wife who he hit. I’ve been blackout drunk or just a mess and my husband has never hit me.
He should have control of himself. I’m sorry you are going through this.
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Yeah…I left out that 5his is the third time this has happened. So embarassed
There will be a time that will end with you no longer being capable of asking for help or advice. He will continue to hurt you. He will continue to tell you that you disgust him. He will continue to be secretely happy that you cannot stay sober. And now I’m going to tell you why, so listen damn closely…
As soon as you get sober, and stay sober, YOU WILL NO LONGER HAVE A CRUTCH AND WILL HAVE TO ADMIT THAT YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN HIM. Id bet my whole bank account that the physical and I’m damn certain mental abuse he commits against you is your catalyst to black out. When you argue you know he cares, right? Fuck that, excuse my bluntness. Hes a pussy and deserves to be fucked in the ass with a large pineapple.
I cannot wait for the day you let sobriety lead you away from that pile of shit. I hope you win this fight. He will never let you heal from alcoholism. I wish it were easier for you to see. I couldnt see it either. Some people are just not good.
PM me anytime.
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There is no excuse to hit a woman unless she is stabbing you to death.
That being said that is a huge red flag.
Idk what your situation is, or the length of your relationship but it is clearly toxic environment.