Hello, I am new here! Today is day 1 of the rest of my life being sober with no alcohol. I keep going 7-10 days without drinking then something happens and there I am drinking. I need tips on pushing through that 11th day and so on.
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Welcome aboard @CWolfe9
If you know thats your trigger point its a great idea to plan for it.
First of all you know it’ll come, so when it does come here check in remind yourself nothings changed and youll be back to day 1 if you drink so you need to ride it out.
Second be prepped, have lots of yummy food and drinks in the house you can enjoy and feed a sugar craving.
Third be accountable to people in real life… someone you can confide in, give your bank card to if you leave the house etc…
Keep reading and posting, you’re not in this alone…
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I have cried all day today, I have terrible anxiety the day after I drink. I’m not a nice person at all. I want to do this for myself. I want to be like I was before 6 years ago. I never drank until I turned 42 years old. I never want to do it again.
I feel so unloved and unworthy. And it just gets me.
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Welcome. This is the place to find the tools to remain sober. You need a plan… Have you considered AA or a recovery group. So many resources online and in person. Stay here read around for what you are looking for.
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Focus on today. Dont worry about forever. Try to identify what help you need to get thru today sober?
I know i would sware off booze but the further i got from my hangover and shame i forgot why i was quitting.
In your misery today right down why you want to be sober. Why dont you want to drink?
Also write down what coping or distractions you can use when a craving comes up.
We can help you make a plan
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I understand.
The worst I ever felt mentally, emotionally was when I was in the depths of alcohol.
Its a depressant and just wreaks havoc.
Getting sober and getting some mental health help will go a long way to helping you love yourself again.
It won’t be a quick fix, but it will be worth the hard work, the alternative is unthinkable. 
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I would like help with that. I am starting therapy tomorrow. I just feel so alone most days and like I’m going through this life alone. Even though I am not. I am totally loved but childhood life creeps in and just hurts me to the core. I am going to start journaling too.
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have you tried meeting if your as busy as i am now days i still get a online one if needed .therapy till this day plays a big part in my routine still if im away for work on travel i still make time for my therapist we do a online meeting and just talk and get whatever it is out and or discuses certain things and till this day 2 years into my sobriety i still make time for my sobriety and doing what ive gotta do for myself its i went out and picked my therapist like i wanted them to have gone down the roads ive been down and really know what its like …its hard work ! in early sobriety i looked it as if i had time to drink i had time to go to a meeting its was simple but its work and what you make of it . focus on short goals one day at a time and its a great journey to take but it cant be rushed !
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No, but I am going to start therapy tomorrow. And possibly go to a celebrate recovery class Wednesday. Also, I wish I would have never had a drink yesterday it was day 8 for me with nothing.
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Welcome CWolf.
It’s ODAAT for me.
One Day AT A Time.
It took me a lot of work. I wanted sobriety really bad. I read a lot on here and learned everything I could about addiction. Being active on here helps me stay sober. And I go to AA meetings now too.
Have a good read around.
Frequently asked questions about sobriety for newcomers
I could never do it alone. I needed support. We are stronger in numbers.
Hope to see you around.
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Welcome @CWolfe9. Gotta put yesterday behind with the guilt and shame. Those 2 will just bring you back to the alcohol. Good step on starting therapy. Wishing the best for you.
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Loads of help out there if you want it wish you well
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@CWolfe9 I would suggest checking out 12 step AA meetings. It’s much easier to stay clean/sober if you have people around you who have been where you are and have made it through. Get a sponsor and start working the 12 steps. We do recover.
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I’m on day 3 which I just revert back to day one instead of trying to make it to 10 days or 30 days. I just think of every day as day 1. Therapy was great yesterday but scary too. I was going to try and get to an AA meeting but the project we had going on took longer then expected. I was a little upset that we didn’t make it back to our side of town in time. Last night I had really bad anxiety and wanted a beer so bad. But I did push through the thoughts and then went to bed. The cycle I have is a trigger that makes anxiety flow through my body that makes me want to grab a beer. But I stayed strong and talked with my husband before bed.
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Each time you decide not to pick up it will get easier and become second nature, it just takes time. I would pray, and ask for the removal of the desire to drink. You can do this but from my experience it’s a LOT easier with support and with a power greater than yourself. For most, that’s God. But it can be any loving, caring power greater than you. Use the universe if you want to, but it helps.
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Today was great until I got triggered. I’m still sober 6 days sipping on my water. But our 30 year old son acts like a fool at times and today it was with his 20 year old sister. When I told him to just chill he text me and said “you’re mad because I put my foot down now go get drunk.” Then he blocked me.
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I think he is badly asking you to show that you can stay sober, and you can do it today, and today tomorrow again, and so on. Feel the energy you get from sobriety, feel also the pain, at the beginning, some pain before the relief. We all have been there and it’s not easy at all, but try at least try, today only, and every today.
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Checking in, today is day 8 for me. Haven’t had any cravings haven’t let any triggers temp me or control my emotions. Just staying busy.
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This is great to see! Let’s keep going together! I was only thinking about you yesterday and wondered how you were doing. I’m so glad you’re here with us 
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That’s my goal. Every day!
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