I feel lonely

I got out the hospital after I OD’d and moved to get away from the dealers and fake people but now that I’m here I’m lonely asf and bored. I’m clean which I’m proud of but I’m struggling to find a job here and I don’t have friends so I sit in the house all day and it’s making me fucking depressed and the person I’m talking to is in the city I used to live in and it’s going well but because the distance it’s even harder. It’s too much for my brain trying to be clean and moving after getting out the hospital and being away from everyone I’m close with new surroundings, maybe I’m overthinking but everything at once is just hard and idk how to process my emotions sober I’ve been fucked up for so long

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“Wherever you go, there you are” I guess :slightly_smiling_face:

One of the things I learned in the early days is my addiction made me boring. I even bored myself. Getting sober has helped me make friends and find fun activities. One of my faves is murder mystery dinner parties. It is awesome!

You’ll find stuff you like but first you gotta get to know some people and make some connections that help you keep clean. www.NA.org is good or www.Virtual-NA.org if you wanna do it online. First step is not using, which you’ve already got, but staying clean and getting a recovery going is gonna take a change in mindset, learning to find interests and support in new things, new people.

The other benefit to these new activities and new people is you’ll stop being bored by yourself. It helps you explore the amazing beauty of life. Eventually you’ll get to a point where you won’t feel bored any more :innocent:

Welcome to Talking Sober! :wave:t2:

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It must be challenging to put down roots in a new place while getting sober. But one of the biggest problems people like us have is changing the people, places, and/or things that move us closer to our DOC. Staying clear of friends who are still using can feel isolating, but you will find sober friends. I’m an introvert, so I can’t tell you how (lol).

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Another idea - why not share some of the beauty in nature or neighbourhoods near where you are now? There’s lots of interesting posts here & you can comment and share:

Post your most inspiring photos of nature #4

Do you like food?

Foodies Unite #6 (trigger warning food) ANOTHER ONE BITES THE CRUST!

Music?

Anthem of the Day (Part 3)

Browse around. There’s a million things happening here on TS :innocent:

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What an amazing place to be in life! Sounds like you’ve shed your skin, and being sober and alone must feel very visceral, but I should say, to be young and be less any baggage, it sounds like the start of a winners story to me. Friends come and go, but keep fighting the good fight and your vibe will attract your tribe.

Welcome to the forum.

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That’s cool but geography doesn’t solve the problem unfortunately but helps I suppose. You’re changing alot that’s great so why not change some more. Go to N.A. meetings like was said already. You’ll never be alone in the fellowship. You have alot to adjust too take it a moment at a time. Be open minded, and most importantly willing to take suggestions. There’s awesome peeps here hope you stick around and find what you’re looking for. I seen this recovery meme. “Junkie in a tent saying I’m bored” I’ve been there trust me but it’s much better to be bored clean in you’re own home than under a tarp some fuckin place. Anyways glad you’re alive just keep coming back no matter what happens…oh and the rollercoaster of emotions totally normal. Just reach out we are all in this together much love :v:

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I’d check out the recovery meetings too. I moved to get away from past and it takes time.
Check out parks, library, free classes, exhibits, explore your new city.
Be good to yourself. You’ll find so many interesting things to do as you look around.
Again, be good to yourself!!! :unicorn:

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