Definitely will bro thank you so much
Our society revolves around addiction. Commercialism is everywhere. You gotta stop thinking that weed provides anything positive for you. Have you read anything by Alan Carr?
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No I have to check him out. Thank you
Sorry to butt in your conversation but I quit weed and alcohol while my partner still drinks and used to smoke, I didn’t distance myself from it in fact I embraced it, these were her choices and I have no control over her life choices but what I did have were my life choices and by acceptance that we are all individuals on our own journey I just worried about what I was doing and no one else. Turns out she was actually watching my journey and hasn’t smoked for over a year now either… Don’t be the one who follows the crowd be the one who makes a difference.
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Thank you so much bro that’s rlly helped
Well, at first and for a long while I blamed his drinking on my inability to get sober. It took me time and someone on here suggesting that my drinking was 100% MY responsibility and his drinking was HIS responsibility and not mine. That helped me realize that I control my own choices…no one else’s.
For me, once I really understood that I was the one in control (or not) of my drinking, it was a turning point. Just because someone is drinking near me doesn’t mean I have to drink. It sounds simple, but it wasn’t for me.
So in the early days, I went to bed early A LOT. I would take long baths. Long walks or runs in the evening or attend fitness classes. I DID avoid him when he was drinking at first because it was hard for sure. I would read or watch shows in bed or sleep if possible. I would bake or journal or come on here and read. Walking and running and fitness classes probably helped the most, plus just going in another room.
I definitely did not engage in important discussions when he had been drinking. And I didn’t expect him not to drink. I did ask for zero wine in the house tho and it took awhile, but he finally got that. I would pour out any I found. All the other booze and beer I wasn’t triggered by.
It isn’t easy when you live with a drinker, but he put up with me being a really effed up angry mean asshole for years, so I definitely allow him some grace. He is neither angry, nor mean. He is actually a very kind and caring human and husband with a drinking problem. Of course not every partner is understanding or kind and if he was abusive verbally or physically or an asshole or drinking thru our life savings, it would be a whole other story. But he is none of that.
Idk if any of that helps. Here are some other threads you may find some pearls in
…hope they help.
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The problem is at work my boss and my coworkers smoke and they always offer me but I can’t tell them I have a problem with it.I don’t have the heart to because my boss advocates for it.Im getting better at refusing tho and I think this is the time I officially quit hopefully.
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Thank you so much for writing all that out. It’s definitely gonna be hard but I understand it’s me now and not the other people. Thank you so much
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I would like to get help but I don’t know how to bring it up to my parents again. They knew I quit originally but I relapsed and they don’t know I still do it. I don’t want to be one of those people that everyone knows as the kid who went to rehab because I don’t want to put that image on my family that they raised an addicted son.
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That’s true it does feel good day by when I don’t do it.Thank you so much.I really wanna beat this
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I’ve tried to quit before and failed but today is day one of this time around lol.
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In the words of my dearly deceased best friend
“You do other things besides pack bowls and bongs”. Sounds easy but I know it’s hard. I smoked for 20 years and quitting was a great decision because you will get back your drive and determination. It’s all around me too but I don’t wanna pay money to be tired hungry and lazy. I’ve grown so much since quitting 5 mos ago. Dig your heels in!
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I’ve used weed as a an emotional stabilizer from trauma and for the longest I told myself I couldn’t quit. But I’ve planned to start back in college, and even I know from past experiences that I will not be consistent in school with it. Self reflection is the first and hardest step of it all. You have to realize what you have lost with it. Even though I still struggle daily, but I know my goal to stay focus on what is ahead of me instead of behind me. List all the cons, set a goal, and maintain focus on what is ahead. List the cons, set a goal, stay busy, see a therapist if you have to, and staying away from it always helps! You got this! You just have to believe it yourself!
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Ask to have the urge removed. My urge to drink was mysteriously removed in an instant
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Hi @Anonriety123 and welcome here. You absolutely can quit. I know because we all were where you are now at some point.
What I gather from your posts is that you’re really concerned about other ppl. You put not discomforting them above your need to get sober and in between you and what you NEED to do to get there. Cos there are things you have to do, it doesn’t just fall into your lap. It needs commitment.
To a certain extent you’re hiding behind these other ppls perceived needs. But sobriety is selfish. Put yourself first, don’t use other ppl as excuses for what you can and cannot do. This is your life, your addiction, your job to take care of it. And you can. Give yourself permission.
Best of luck!
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Yes you can!
I relapsed but I’m trying my hardest thanks mN
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We simply keep trying. Many people relapse. Many people start over many times until one day they don’t have to start over again. We will keep supporting you as long as you have a desire to stop and keep talking about it.
Thank you so much this really helped.Day one again so let’s see what happens
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You can quit. I believe in you
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