Hey everyone im new here… im just starting and today’s day one…I told my husband (which he don’t use) that I was fed up and I was finally getting clean..he laughed and said “yea..I dont give you a solid week till you relapse again” gave me Hella motivation! Anyone have any words of encouragement by chance or what you did to stay clean?
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Welcome at talking sober! You found the right place to find support! Becoming sober was the best descision I ever made. Reading around, checking in here when craving and before I picked up, taking it one day at a time, daily gratitude. Those were the things that kept me sober and going. Don’t prove your husband right or wrong. Focus on yourself and become who you want to be. That’s by far more important. 
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That’s exactly what my bestie told me nearly 11 years ago, when I told her I wanted to quit smoking tobacco and weed. I showed her 
. Changed my life. Took me another couple of years to understand I need to quit drinking too ( and all other drugs), but it started there. Never again! Welcome you! Hope you will find this place as helpful as I have, Wishing you all success.
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Maybe try ameeting meet like minded people who will help wish you well
Welcome to the community and your sober journey.
Unfortunately our loved ones can be very skeptical on our determination and willpower as they have most likely witnessed many unsuccessful attempts. I am grateful you are using his words as extra motivation.
You are doing this for you which is awesome. Glad you found this space …the community is filled with members dealing with different stages of sobriety and will be super helpful in your journey. Read around, join in and share when you feel comfortable.
The early days can be rough. Find ways to keep yourself occupied. Lean into support (here or in meetings in real life), change up your routines so you are not linking certain times if the day with drinking. Above all ..just don’t take that first sip. The urges will go away ..they will weaken with time. We are here to help you through…you are not alone.
Join us in the check in thread ..many more members are active there and you will always find help if and when needed 
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Welcome! Glad you are here with us!
I love what @Pandita said,
“Don’t prove your husband right or wrong. Focus on yourself and become who you want to be. That’s by far more important.”
That’s absolutely right!
We’re here for you; you got this! 
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Man im so sorry that he had that reaction but it honestly says a lot more about him than it does about you. The fact that you are trying speaks volumes. It’s ok if it takes time to feel normal or if there are moments or days of doubt, fuck what anyone else thinks. This is for you and you deserve a life of health and freedom and joy, where you glow from the inside out and where you can conquer anything. It is possible and it is possible for you. Wishing you all the luck in the world.
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