I dont wanna drink but it would make things so much easier at least i could drink myself calm when i was angry or upset now my mood swings are so bad that its affecting my marriage i dont see how thats a good thing i just wanna cry
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hi! i can relate to feeling this way for sure. would it help to talk about what’s on your mind?
I just get so angry an upset and he gets so mad at me and idk what to do or how to make it better
what are you getting angry and upset about?
being drunk is a bandaid for problems, and feelings that we are gonna have to deal with at some point, no matter how much we bury them.
but, even though that seems scary it doesn’t have to be.
can you talk to your husband about how you’re feeling, that you are trying, and ask for some patience ?
Feeling your pain and confusion.
Mood swings are so hard to control. My ex would call me bipolar and schizophrenic to gaslight his own behaviour.
Please get to a meeting and reach out on zoom, it’s 24/7. I know how tough it is to take the first steps, but you have to take them.
It’s either recovery or hitting rock bottom.
It’s your choice.
Honestly I’ve been weeping for 16 solid hours over triggers. I’ve posted so much here and this community is a great online support forum.
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Im not very good at talking about my feelings and hes not good at listening
That’s unfortunate.
Could you put it in a letter?
Ive never been to a meeting being around people makes me uneasy im so sorry your having a hard time 
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You can try zoom AA, and keep your camera off if you’re uncomfortable!
Meh, I’ll be fine eventually. Let’s focus on how we can support you.
Could you write a letter and leave it on the table whilst you go to a positive safe place (parents, friends), for a couple nights so that he can process what you’re going through, or hopefully write you back so that communication can open up for you?
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I could write a letter idk if hed read it though and im hundreds of miles away from any friends or family… we just moved away a few months ago
Have you got children?
I do i have a 9 year old boy
If not, could you camp somewhere? Just long enough to have a few days under your belt and view things differently?
I’m 4yrs single and have so many toxic traits that I need to unlearn. Thought I’d try again and 4mths in I was belittled and chastised for her past trauma and projected onto me.
Is your child born by your partner? Or is he step father?
Have you spoken to an alcohol therapist or your dr about this?
Hes ours… i haven’t seen any kind of therapist in a few years
So he obviously recognises that you have an issue with alcohol.
Do you think it might be worth talking to him about going camping on your own after seeing your dr, so that the withdrawals aren’t so horrible and your son isn’t exposed to that experience?
Make a plan to go to AA meetings on a schedule that fits your time availability, and link in with ATODS or Drugarm, find a psychologist that works with you, not just the one you’re assigned to. That connection is key to unlocking all the buried shit we don’t want to deal with. It just takes time.
Get a physical calender. Write it down so it’s a conscious part of what you have on today and what your new routine will be. If it’s on paper, your husband will see it and hold you accountable
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It looks like you are early in your sobriety. The wave of emotions and frustrations is normal. Does your partner know you are trying to get sober?
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It would make it easier in the same way peeing your pants would make you warmer on a freezing cold day…you’re warm for a minute or two, but then you’re even colder because you’re wet…and you’re covered in piss.
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