Take good care, drop in sometime…I’ll be thinking of you and wishing all the best!
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He has do his own work too and should be going to seek professional help too. It helps that you are but its not very helpful if hes not. There are healthy ways to cope with our problems. Mostly staying present and awareness is key. Which being sober helps this happen under any influence its impossible to do and work on. I have BPD and when i split if i can catch it i can stop myself from doing so. Before knowing i had it i didnt even know what i was doing when i did it. When i didnt in the past it caused all kinds of damage in relationships and i was brutal toward my partner. It helps when u know what ur dealing with and im not too sure if he does. Thats why i said that he should seek some professional help and not just space if he plans on fixing relationships. With bi polar its gonna be hard as you said he triggers u and many times that can cause you to cycle and thats not healthy for you to do and also hard on your partner as hell. Thry say BPD isnt empathetic but thats far from the truth as we will vibe off our partners or “favorite” so when they are sad it also makes myself sad. So ill try to be positive and cheerful in these times and when someone is bi polar they cant help it and have to go thru the motions. Im sure sometimes its hard for him to understand what your feeling or going thru. Communication is key and being open and vulnerable in relationships is hard if there is no trust but to have a working relationship it has to be done. Which im sure him putting you down makes it hard to trust him with your feelings and emotions your dealing with so you hold them in. As for the money thing thats just lil dick energy who the hell cares who makes more in a relationship. Your building together or is how it should be viewed. if he feels he aint making enough or doing enough he needs to take action toward it. not cast blame at u because hes not. Thats not ur problem thats his own shyt to deal with. Alotta people like that act like woe is me and do it to themselves. Only one ever holding us back is ourselves no one else.
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All the best to you Katy, you deserve every opportunity you can get. Best of luck and keep us posted on your journey with yourself and your partner! There’s a lot of ground to cover and lots of different people and places, but one thing’s for sure: it will be a learning journey.
Take care 
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